Hi All,
i would like some feedback on a non running incident.
A so called friend of mine is a cleaner at one the wetherspoons pubs here in huddersfield. I'm still angry for what he has done.
I have been awarded the new Employment Supporf Allowance. As long as I kkep trying to move forwards looking for work. I am waiting for an interview date with a disability job adviser, and I will bes asking them for help, As they refused me help, both before and after getting my psychology degree. I have also been in treatment for BPD for a year, believe me its intense.
As I stated before, I hope to move forward again in getting my CBT diploma, and get my chartership, so I can practice for myself or NHS or private etc.
Whilst out with my friend he tells me that I am disliked in the pub, because of the benefits that I am on. That he telling me the truth as no one else had dared up till he told me yesterday. That I refuse to work, and that without asking me, had a chat with the manager, told me I can start working there as a cleaner. He didn't ask me he's telling me, I'm fuming!!!!!!
How mwould you all feel if someone told you (afriend not a disability job adviser) tells me whether or not me would take the job. He's backed me into a corner, where he and his friends can say I tried to get him a job and refused.
Dyspraxia is a horrible disability, most manual jobs such as cleaning, and factory work needs speed and cordination. I would not be able to do the jobs in time alloowed, possible missing jobs, or can't get upto speed. The job centre won't even send me for cleaning jobs et, as when I sent them my application form for ESA, I sent all my disability assessments.
24 hours on, I'm still fuming. I'm going to the pub to have a chat with the manager Sunday Morning.
I try to explain my disability, but because it's hidden people can't see it. With PTS
Although people see me as a nice guym, they are so shocked that I lose friends (i have none in the real world), because I'm so agressive when PTS happens. PTS is something I can't control. I'm like a time bomb waiting to verbally explode.
I'm hurting that a friend is trying to force me into a job, that I would struggle with, let alone asking me first.
How would all you feel. I feel that hes set me up for a fall. He has two ther friends on beneift, and I doubt he wouldn't dare speak to them, as he has done to me.
Your viewpoints please. Being kicked out of college twice, is just two examples on how pts affects me.