I'd like to think that he would do the same for me.
Not that I would ever put myself in a situation where I have blown close to £10,000 in 8 weeks on drink,Thai prostitutes & gambling.
Years ago I bailed out a friend to the tune of £2.000 or £3,000 when he was about to end up in court in the UK for various debts. He promised to pay back a small amount every month. He never paid me a penny, always had an excuse, and in the end he managed to resent me because he owned me money! Somehow it was all my fault!
My prediction is that this will be the end of your friendship one way or another. Of course that may be a good thing.
Kryten,I am sure you are right & if that does happen @ least I know what to say next time.
Alternatively, you could take the 50% that his dad is offering up, and make off into the sunset......
It is a difficult one - if you don't bail him out then you are saying what - friendship is important but not as important as £1,500. I don't think I'd have done it for many people though BRT - outside of immediate family there's maybe one person I would do it for - just because I would trust him 100% to pay me back.
A friend of mine lent me some money a couple of years back. I paid him back as soon as possible, and was very grateful. I hated doing it, I hated asking, but I think if you're really in a pickle and are totally honest, it can be done without harming the relationship.
I've also lent mates money, bits and bobs, to get them out of trouble (flights, exploding boilers, you know the sort of thing). It does rankle if they forget and you have to chase.
You're a good man BRT, but yes you should have a proper man-to-man chat about his approach to financing holidays.
Re-opening this one ... dare I ask ... how did it turn out?
To cut a very long story short both his family & I sent him the money that he said he needed to get home.
He want mad at 1st after I told him that I had involved his brother & father.
That was the last I heard from him.
Had told his brother that he was on Qantas flight back to the UK 2 weeks ago last this Friday.
Since then despite both his brother & I trying to contact him on multiple occasions we have heard nothing.
I fear the worst if I am honest.
I had a pint with his brother on Tuesday evening and think I have finally persuaded him to report him as missing person to Dyfed Powys Police.
On of three things have happened,
A, He has taken us all for mugs
B,People that he probably owed money to in Thailand have caught up with him
C,He has had a bit of break down & could possibly of topped himself.
B & C are two very strong possibilites.
I do not belive he would mug me or his father off,very very worried for his welfare as I have left message after message telling him we wold report him as missing unless we heard from him & have not heard a dicky bird
Hopefully he got the flight, and is just so pissed off at you all that he's avoiding you.
Hope it all turns out ok.
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