Crap at relationships

Tickled Pink wrote (see)

  Do you think she just see's life on the other side of the fence with partner/family as a lot easier?

I honestly think that it has to do with the fact that I became a granny this year - (I'm one year younger than my sister and I've been married for 23 years and we have three nearly grown up children) we're a really close family and the grandbaby has made us really happy - my sister sees us quite a bit and she sees how we are together - I really think she thinks that she's missed her opportunity to have kids and a partner.

I also think it's more the baby thing that unsettles her more than a relationship.  Whole other thread I guess

I wasn't a cat person when I was on my own - chances of getting spliced decline in inverse proportion to number of cats owned.

i think this is one of the first laws of relationships - infallible and provable empirically.

Johnny Blaze wrote (see)

I wasn't a cat person when I was on my own - chances of getting spliced decline in inverse proportion to number of cats owned.

i think this is one of the first laws of relationships - infallible and provable empirically.

Cats "owned" ?

Cats are not owned. They may patronise one's establishment occasionally

gingerfurball wrote (see)

Tickled Pink wrote (see)

  Do you think she just see's life on the other side of the fence with partner/family as a lot easier?

I honestly think that it has to do with the fact that I became a granny this year - (I'm one year younger than my sister and I've been married for 23 years and we have three nearly grown up children) we're a really close family and the grandbaby has made us really happy - my sister sees us quite a bit and she sees how we are together - I really think she thinks that she's missed her opportunity to have kids and a partner.

I also think it's more the baby thing that unsettles her more than a relationship.  Whole other thread I guess

Johnny Blaze wrote (see)

Not the dog in the photo btw - he is an "Anonymous Dog" whose pic I got off the internet.


I thought I should make that clear in case anyone was wondering, which they wouldn't be, obviously.

Hahahahaha!!!

MikeFrog Justgiving.com/MikeforCrisis wrote (see)

Johnny Blaze wrote (see)

I wasn't a cat person when I was on my own - chances of getting spliced decline in inverse proportion to number of cats owned.

i think this is one of the first laws of relationships - infallible and provable empirically.

Cats "owned" ?

Cats are not owned. They may patronise one's establishment occasionally

I'm kind of chuckling at the term "emotional flatliners"...   I'm much more highly strung than my man, but then I could NEVER go out with a male equivalent of myself...! 

The marrying your sister thing totally threw me.  Am I missing something here?  Surely that's illegal?? 

gingerfurball wrote (see)

I wonder if the thing about people who are long term single is if people look at them and wonder what is the deal with them - eg: my sister is 46 and to my knowledge has had a relationship/boyfriend in her whole life.  Up to, I would say, this past year that suited her to the ground....very happily single and child free.

Now however she is desperate for a relationship - desperate for a child - but I wonder if prospective partners would look at her and wonder what is "wrong with her to have not had a relationship before (I'm not sure if I'm articulating this very well....

I can see how that might work but I don't think most men would really worry about that - I could be wrong.   

I know a few people (apart from the guy who lacked confidence I mentioned earlier) who to my knowledge have never had a relationship - or not in the last decade or two anyway - I just assume they are either gay but not out or else they are just asexual .   Though one of them has just got married after meeting a woman at work last year - he's early 50s - never lacked confidence with women and would always joke with them in a flirty way just never seemed to get together with them until now.  

Him and another guy I'm thinking of are/were both really good cyclists putting in easily 300 miles a week and people always joke they are married to the bike.   

I do know one thing - if being single is making you unhappy then you should try and change that - people "generally" like to be around positive people, innit, and if you behave more sunnily then you improve your chances of getting dirty rabbit sex.

Erm, I mean "of having a long term stable relationship".

DRS on the NHS?

I'd buy that for a dollar!

I totally misread the initial post about being in work more than a junior doctor.

But definitely it is better to be single and happy than moaning in a relationship. I do worry I've ruined myself now with years of indulgence of purely my choice!