Crap at relationships

The littering issue...  this Laissez Faire attitude to littering is something that, after 20+ years of living here, I still can't get my head round. 

In Germany G was surprised at the general lack of litter, not only in woods, parks etc but also in town centres.  The original assumption was that the councils must be doing more work to keep it like that, but I don't think that's the case...  It's just that people wouldn't THINK of lobbing their Coke can into the woods... they just wouldn't.  AND if they saw someone doing it they would challenge you.  Where I live the littering is the pits it really is.  have seen kids lobbing half eaten fish & chips over their shoulders on the pavement laughing, and no one dares say anything because the mouth on them if you do is quite something...  They think nothing of calling an old lady an f*cking c*nt etc... 

Just had an email from dad saying mum is having surgery tomorrow...  Initially I thought under the knife stuff but they are inserting some valves through the nose to try help her breathe...

http://www.uptodate.com/contents/emerging-therapies-for-copd-bronchoscopic-treatment-of-emphysema

Hope it goes well and gives her some relief Nam.

We were pondering the litter problem on Monday when in Inverness.  S pointed out how clean the streets were and free from dried on chewing gum to the point we were surprised to find an empty Stella can at a picnic spot rather than finding it normal to wade through them.  Didn't see anyone dropping litter either.  I think it's a mindset thing.  Wish they'd get some of it round here.

I'm in a totally crappy mood, horribly hormonal and feel completely rubbish   Oh the joys of the menopause ... they're completely passing me by at the moment.

have a fab fab fab time BDB xxxxxx

hope all goes well with your mum Nam and hugs TP x

<waves hankie at BDB>  Have fun

Morning all, Friday at last, hurrah!!! 

My friend and I start a pact today - she'll stop smoking (she's a casual smoker, but doing ti a fair bit these days), and i'll stop eating sugar (tho not fruit sugars).  So far so good, though i've only been up 3 hours, lol 

What are you all up to this weekend?  I've got my massage course all weekend, can't wait! 

Morning lovelies and thanks for the support.  Spoke to dad last night and he seems to be coping ok, to the point where he has even learned to cook himself what sound like reasonable meals.  In terms of mum, the place where she is is really a state of the art lung research clinic, access to all new treatment approaches etc, so she couldn't be in better hands.  Just annoyed that she spent months refusing to be admitted and making things much worse, rather than taking this opportunity many don't get.

Well, yesterday marked my return to some element of 'training', although I can't feel I can't call it that as I'm not doing it for some sort of event or achievement other than getting fitter and shedding spare pounds.  Pilates yesterday, Yoga today...  I am easing myself back in gently...  Also calories counting again as portion sizes have gone a bit out of control, and I felt it helped me last time to 'keep track'.

Pea, well done on the low sugar commitment.

TP my mood isn't much brighter...  tasked to do a piece of work I consider to be real waste of time but effectively don't give a toss anymore, so just crack on and do it...

I hope your Mums surgery goes well Nam.  I struggle to find the words in these situations, but that doesn't mean that I am not thinking of you.

Lee, you do have a point there.  I'm not very good at crying and tend to turn emotions inwards, or they come out as frustration (I'd probably make a really good man, lol).  I can't let emotions out when I am on my own, but I have a couple of good friends who can help me tease them out and deal with them.

We don't generally have much of a litter problem here, although out the front of our house is bad as it is right outside the school gates.

Good luck with giving up sugar Lee.  I've found that my body responds well to a low processed sugar diet, but I would struggle to stick to it at the moment as I am eating on the hoof a lot, where there is often limited choice.

Spent the first night in my new house.  Head started to clear and I was able to think things through properly for the first time in ages.  I'm now back home at the moment as I have things to sort out here.  I've made the decision to move out at the end of the 2 months and not go back to my house.  Just need to work out what sort of place I want and where...

Feeling the most stable that I have been for a long time and fairly cheerful.

The advantage of your situation, Caz, is that you're in some ways incredibly free...  You can consider jobs anywhere, are free to move anywhere.

That is a big advantage Nam, as there is absolutley nothing in this part of the country. Only one job that I have applied for so far has been within commuting distance of here.  I also have very little in the way of ties here.  There are a few friends I will miss, but generally my friends are spread out across the country anyway, so I will be moving closer to some as I move further away from others.  As long as I am within a reasonable daily commute from the sea I will be happy.

Many firms will happily re-imburse you for costs to travel to an interview, so you can spread your wings.

Most companies seem to do telephone interviews first, so there is a lot less travelling to do in general.  I think that's because my area is very specialist so it is common for people to relocate for jobs.  Most also have some sort of relocation package too.

I've been very absent of late...please forgive me?

I'm officially crap as of tonight, it's over. We had the talk and we had to admit that it was going no where...tears and hugs aplenty on both sides. We had tea and watched tv together, when it was time for me to go home I really didn't want to...just wanted to stay with my best mate and cry. Instead we agreed not to. She's my best friend...at least I get to keep her as my best mate - we'd been together for 4 1/2 years and known each other for 7, nearly 8 years. Just trying to stop crying now...

(((Mima))) Sorry to hear about your recent crapness. x

Staying friends after a relationship can be tricky.  For me it's worked with some and not others.  Give yourself some breathing space.  You'll come out the other side either way.

Started some resemblence of an exercise regime in the week.  I'm done with racing, triathlon etc.  I just want to get back to feeling fit and strong and uninjured.

G & I have both been useless since living together.  Far too many take aways, restaurant nights or lazy nights on the sofa.  He's done just as little as I have, difference is that he's a stick insect by nature, I'm not. LOL

Signed back up at my old gym, and basically doing a bit of everything I actually LIKE doing... a bit of spin, weights, pilates, yoga, might even go for a swim. 

Thu: 60 mins Pilates
Fri: 60 mins Yoga
Sat: 60 mins Yoga
Sun 90 mins Yoga

I might be imagining this but my back feels better already?

ugh...this sucks....I feel totally lost and alone. Very very lonely.

Mima - there's no magic solution to turning off these feelings - you've just got to hang tough, live through them and get out the other side - and it doesn't seem like it now, but you will, and it will hurt and it will seem as if you're not getting anywhere and you will feel incredibly lonely but you just have to live through it.  We've all been there and there are lots of lovely people who are on this thread much more regularly than I am these days who'll be an ear for you- best of luck.

Caz - Are you in education or training?  If you are PM me - I know a company that's expanding very rapidly and who are looking for tutors.

Nam - ah, the curse of the settled relationship - the expanding waist

Though 'J' and me have become gym bunnies for the last 6 months and whilst she spends countless hours doing Zumba, Pilates and boxercise - I've discovered the joy of spin and circuit training - I also PB'd 10K less than two months ago (Well, PB'd my best time for 10 years!)  and now weigh in at a svelt 12 stone 13 pounds (svelt for an ex 16 stoner 2 years ago).

I'm going to be down your manor in late September and hoping to meet up with another forumite; if you fancy it let me know?

C

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