Crap at relationships

Thanks for the clarification MO, it's never got that sort of messy  

I do a lot of social stuff through work and it's a male dominated industry.  I will happily chat and charm allcomers, I consider that part of my job (well not really the job but one of the roles I have within a related organisation) and he just has to trust me that its not for real.  The work thing does mean that I'm very used to heading into a room full of strangers and just getting on with it so he's go no worries about taking me to stuff he's involved in.

Corinthian wrote (see)

if you want to talk about Jungian Archetypes, Normal Form Game Theory or proposed changes to the LBW rule... I'm your man.

Sounds good! Or was that offer only for the ladies?

Mediation today.  Can't say I am looking forward to it as the first signs of unpleasantness arose yesterday.

Morning folks - sorry I've not been about much.  Lots going on what with various visitors and trips etc.  Not read back yet but I hope everyone is well and happy.

I'm sat in Belfast with the lovely SP *both waving* and having a wonderful time.  Met the folks yesterday *gulp* but I was on my best behaviour so no permanent damage done

Off to the Titanic museum later and then a late night showing of Prometheous.  All good stuff.

Take care and as they say around these parts, see yis ladter.

Went to see a lawyer yesterday - to see about practicalities around divorce etc - i may be a lawyer but know nowt about family law - thought it would be dead easy where the finances have already been spilt and no kids - It's still going to cost a fair bit, and take ages. Also, as not yet 2 years separated going to have to discuss who petitions and who decides they have behaved unreasonably and how.

Otherwise tickety boo - may even be ready to resume training. Perhaps not running just yet, but a stationary bike should be no problem. Blood pressure now almost at levels where the quack told me I could chuck the pills away, having already halved the dose. Also - with kidney function as it should be, hangovers aren't as bad. Who'd have thought? Some  people are accusing me of being like George Best with a new liver.

Mediation was a waste of time and money.  Only told us what we already knew.

Sorry to hear that Caz, but I guess at least they didn't give you any news you'd not have wanted to hear.  No matter what, this is a difficult time for you, but as TP says, every step is taking you closer to where you want to be.

Have a fab weekend BDB and SP I love Belfast, it is an ace city.

Where is it you're off on holiday to TP?  A cruise?  I'm having a memory blank.

Hope the hospital manages to sort your Dad out MO.  It is always hellish when parents are ill   Good idea about the warm-up/cool-down for the 10K. Probably better than running 4 miles to the start, then having to walk home at the end.  Can park the car two miles from the start and do it that way!

I'm meeting Soupy tonight for dinner   She's up in Edinburgh at the mo with her hubby (he's up for work I think) so going to catch up later.  Looking forward to it

Say hi to Soupy from me.

SuperCaz wrote (see)

Mediation today.  Can't say I am looking forward to it as the first signs of unpleasantness arose yesterday.

hmmm... I think it's unavoidable for there to be some unpleasantness from him.  Of course someone stays amenable and cooperative and 'nice' when they think there is still some hope (no matter how unrealistic or unfounded) that things could still change for the better.  When the realisation of "this is it" hits, there is no longer an incentive to remain that civilized and the true natre of his feelings is bound to come to the fore.  I don't think there is much you can do other than take it on the chin, let him have his say and hope it blows over soon. 

Corrie, nice to see you again.

I know Nam.  I'm not angry with him for being the way he is.  He is actually being really good given the circumstances and I won't hear anyone else say a bad word about him.

We are both frustrated as we want to be able to move on.  I need my independence back and some security that comes with having a place to call my own.  He wants me out of the house as I am a constant reminder of what he has lost.  Not a good situation for either of us.

No, I can't begin to imagine.  I guess you both feel trapped and irritable.  It must be horrible.  Hope you find a nice job soon and can get your own place.

Yes, it's a crooze to Scandinavia & Russia Pea.  Leaving on the 18th.  I picked up my cash today.  Roubles look a bit funny.

Hope you had a good time at the Titanic exhibition, is the actual boat there?

Mediation is a strange process SC (done it for work situations) and it does sometime seem to be going nowhere except over old ground for a while but sometimes you just need to have the basics reiterated and agreed in front of the mediator.  Stick with it.I

I have cleaned and tidies in perparation for S's arrival tomorrow ... well, I've stuffed the untidiness into cupboards and taken a damp cloth round.  It'll be fine .....

good luck SC - I am shuddering now at the recollection of spending 8 or so months together AFTER we had decided to split! Just wanted to move on!! Next door had turned into a building site so pointless putting house on market until they were finished, and then it took a while to get a buyer.

very jealous of TPs cruise - Helsinki is somewhere I have always wanted to go, and St Petersburg is lovely - I went there as a boy in 1983 - would love to see it again.

Take Care MadamO and I hope you have a birthday as happy as the circumstances allow

34?  (you're still a youngster!)

MO trauma at 34...??  You silly moo....

I was asked the other day how old I was and I said 41... and genuinely thought I was... then I remembered I had that pesky birthday a couple of weeks back and I'm 42 now...  *sighs*

Hello Corrie...

it's Friiiidayyy....

We're off to Cardigan tomorrow...

Hiya Nam