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Lee the Pea pirate

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29/05/2012 at 10:31

Running is a funny one Nam, I think there are people who run no matter what, and can't imagine not doing it. A lot of us have to really want to though, and if you've got other priorities, then it can take a back seat. I think i'd mostly prefer a nice relaxed walk with a dog where i could easily take my camera to going for a run. There's no reason to feel you need to run with Kara if you can't be arsed!

Weight has always been a battle for me, and linked to self esteem/confidence, but less so now. I'm a lot more confident, but still don't like the extra weight. I'm happy with my legs and arms, it is just my belly where I carry all the excess, and i'd love to get shot of it. I've no idea what size i'll be when I do, i'm thinking 12 at a total push, but actually more likely a 14? Not bothered about size so much as circumference, lol. Whether anyone else is bothered by it though is there problem; I agree with Caz that a bloke will have to accept me the way I am, I won't change for anyone else I don't think guys are as bothered about such things as we imagine they are anyway.

Nice to see you MO! Hope all is well with you, and you're not too crazily busy!

Lee the Pea pirate

pirate

29/05/2012 at 13:28

Just remembered I'd signed up fo the kilomathon (13.1K) in September, which fits in nicely with the half mara plan i've found, and i've also just signed up for the Great Edinburgh Run (10K) the week before the half (I've done it twice and wanted to do it again!), but i'm supposed to run 10 miles that weekend, so I might have to run to the start Christ, never done that before!!

Edited: 29/05/2012 at 13:28

MadameO

30/05/2012 at 21:15

Evening,

It's quiet on here at the moment! Is everyone on holibobs?

Hello Nam/Pea

Not too bad here ta... still pootling along, although found out this week that my dad may have to go into hospital, as he's having problems with an infected ulcer on his leg

Waiting to see what's happening so I can arrange to go down for a few days and help with general household stuff. Always something going on these days!

I know what you mean about running - my motivation is largely dependent on how well it's going, hence struggling when I find myself stuck in a training rut or not racing well (like now). Sometimes it helps to just take a step back and focus on enjoying running again... it'll come back.

Pea - maybe you could do a couple of slow miles either side as a warm up and cool down? That said my legs were destroyed after last weekend's 10k... having an unscheduled rest tonight as they felt like they were falling apart on my last two runs.

As for weight, there's a lot about it in the media at the moment with all the body image stuff... again, it's one of those things that varies for me depending on how well I'm training. When I'm running well I care less about what I look like, which makes me think there's more to it than just appearance. I agree though, any changes should be purely for ourselves and our own health, and not to please anyone else.

MadameO

30/05/2012 at 21:18

...It works both ways of course - as much as I wouldn't lose weight for a man, I wouldn't gain it either if he suddenly announced he had a fetish for those 'squasher' women

Tickled Pink

30/05/2012 at 21:25

Evening!

I came home to some Hotel Chocolat goodies on the doormat courtesy of the lovely Hobbit. I am doing some quality control

My running mojo seems to depend on how much time there is left over after work and stuff. The answer is not much this week. Actually there won't be much for the next 4 weeks but I'll get plenty of walking when we're away ... plenty of food too though.

I need to be tidying for my weekend guest but there's tomorrow night isn't there ....

Hope your dad is OK MO, leg ulcers can be tricky to heal.

SuperCaz

30/05/2012 at 21:37

Hi guys. I am here but haven't got much positive to say, so I am staying quiet. Been a bad day todey, packing up the house. Tomorrow we have mediation to sort out the finances. It's going to be a tough week.

Corinthian

30/05/2012 at 21:42

Hello ladies- tis my one year anniversary tomorrow - mine and 'J's first trip to Leeds together as co-workers. I thought she was a stuck-up misery guts and she thought I was a scouse gobshite...

Hmmm perceptive on her part I think.

it would be another 7 trips and two months before we 'got it on'... and I've been getting on her wick ever since!

DVDs despatched tomorrow afternoon... sorry for the delay - mad busy (you know what I'm on about, you know who)

Tickled Pink

30/05/2012 at 21:50

Well I don't think it's me be I will be very wary of any dodgy DVDs I find on the doormat!

Scouse gobshite .... you're not particularly Scouse

Corinthian

30/05/2012 at 22:01

Tee hee (cheeky monkey) ...and Am taalkin moor like ah Geordie eva-ry dee young T P

(That Geordie accent used to get 'Sweetest' all hot under the collar... Which meant I played on it!)

