Giving up the booze

Can I?!!!

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26/08/2012 at 16:53

I can't wait Cinders   Hubby is at the pub and officially bollox'd, he helped his mate move some safes so the mate bought him a pint.  We went over later to see their new puppy, and join them for a bit.  Then bored son arrived and insisted on buying hubby lots of beer for his birthday next Friday as he won't see him that day. I finally dragged him away after 5 pints but he'd promised kc that he'd take her to the local as there's a festival on and they've got a bouncy castle so I've dropped them off but going to drag them out now.....................  Second night in a row that I shall have a pi$$ed, sleeping, snoring old pig in the house then 

26/08/2012 at 17:46

What happened to him cutting down SL?


26/08/2012 at 18:38

Sorry to hear that SL.  If it's any consolation things aren't that great here at the moment either.  19 year old son has been a real strop just lately and didn't treat the house with too much respect whilst we were away.  Got into an argument with him on Friday and he called me a b*tch and laughed in my face.  Haven't spoken since but had words again this afternoon (with hubby supporting me) and he's now walked out with a bag over his shoulder and his oyster card.  I know that he's got his keys with him and am not overly worried as he's left his apple pc and games consoles here.  I just worry so much when he goes out in a strop as he's got a temper on him and I'm scared he'll get hurt.  I thought it would get easier as he grew up but it's certainly not.  He says he's got "problems" but won't talk about them.  He lost his job but turned down 6 weeks work as it "wasn't what he wanted to be doing" - that's all very well but a job's a job.  Just as well I'm not drinking at home otherwise I too could get rat ar*ed

26/08/2012 at 19:03

Oh dear Trigger, I'm sorry but I'm inclined to tell your son to treat you with respect or leave, he's an adult after all and if he did it to anyone else he probably would get thumped.  Sometimes it takes that before they grow up and learn a lesson - sad but true.  

Cinders - I have to tell hubby every now and then that he'll be leaving if he doesn't curb his boozing, I think I'm going to have to tell him again tomorrow - he knows I mean it and will pack his bags and chuck him out.  He did say he'll go to the gp for help if he can't stop, I might have to make him - he's back up to a couple of pints and a bottle of wine every night with more at weekends   So stupid as he's a lovely bloke when he doesn't drink or just has a couple of pints.

Luckily for me hubby has retired to bed so at least I don't have to see him dribbling on the sofa ......... I 

26/08/2012 at 22:18

SL I know exactly what you're saying and agree with you.  Does that sound really awful when it's my own son?  He came back after 3 and a half hours but still hasn't said anything.

I guess we'll both be having conversations in the morning.  Hope your's goes ok.

26/08/2012 at 22:48

Hope both your conversations go ok in the morning.

Trigger, any idea what your son's problems are. Sounds like something bothering him but he can't open up. No excuse though for non respect and treating you like that.  My own brother just can't open up and my mum doesn't know what to do. 

SL, is it time for hubby to go and talk to the GP, doesn't sound like he can deal with things on his own.  What is his reason for drinking so much?

27/08/2012 at 21:43

Trigger, no it doesn't sound awful, I did say something similar to my daughter and she was only 16 at the time.  She kept going out and getting drunk or smoking weed, she was violent to her brother and threatened me, there wasn't a single door in the house that didn't have a hole in it where she'd punched it or thrown something at it.  In the end I said she had to treat us with some respect or leave, I said I'd go to the council with her and we made an appointment.  She said she'd go in on her own and I think she played the 'gay' card, she is gay but we've never had a problem with it but she had a place in the local YMCA hostal within a week!  She hasn't lived with us since but we supported her all the time and she finally got herself together a bit more about a year ago - she's 22 on Thursday!  We got along much much better once she left, it was a steep learning curve for her but she had to do it.

Cinders, I didn't need to have the talk with hubby, he knew he'd overstepped the mark and was on his best behaviour.  I got the lawn mowed, the car filled up with petrol and instead of the pub and a bottle of wine he bought a 4 pack of weak beer from Tesco so is still awake and sober! 

I don't know if I ate a dodgy apricot or something but I've had a terrible upset stomach this afternoon  Either that or it's payback time for the cooked bits I've been eating - I was doing so well today and was going to make a 'raw spaghetti with tomato sauce' for my dinner with my new spiralizer gadget 

How's everyone else been today?

