At what age did you let your childre have/will let your children have

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30/03/2013 at 22:06
Stilts wrote (see)
TV in room no, never. Mobile when eldest went to secondary school (she spent the whole of year 7 reminding us that she was one of only 2 in her year group without one). 
my youngest is 11 and says 'everyone has a phone' i remind her that she doesn't therefore thats not everyone , shes only getting one in september as she knows her sister had one in year 7 - i should have bribed the older one to lie 
LIVERBIRD    pirate
31/03/2013 at 08:32
Facebook has a very clear rule. And that is that you must be at least 13 to have an account. Any younger and your real DOB won't be accepted.
So parents who allow their children to have it are simply teaching them to circumnavigate rules they don't like to suit themselves. It's a dangerous message in my opinion. The rule was brought in to protect children from what is, let's face it......quite a nasty place.
My 14 year old got her account on her 13th birthday and I have a ghost account attached to hers so I can dip in and check on it. I'm not dumb enough to let her be my friend.
My 12 years and 7 months daughter doesn't have Facebook yet. She will probably ask on her 13th birthday. She has a phone and a telly in her room but school is 15 miles away and I wouldn't feel very comfortable with her using a bus and a train without it really. Plus, at her school your phone is ABSOLUTELY a status symbol. If you've not got the 'right' one its the end of the world.
Phones are the new school shoes.
31/03/2013 at 08:55

We have 3 offspring aged 18, 16 and 12. All of the above mentioned gadgets and social network stuff just happened at a natural point in their lives to be honest, and my wife and i have had no trouble with any of it and its kept us up to date with it all as young (41 yo) parents !

My question is what do other parents (and non parents) feel there is to gain by not allowing the young generation these things ? Do these things not define their generation ?

Or is it just our 'old' attitudes that make us think we are right ?

Just to stamp on the 'kids need to be outside' views, all 3 of our children have/do spend most of their time out and about at clubs or sports etc but it doesnt make gadgets and the internet any less important to them.

31/03/2013 at 11:00
I'm a young parent , it may be an old attitude regarding kids out doors , I just don't see why young children need phones at 9 10 yrs old , who are they ringing ? I have friends whose children aged 9 and 10 who have blackberries and iPhones , sure they love them , but I think that defines the parents who provided it. Given half the chance my 11 yr old would have a fancy phone , a lap top for herself , but I think while she's at primary school it's not needed.
31/03/2013 at 11:49
kittenkat wrote (see)

mobile phone, tv in bedroom, email account, facebook account, twitter account etc...

Mobile phone at 9 - this was as a result of my daughter's anxiety after her Uncle died of "sudden adult death" and if we were ever even a minute late to pick her up from anywhere she would go into meltdown. With the 'phone she could contact us and vice versa which was like a security blanket for her. It is very rarely used now so it served it's purpose.

TV in bedroom - no, never. We watch TV together and not very often so this subject has never been raised. 

email/FB/Twitter - later the better. The min age for FB is 13 which she accepts, and she just looks over my shoulder as I use it. Wen she does have an account then we'll try to have her use it where we can see it. 

Nice idea I know....things may change when the hormones hit! 

31/03/2013 at 11:55

I see an advert where the subject declares "I'm addicted to my Iphone".

A situation in which the prospects on losing the phone do not look good.

I'm concerned in a way where gadgets and the like morph from 'handy' to 'important' to 'critical'. Especially where such things require a cash stream to maintain.

Children are being drawn into this 'dependancy' at an increasingly early age. Its not a question of whether having the 'things' are right or wrong but of developing a situation where you cannot exist without them.

 

Edited: 31/03/2013 at 11:56
31/03/2013 at 16:44

Not having kids, I've been trying to keep out of this thread but...

everytime I read the title I see 'At what age did you let your children have children'...

LIVERBIRD    pirate
01/04/2013 at 09:18

Removing eldest Miss LB's iphone is the swiftest way to get her attention and "encourage" her to fall back in line.

