just read the last page of last night's thread - yes LJ I agree with Hipps. Standing up for yourself doesn't make you popular (although I don't think my inlaws would like me whatever I did) but it does get you some respect. It is noticeable that Thin Spouse's parents don't pi$$ on us as much as the other families, cos we have been firm. And it's not like they are nice about the other daughters in law either.