One of the things I miss about singledom and here - flirting is forbidden...

SuperCaz

30/05/2012 at 22:03

Good to see you again Corrie

Tickled Pink

30/05/2012 at 22:07

Wy aye bonny lad You'll be sounding like Mr Shed before you know it.

Flirting forbidden?! Never! I will probably only stop flirting when I stop breathing. S knows it's harmless (I have a highly tuned radar for those who might take it seriously) and as much a part of me as the SB and chocolate addiction.

Corinthian

30/05/2012 at 22:07

And you SCaz - I read back about your situation a couple of weeks ago - I hope it works out for you. It can be a lonely road the road you've chosen, but it's probably the right road given your circumstances.

I wish you the very best

Corinthian

30/05/2012 at 22:18

She's very strict on flirting TP- she reckons it's disrespectful and has banned all female contact beyond the cerebral - if you want to talk about Jungian Archetypes, Normal Form Game Theory or proposed changes to the LBW rule... I'm your man.

But discussing ample boobage, firm thighs and dirty movies is right out... unless I'm chaperoned

Tickled Pink

30/05/2012 at 22:33

As all of those are completely outwith the capabilities of my feeble little brain then I will have to stay silent if we ever meet again ... but quite happy to discuss the LBW, Jungian & you can hardly shut me up when I get onto that normal game form thingy

S is a bit of a flirt too but without the common sense to work out if people are actually taking it seriously. I've had to help extricate him from a couple of situations where he's inadvertenly acquired a devotee.

MadameO

30/05/2012 at 22:38

They are indeed TP - this one's failed to respond to several courses of antibiotics! Thanks for the well wishes... and oooh to Hotel Chocolat! Enjoy

Hello there Corinth, has it really been a year already...? Congratulations on your Leeds anniversary! It's so funny to look back at first impressions - when I first got talking to G online, I thought 'he's very pretty, but will we have anything in common?'... and he thought he'd blown it on our first date when he slipped on a patch of ice and almost knocked me over (having worn 'proper' shoes instead of trainers in the snow, because he wanted to make a good impression).

Hope this week goes as well as these things can, SC. I've been there and it really wasn't pleasant, but I've never once regretted the decision. Keep looking forward xx

Corinthian

30/05/2012 at 22:46

I share an iMac with she-who-must-be-worshipped and as she does most of our admin it makes it very difficult to 'av a laff' - I mean, it's not a massive thing but since my problems earlier in the year with my old Yahoo email address (which is still being used to send out spam - beware!) she's become guarded. To be honest, I can't say I blame her.

Anyway - time for Bob-Dog's evening soiree

Speak soon

Tickled Pink

30/05/2012 at 22:49

Breaking up and moving out is tough SC but try to think of every one of the steps as being one step nearer to closeure and getting yourself back on track. If it's tough then keep hold of one thing you achieved during it.

MadameO

30/05/2012 at 22:50

Flirting... hmmm, a funny one. I have many male friends and we're always making filthy jokes, but I wouldn't look upon it as flirting because it's done in a purely platonic way. G seems to accept that too, especially as he's met the guys in question... but to be honest, I don't know how I'd be if the situation were reversed. He doesn't really have female friends other than wives/girlfriends of friends, so I don't have an equivalent situation to compare. I like to think I'd be absolutely fine with it (after all, I know I can trust him), but I also know that I have some pretty vicious insecurities that can surface now and again if I'm feeling low.

I agree with TP though that there has to be a mutual understanding that it's not 'real' flirting - otherwise it can get messy. (Metaphorically I mean... literally doesn't bear thinking about!).

MadameO

30/05/2012 at 22:52

X-post - thanks for the info TP

Corinthian

30/05/2012 at 22:55

Hello MadamO!

Nice tale - Our first 'date' was a meal in Watford as an apology for me being a grouchy bastard that day - we started talking about 'non-work' stuff (She was attached but on the way out) The next thing you know we were both... well... on the same wavelength and laughing about stuff.

I found myself being more or less invited to her room but backed off as I was carrying a torch for someone else - our trips to 'gigs' became something I really looked forward to and the next time we shared a night - it was all night and it's been that way ever since...

Anyway - dog walking

Bye!