Can I have a rant about people lying please!

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cougie    pirate
08/02/2013 at 17:31
Maybe they were worried about their job - some people might get sacked if they went for other job interviews ?
08/02/2013 at 17:33

It can be a bit awkward though discussing going to interviews with your existing employer.

08/02/2013 at 17:35

Was she holding out for a permanent job with you?  If so she might have felt that going for interviews elsewhere would be seen as lack of commitment to her current job.

Or would it be that she didn't get paid?  As a temp she probably doens't get much in the way of paid holiday, whereas she probably got paid sick leave or at least dental leave.

 

08/02/2013 at 17:49

Maybe you need to be more objective about people's abilities - to others and to yourself. Then maybe you wouldn't feel so let down. Sounds like it would be better if she found another job asap...

08/02/2013 at 17:51

That's nothing. I had a member of staff who told us she was ill just before Christmas. We found out she was doing shifts in her friend's shop for extra money. My ultimate boss went in and confronted her. Sacked.

08/02/2013 at 18:01

Ok, so who hasn't lied to a boss about an interview?  I know that I've never told mine what I needed the time off for.  Generally I took time off work to have furniture delivered

08/02/2013 at 18:01

Sounds like she's gone already...

08/02/2013 at 18:06

Yep, I think interviews are a different matter. Theoretically, not good practice; but in practice...

08/02/2013 at 18:12

That's bad for a teacher. A mate of mine who's from Swansea, who was also a county badminton player, claimed he told his parents he was going to a badminton tournament, only to be shown on TV getting involved in the fighting at that day's Cardiff v Swansea match. I think a bit of embroidering has gone on with that story.

08/02/2013 at 18:20
You need to look out for signs when people are lying. With some people it is when their lips are moving.
08/02/2013 at 18:28
kittenkat wrote (see)

I know what you're saying guys but I really took her under my wing, and defended her to my boss when the boss was seriously concerned with her performance. I've never not been supportive or approachable.

You think she owes you some loyalty - but maybe she doesn't see it that way.   It's understandable you are a bit annoyed if you think she should have trusted you to keep it quiet but it's a fairly small lie and better safe than sorry - if you want to keep something secret then the best policy is to keep it secret - not tell people on condition they don't pass it on.   Sounds like it didn't work anyway.

08/02/2013 at 18:29

I guess lying comes to some people as naturally as drawing breath. The difficulty arises when they assume everyone else is lying as well.

I used to work alongside someone and occasionally told them about my running.

I assumed from their responses that this was just normal chat until one day I showed them the result of a marathon where I was the runner up. 

I was astonished when he said he thought I'd just been making all that running stuff up.

What! for two years!

08/02/2013 at 18:30
Was it because you fancied her KK? That can be disappointing but you shouldn't have fell for her. Keep it professional!
08/02/2013 at 19:16

I generally don't lie to people, but I do think lying when you're going for a job interview elsewhere is pretty much universal, certainly in the private sector. I don't know about the public sector, I guess you're never really going elsewhere, just a different branch.

08/02/2013 at 20:20

I think MikeFrog's right KK, it's one of those odd situations where you can't really win either way. If you tell someone and they won't let you have the time off what then? What if you have to go for several interviews?

A the end of the day, if you are looking for another job it's nobody's business but your own and since job interviews are usually held during workng hours there's not much choice unless you can take a day's holiday. 

 

08/02/2013 at 21:58

A lot of people lie about going for job interviews. It's about the hardest thing to ask for time off for and if the interview is offered at short notice making up a dentist app is probably the most common excuse there is.

I thought employers were legally obliged to let employees have time off to attend interviews.

It's still hard to ask for and if you just want a random day off at short notice without explanation few people are likely to be granted it.

08/02/2013 at 22:16
David Falconer 3 wrote (see)
RicF wrote (see)

I guess lying comes to some people as naturally as drawing breath. The difficulty arises when they assume everyone else is lying as well.

I used to work alongside someone and occasionally told them about my running.

I assumed from their responses that this was just normal chat until one day I showed them the result of a marathon where I was the runner up. 

I was astonished when he said he thought I'd just been making all that running stuff up.

What! for two years!

In all honesty Ric I kinda thought you were bullsh..tting too till somebody messaged me to say you were legit ...........

The proof.

http://s4.runnersworld.co.uk/members/images/493151/gallery/har3.png?width=350

 

 

Edited: 08/02/2013 at 22:23
08/02/2013 at 22:37

Could be the second page for all we know

09/02/2013 at 00:25
popsider wrote (see)

Could be the second page for all we know

I see that he shows the hours, minutes and seconds.... but conveniently cuts off the column that shows the number of days.

09/02/2013 at 05:28

Alas, the result of a poor piece of cropping and re-sizing.

Here's a better version.

http://s3.runnersworld.co.uk/members/images/493151/gallery/mara3.png?width=350

 As for persistence.

That was the first time I'd ever run against Chris (now a club mate) and until January this year, I'd never beaten him.

The RunBritain rankings now has me 'one' whole place ahead, whey hey!

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