big girls run too!

Princess the only person who decides how you feel about yourself is YOU.

((Princess))

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Just disabling thread as away on hols.

Hi Princess, I was once waiting with the other mother's outside playgroup and this mother was blabbing on about training for the RFL and I said I wasn't doing it I was doing a half marathon the day before and she just looked me up and down as if to say yeh right!

What you have to do is ignore them, the same mother now drops her son off at nursery in the little skimpy hotpants and goes out for a 'run' and I just laugh she is caked in makeup and there is absolutely no way she is going to break out into a sweat and no I am not jealous, I am going to do a marathon and proof it to them you don't have to be 7 stone to do it - although I would like to lose a couple of stones first!

But I agree with what Tang says, but sometimes it can be hard! What are you training for at present or are you just keeping fit?

I feel sorry for people who can only feel good about themselves through putting other people down. It's sad, they must feel really sh!t about themselves to get enjoyment out of belittling others. So when someone does something that's supposed to make me feel insecure I actually feel better about myself. They must feel threatened by me to want to put me down. Therefore I am a better person than them and they know it, there is a certain smugness in knowing that. Once you get that, no-one can bully you or make you feel unworthy.

I went to six different primary schools so was always a target for bullies. But somehow they never tried it more than once cos I already got that. I knew that the simple fact that they were the bully and I wasn't made me superior to them therefore they could never overpower me or make me feel little. If a bully can't have power over you they move onto someone else.

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Thanks TangerineTwirly and Cotty

The reason I feel so 'fat and useless' is down to the ever caring (NOT) consultant at pain management clinic. It was my first appointment as I have problems with the disk in my lower back so haven't been able to run since last year which has been most frustrating. I went to the appointment hoping he would recommend something to get me back to a run/walk stage...oh how wrong I was...he sat there and basically insulted and demoralised me-saying it was self-inflicted, that I clearly had a problem with food and I didnt basically become a 'fat lump' over night (I wouldnt mind but I dont eat sweets/chocolate/fried food). At present I am being treated for depression so you can imagine how this hit me...he hasnt actually done anything to control the pain nor did he want to listen to what I had to say.

FOr the past few months I have been looking for a job and have several 'sorry not on this occassion' letters-he had the gual to sit and say "he doesnt see any reason why I should be at work!"...for most of the appointment I sat fighting tears...hence why I feel so bad about things.

oops should have read "any reason why I shouldn't be at work"

this really has hit me and the person who once felt sexy and vuluptous has disappeared.

tahnks for your kind words...i need support at the moment.

That's awful Princess you have my sympathy, some docs can be totally cold and blunt (they are only human I suppose) and not at all helpful.

Have you tried any other exercises to see if there is anything that doesn't aggravate ur back pain. Cycling or yoga for instance. I know my dad found cycling ok and he has major back probs. I'm lucky I found running helped my back probs.

Unfortunately people who have never been overweight think that people who are must stuff their face with rubbish all day. Not the case, as people who have struggled with their weight know.

It can all become a bit of a viscious circle depression, weight problem, back pain, not exercising and round and round you go. It's finding a way to break the cycle. Have you seen a chiropractor or osteopath for back they can be big help for some people. Good yoga teacher might be able to help too. What treatment have you had for the depression so far and is it helping? Tell me to shove off if I'm being to nosey.

Have you tried doing any voluntary stuff while you're looking for work, it would get you out, give you a bit of socialising and maybe give you a bit of a lift. Make you feel more valuable.

My mum is severely disabled with psioriatic arthritis and she works part-time as a disability advisor for DLA tribunals, pretty good money I believe. She only does about 6 to 8 days a month but gives her her own money that she earned and she meets lots of new work colleauges. Being stuck in the house and not working gives you depression there is no doubt about that. Being busy also takes your mind off pain too.

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I also would go and report that git to the patients ombudsman. There is no reason why he sould get away with demoralising anyone else with his patronising, ignorant and cruel comments. Don't let him off with it!

Well said Ginger!

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Well looks like Marion isn't coming back, she's abandoned us.

Have to say that I only have a stone left to lose til I get to my target weight so I don't suppose I qualify as a big girl any more. Although I'm hardly waif like LOL.

But once you've been a big girl you're always one at heart I think.