It's like corporal punishment with no belt

01/04/2013 at 09:32

an actual conversation with a 16 year old at work recently

"i dont know how you can run for 4 hours... how do you check your phone and stuff?" 

01/04/2013 at 10:33
Marc.S wrote (see)

an actual conversation with a 16 year old at work recently

"i dont know how you can run for 4 hours... how do you check your phone and stuff?" 

Sounds about right for some teenagers. Lol.

Dark Vader    pirate
01/04/2013 at 13:50

My children at the same age as kk (9 and almost 11)..    they both have a lap top but it has parental software that limits their time on the internet.  However, they can use Spotify, Skype and iTunes unlimited.   Neither has a phone but we will give the 11 yr old a phone this summer as she starts secondary school in September.  Only a very small number of her friends have a phone and thus there isn't any peer pressure to get one but it does seem that going to secondary school seems to be the age to get one.  I have a spare iPhone 4 that she can have and she is pleased with that and actually said that she didn't want anything old and embarassing...!

Neither has a tv in their room and we wouldn't allow it either.   Both can watch tv programmes on the lap top in their room but the time comes out of their daily internet allowance and so they tend not to.

FB, Twitter etc..   neither of them are interested in it yet..

 

01/04/2013 at 14:04

I fretted more over TV for their bedrooms than I have done over internet access or phones.

however I'm not one to force them out of bed on a saturday morning, pj's til lunchtime is fine by me so if the younger one wants to watch saturday morning tv from under his duvet thats ok.  but there is no tv after bedtime at night.  I dont have a tv in my bedroom. generally tv viewing is done together, its more fun that way.

02/04/2013 at 09:00

mine are 11 & 15, both have phones, youngest hardly ever uses it, only if she's at swimming/athletics meets without one of us and wants to tell us how she is getting on. Eldest has laptop for schoolwork (amongst other things), youngest has use of either mine or the wife's. No tablets or iphones in this house, and just the one TV (in the lounge).

Interesting that Rickster wrote "They shouldn't even need a mobile if they are under 16. We managed perfectly well without them."
When I was under 16, I agree I managed without one. Similarly my parents, teachers, football & athletics team manager and all adults I knew all managed without a mobile phone, ipad, laptop, home computer, gps, garmin & the internet etc. 
I assume Rickster that you too now manage without any of those?

I do despiar though with the constant checking up on phones...I find it incredibly rude when out with colleagues/business people/friends when they plonk a couple of phones down and are checking it every minute or so. Get a life.

Edited: 02/04/2013 at 09:03
LIVERBIRD    pirate
02/04/2013 at 09:31

I'm guilty of it Dustin! It takes a monumental effort on my part not to check my phone when I'm out. But I'm telling myself it's rude and I'm trying to be better. Nobody ever seems to complain though.

 

Tommygun2    pirate
02/04/2013 at 10:14

My two 10 & 13 have phones and TVs and Internet access but strangely they don't abuse these things. I upgraded their TVs to flat screen ones but now wish I had saved my money as neither of them watch TV in their rooms. It seems that they would rather subject me with the Disney drivel they watch. My son is a confirmed geek and only goes on the Internet to do his home work or play an online game that looks to more technical than fun.

My daughter has made about 15 phone calls in the year she has had the phone(mostly to me) quite a few text, that we do monitor, so again expensive smart phone waste of money. My boy doesn't text or call anyone but love his iPhone for the games.....oh and he has had a phone since leaving primary school as he has asspergers and suffers terribly with anxiety.

Neither have or seem to want FB accounts...yet

03/04/2013 at 12:03
Managing without these things in 'the good old days' (as I did) doesn't mean there's no place for them now. It's a ridiculous statement to make.

We did without most things in society at some point in history, should we halt progress completely?

Tech is here to stay and is only going to get bigger and better, embrace it and accept that it's human nature to develop, evolve and improve.

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