Edited: 27/08/2012 at 21:48
28/08/2012 at 08:33

That must have been really tough SL.  I sincerely hope it doesn't come to that.  There was no conversation yesterday.  He was up when I got back from my run but when I got out of the shower at about 11.30 he'd left the house.  I texted him about 6 to see if he was in for dinner but got a text back saying he was out with his "girlfriend" and so no.  He got home at about 12.30 a.m. this morning.  I think it's her that's at the route of the problem.  He wants it to be a girlfriend/boyfriend thing but she wants it to be just friends.  She's always messing him about - saying she'll meet up with him one time and then letting him down.  If things go well with her he seems happy if not he's stroppy, rude and unbearable.  Heaven help me.

Sorry to hear that you've been unwell - hope that you get better soon.  What's a spiralizer?

Seems like I'm doing nothing but run these days.  6 miles yesterday because I didn't run on Sunday and 5 miles later on today.  These last 3 weeks of training are definitely tough and I'm having to dig deep to stick with it.

Where's everyone else?  Summer hols perhaps?

Hope you're ok Cinders - when do you start your new job?

28/08/2012 at 08:45

Morning all

No running for me - my B12 jab is due tomorrow and I've been struggling just to stay awake 

Trigger -a spiralizer is a great gadget that makes spaghetti, noodles and spirals out of veggies, you can use any hard veggies - cucumber, carrot, beetroot etc,r:4,s:0,i:85&tx=101&ty=111

The suns shining here, hope it is where you are x

28/08/2012 at 09:38


That's a funky bit of kit SL.  Do you cook the veggies after you've shaped them or are they raw? 

How old is your son Trigger?  Sounds like a rough time for all, hope it sorts itself out.

Starting the job of labelling all Thomas' school stuff.  Feeling a bit  about it all.

I start my new job on 17th Sept Trigger.

28/08/2012 at 10:02

Wow, hope things improve Trigger - agree with SL, he needs a dose of reality.  If my 19 year old spoke to me like that I would be hard pushed not to slap him!  Sure things will settle down.  What did your hubby say when he knew you had been called a bitch?

Well done SL on your continued mission for raw!  Like the addict I am, I managed 19 days with out one nibble of failure, and then fell off the wagon completely.  Eating strawberries as I type!

Thomas will love school, and kids just get better with age.  Even 19 year olds can be great!

Starting to have nightmares about going back to school.  I need the order in my life that work gives me, but there is a small part of me that would like to pack a bag and run.  I feel like an adventure that does not involve the kids or hubby.  

28/08/2012 at 11:14

((( HTF ))) Any chance of changing job?

19....we've already whizzed to 4 1/2 already, where does that time go?

28/08/2012 at 11:24

Morning everyone   Been a busy bee doing lots of digging over the lottie at the weekend; loving my new fork that my friend bought for us as a 'thank you for having me to stay' present and it's making getting the horses tail and pesky grass much easier to get out   Once I can work out how to download the bloomin' photos from my phone I'll put a couple up!

Sorry to hear about the problems with your son Trigger   Having no kids myself I don't feel in a postition to advise, can say that in no way would my Mum have tollerated that kind of behaviour from any of us kids.  Much as I have big issues with Mum there is no way in the world I would have spoken to her like that.  Hope you sort things out with him. 

Yes Cinders, the arthritis is from breaking my wrist.  Well, and my arm.  I've snapped my radius in half, dislocating it at the radial head (near the elbow), put a 2" break up the bone in my ulna, minorly fractured the carpels (small bones nearest your hand) and then the last time I stapped both the radius and ulna in two whilst breaking the radius into three pieces near my wrist.   Funnily enough only the last one really hurt when I did it!!  I was off work for six months after the last one and that's also why I gave up being a chef, the hospital said they couldn't be sure it wouldn't give way under the working conditions in a kitchen when you are carrying large pans of things around and that would be dangerous.  As you can see, if I'm doing to do something there are no half measures!!

When do you pick up the car SL?  Can't see what you're getting as they've obviously removed it from their website now! 

