Crap at relationships

How do i get things sorted

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Lee the Pea    pirate
28/09/2010 at 19:25
Dirty rabbit sex!! Love it Hee hee hee

There is nothing more off putting that someone that is miserable right enough. I'm not miserable in being single I have to say, I'm really happy with my life right now, i'm just slightly gagging for it
28/09/2010 at 20:34
It is hard to meet people though. I've got lots of long term single female friends, I'm a relatively new member of the celibacy and the city gang, and we all go out a lot, aren't miserable or desperate and generally have enjoyable lives. However none of us ever meet single men. One friend is internet dating at the moment and is experiencing the age problem - she's 38 and is attracting men who are approaching 60. I'd rather get a cat...
28/09/2010 at 21:53
As i said it may sound strange but what I miss is doing nothing with someone I've got plenty of friends to keep busy with and have an active life when away from work but I would like the situation to change and have someone a bit more premanent .
28/09/2010 at 21:58

I totally misread the initial post about being in work more than a junior doctor.

But definitely it is better to be single and happy than moaning in a relationship. I do worry I've ruined myself now with years of indulgence of purely my choice! 

Lee the Pea    pirate
28/09/2010 at 22:16
That's not strange Slowfoot. Sometimes it is just about being with so comfortable with someone you can just be with them, and you don't need to be doing anything It's as much about what isn't said or done as what is. Having company when you're just 'living' is nice, and I miss that too.
28/09/2010 at 22:25
Me needs to be with a special person though and they are not always that easy to find

28/09/2010 at 22:46
Yep, just being comfortable enough with someone to do nothing is fab.
28/09/2010 at 23:29
Religion isn't the opiate of the people... it's bleedin Mills and Boon!
29/09/2010 at 00:01

I really have to stop reading this thread just before bedtime - I get all depressed and start feeling sorry for myself and everyone else who's lonely....

I definately support the 'doing nothing' with someone thing..... I miss that too. No matter how full and busy your life is, nothing can make up for just hanging out with someone and chilling. 

29/09/2010 at 13:06

Its a bit tricky to do the whole lazing in bed on a Sunday morning picking bits of toast out of your pjs with somebody who's just a friend though Cake. 

Have got my arms warmed up and ready for a hug Slowfoot. 

I have to say this thread is really making me appreciate Mr CS...  ((((hugs to everyone))))

One of my friends has been single for a while and although I'd say she's more outgoing than me doesn't seem to put herself out there even though she says she wants a relationship.  I am getting from you lot though that this whole dating thing is harder than I remember.  I thought it was just a case of talking to enough people in your circle of mutual interests and eventually one of them will talk back to you.  She has said she doesn't want to kiss any more frogs which to me is limiting your choices, you can't judge somebody purely on how they look... there is more to the book than the front cover....

29/09/2010 at 13:06

 I agree Cake.

I don't necessarily miss the 'doing nothing' thing with someone because I'm a very active person.  In my last relationship, the OH was a bit of a 'doing nothing' type bloke and this was one of the reasons we split up.  Although it's taken me a long time to come to the realisation, I now know I need to find a partner I've got a fair few things in common with, rather than go for someone I just completely fancy.  My last OH was a lovely person and we did have some things in common but not enough for us to have proper shared quality time together that I could see lasting into the future and keeping us both happy long-term.

29/09/2010 at 13:20

Depends what 'doing nothing' means I suppose.  To some peole that means literally sitting on the sofa watching telly but to others it means not doing anything planned, just thinking of stuff to fill a Sunday afternoon.  How I term it is that I'd quite like somebody to play with.

Things in common are good, if not essential, but people need to keep their own interests and their own lives.  Somebody with an interest in running ... fine ... somebody who wants to go running with me ... no thanks, we'd argue and anyway that's my thinking time. 

29/09/2010 at 13:28

Yeah I guess that's what it means to me too TP, I rather like just doing whatever crops up, chatting and getting to know more stuff about the person

I like scheduled outing too, just if that's all there is and you can't be comfortable in the other person's company without some laid on entertainment then I'm not sure that's a good basis for a relationship

29/09/2010 at 17:50
CazSoul wrote (see)

She has said she doesn't want to kiss any more frogs

I get that a lot
29/09/2010 at 18:12

That's because Womble found her prince Mike

*passes bucket for those with delicate tummies*

29/09/2010 at 18:57
Oh puh-leeeeze
29/09/2010 at 18:59
You asked for that Mike.
Lee the Pea    pirate
29/09/2010 at 20:24
Bear I think you're right when you talk about having scheduled activities or not. If you can't be comfortable titting about with someone on a free day when nothing is planned, then that doesn't bode well.

I've realised today i've not a hope of finding the time to meet a man in the near future - my work 'To Do' list spans almost 4 pages of A4, and most of them are not quick jobs, so i'll have to work at home more in the evenings, my outgoings are about to increase & I'm skint enough as it is (although i'll be moving to a great new wee flat, so hopefully it will be worth it), and I didn't get the work bonus I thought I might because i've just officially joined the company, even though i've worked there for years Sorry, just feeling a bit stressed about continued skintness, to much to do, and prospect of singledom forever more.... *sigh*

Apologies for 'me me me' bit!

As you were......
29/09/2010 at 20:40

Aw Lea but you'll have your lovely little flat and a permanent position at the company which are both things you've really wanted for a long time .....  

You'll get by on the money stuff and you'll work your way through the To Do list in time.

I won't say that someday your Prince will come .... I am older and I am sure I was in the queue first  We'll just have to make do with the lycra porn in Regensburg ....

29/09/2010 at 20:48
CazSoul wrote (see)

It She has said she doesn't want to kiss any more frogs...

I suppose that's fine if you aren't one yourself - otherwise there might be people looking at her and thinking the same thing.   

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