How is everyone else getting on.

Are you still out there Princess, have thing got any better for you since last post?

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Hi Tang - I'm still about mainly lurking, have still not managed to shift any weight in fact now up to 12.8. But after 8 months we finally got carpets fitted on Monday and are moving upstairs in our house, so after the in-laws have been up next weekend that is it, I'm going back to WW.

Training wise doing not bad, building up my miles again as have entered the Edinburgh Marathon and if I get hooked there is going to be a Dundee Marathon in August or September.

I don't know what has happened to Marion, I'm sure she hasn't given up. I might try and e-mail her.

Is there anyone else about?

By the way congratulations Tang I think I read on another thread that you are getting married.

Yes Cotty I am, thank you. Good on you for entering the marathon. I'm planning on my 1st half marathon in February. Was decided on going for a marathon next but am waivering now. Might concentrate on speed and try to get 10km time down to under 45mins next instead (current pb is 57 mins). Haven't decided yet.

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Hello everybody, I banjaxed my email so I wasn't getting any alerts to this post being still alive and kicking!

Still a big girl, 13 stoneish to be exact but I am 5'10" so its spread all over in a layer!!

I did my half marathon in September (run/walk) in 2 hours 37 minutes, I was hoping for under 2 40 so I was very pleased.

My marathon is now in 2 weeks (gasp) and the longest run/walk I@ve done is 22 miles on Wednesday past in 4 hours and 20 minutes so I'm on target for my 5:30.

Keep running girls!!

Well done Ginger sound like you're doing fab. I'm 5'7" and 11st so we're probably about same size, although mine tends to gather round my giant backside rather than spread evenly in a layer LOL.

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hello people........ i started this thread back in 2004 while training for RFL, posted for a while... fell away from running and hence posting.

Trained for some more RFL's in 2005/2006, then stopped running until training for the RFL this year from scratch again...... have managed to keep training up through the winter by joining my local jog scotland group and hope that i have finally managed to crack this continual running for pleasure thing! rather than losing all ability and starting from scratch each year for a new RFL!!!

anyone else want to join me resurrecting the thread?

Not sure if this is the best thread to post this question ... I've never used a forum before. I have big chunky thighs and just cannot find a pair of shorts which do not clump together between my legs. My run on Saturday resulted in severe chaffing.

Any suggestions ladies? I really don't wanna spend another summer in tights and cycling shorts are not flattering on my butt I live in Scotland by the way ...

Cheery!

Hi Emma, & welcome.

I have fat thighs and flabby knees. instead of shorts, which ride up, as you've described, I wear capris. They come down to just below the knee and so stop the flab rubbing together. not necessarily as cool as a shorter short might be, but I'd rather not have the chafed skin to deal with.

As for them not looking good, well I'd go for comfort over style any day (I'm one of those people who see a group of young girls on a night out and think that they'll catch their death without a coat!) I should imagine the number of people looking at you and thinking "good on her for getting out" is far higher than the number thinking your bum looks big in that.

If you're really uncomfortable about the tight shorts, you could try a skort, which is a sort of short skirt over the top of lycra shorts. Personally I don't see the point, but if it makes you feel more comfortable, then it might be worth trying. There's all sorts out there, just a case of finding what works for you.

Good luck!

I'm only 5'1 & about 12 stone so I'm no skinny minny but I know how to run & walk 22 miles without stopping for any more than a couple of minutes at a time!

It's only recently that my workmates on the buses have discovered my 'secret life' & some are shocked. They come out with 'oh, YOU run? What, Every two night for 22 miles at a time?'  

Urmmm  yes!

'But you can't because your fat!'

I CAN & I DO, so there! And I'd rather be fat than obnoxious! 

I look at their thin or skinn frames & say 'you are slim, you have a lovely figure (to both male & female) but come on a 22 miler with me & we'll see who is the fittest of us!'

They suddenly decide they urgently need to go on duty or make a cup of tea!

My husband & ex think I'm lovely as I am & my son, slinky, does seven + miles walk at a time but they don't believe him about his walking as he's so slim & slinky, they think he'll break! 

However I do draw a line at shorts & sleeveless running wear. It's sweatshirts & trousers for me at all times while in public even though I run alone in the early hours in the pitch black!