So what sort of adventure do you fancy HTF?  Maybe we could run away and do the Inca Trail or something! 

28/08/2012 at 12:28

HTF it was very hard not to slap him I can tell you!

He just keeps on saying he'll "sort things out" and that he "needs space".  Total claptrap - sounds like an excuse to be stroppy.  I've told him this morning that he can't carry on like this and the sooner that he finds a job and moves out then the better since I don't want him making our lives a misery.  He's sat in his room now with the door shut.

Wow TST you certainly don't do things by halves do you!  Am surprised you can still dig over an allotment.

Gosh the spiralizer sounds amazing.

Brilliant sunshine here today - am psyching myself up for the 5 miles - probably go after lunch now - you watch it'll probably chuck it down then

28/08/2012 at 13:43

Silly question 'Cinders, of course I don't cook the veggies, raw 'spaghetti' is really good and somehow you can eat more of it than if you were just munching a cucumber.carrot etc.  

HTF, do you have to work, I'm so skint I have to   Could you give it up and do some voluntary stuff when you fancied it then go adventuring inbetween   How much raw % are you eating now, I've had loads of cooked slip ups but am still doing ok overall.  Are you up for the September challenge too ......................

You might be able to see the car here TST  it's one of the ad sites rather than the place itself.  

I must say you seem somewhat accident prone, all those broken bones, I've cracked some bones in my foot and my finger once but never broken a big bone (and never want to either 

Trigger - there are lots of jobs out there for young people, I;m not saying it's easy but he could get a job if he tried - they just can't be choosy that's all.  My daughter ended up working on the dustbins for a while till she got this job - and she loved it!

All kids can be lovely and horrible - however old they get!  My baby's 22 on Thursday and the miserable old man is 53 on Friday.  We're going to London to do the tourist bit, I've got tickets for the river boat so we'll go by train to Greenwich Pier, travel up the river to the Tower and have a look round there then back on the boat to westminster and take a stroll to Buck Hse. After that we'll see what the day brings and where we fancy going.  We're doing it for kc- we wouldn't bother and hubby would rather spend the day in the pub if he's honest but she's never been to the tower or seen Buckingham Palace etc.  She'll love it

I'm so tired today, I can't wait to get my jab tomorrow and I'm going to ask if I can have them fortnightly 

28/08/2012 at 13:44

You have the patience of a saint trigger - good luck with the run.  Same thing happens to me when I put the washing out!

The time Cinders goes very fast.

TST - can you imagine.  We probably wouldn't get further than the bar at Heathrow, security would be called........

28/08/2012 at 13:57

Crossed posts with you there SL.  

No hubby always tells me to just quit, and finacially we would be okay, but thats lazy, and self centred, and its not like we don't have a mortgage!

Trying to get back on the raw wagon.  Wish we didn't have to eat at all and just take a pill - would be so much easier.  When do you pick the car up?

We are off to London too, on Saturday, we're Off to see The Wizard, the wonderful Wizard of Oz.  Just have to sing that.  Then supper out, before heading home.  Told  the youngest that the flying monkeys used to scare the cr@p out of me when I was a kid, but he looked at me as if I was nuts.

28/08/2012 at 14:42

Lol HTF, the monkeys scared the life out of me too!  Why would it be lazy to stop work if you don't have to do it - lets face it almost half of what you earn goes to the bloody government anyway.  Spend some time being lazy and selfish - why shouldn't you, you've only got one life, no point spending it being miserable   I think we should get on our bikes and cycle somewhere hot, forget airports just bikes and ferries.  I wonder how far we could get (assuming we weren't knackered every day).  I'd still love to do a road trip around Europe, get my camper going and set off - east towards Italy and Greece, west to Spain and Portugal, maybe a trip across the water to Algiers and a pootle round Africa - makes a change from them all coming over here 

ps - the same thing just happened to me when I put the washing out!

28/08/2012 at 15:52

Ooh SL - wouldn't that be lovely.  If we got knackered we could hop on a train!  It would be like running away from home, I may never come back.....



On a sad note of reality, my washing is dry, how boring is that - it is now ironing.

28/08/2012 at 18:22

I fancy buying this, I think it would make a good escape vehicle:

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