Crap at relationships

SuperCaz wrote (see)

I meet loads of people, but none of them want me

Hang on in there SuperCaz! If you are looking, have your requirements but don't be too fussy as it will most likely be the unlikeliest person that will 'hit' on you!

I think that often we look for someone we are keen on and are blind to those that are keen on us.

Even if your swimming etc has top priority in your mind show others' that you can be flexible so that your sports pursuits are not to the exclusion of all else. 

Happy New Year

I found it easier just to give up completely. After a number of years of getting absolutely nowhere I came to the conclusion I really wasn't what the ladies are looking for.

Thanks Martenkay   but to be honest I'm not really ready for anything yet.  I've spent my whole life as part of a couple and I have no idea who I am as an individual.  I need to find myself first

Eggy, I refuse to believe that there isn't somebody out there for you.  Maybe you are just looking in the wrong place

Supercaz I was coupled up for a long time (17 years), but ended up being kicked to the curb. I've been single for a good few years now and have given up on ever meeting someone new.

I took a year out after splitting up as I didn't want to do the rebound thing. In hindsight that was pointless, as I've never been able to get anywhere meeting someone where we've hit it off never mind in a rebound situation. I think trying online dating was the last straw for me. Two years on multiple sites and got nowhere at all, by the end of that any ego I had or dating enthusiasm had been well and truly killed off.

It was Christmas 2011 I finally decided I'd had enough. I was never a popular one with the ladies even in my youth and it seems little has changed. I've just adapted that some things I wanted in life aren't going to happen. I won't have a family etc. I now just focus on doing my own thing. I did get set-up on one blind date this year, but that was a one and out for me. No real surprise in that though.

I hope you find the single life better than I did after coming out of your relationship.

Eggyh if it's any help from a conpleate stranger that's very much the situation i was in 3 to 4 years ago. A few (well a lot) of conversations later about Zombie's, nutcase's off the internet and gardening later and now punching well above my weight. Hopefully the young lady will never realise it and go arr you smell of cheese or something.

 Oh heck thinking abotu ti we have now got our CD and DVD colection in the same pile so help. Don't anybody tell her!

Internet Dating is the biggest pile of poop ever!

Illiterate idiots after one thing seems to be the majority of men on there! And my idea of athletic and their idea of atheltic don't seem the same at all!

Eggy - I've given up too! I do think now I have ruined myself totally

Cake - Nice to hear it's working out for you. I'd be useful in zombie discussions, less so on gardening!

SwimsLikeAWalrus - Internet dating was certainly eye opening. I could post a large rant about my experiences of that, but it would be futile. I will say had I seen that bloody Marylin Monroe quote one more time I think it would have pushed me over the edge though.

Internet is dating is a like a weird game of poker when half the people say one thing and meen something else.

RW as an internet dating site, on the other hand, it worked for me !

greetings crapsters - nice to see this one up again

I'm still crap, although keeping busy. Can't really complain about last year with the olympics and paras, despite all sorts of other stuff - puts an overrall positive gloss on the year. I did less training than ever last year only partly explained by surgery. This is the year of the superfit love god, now all that is over with. I have a few internet stories, but no real disasters, just no winners. Have dated people i know through work although I really am not that keen on a relationship with someone that does my job - the trouble is I like clever feisty women (specs welcome) and plenty of them do the job!! The trick is to keep buggering on and something will happen. In fairness I am probably still getting over the end of what was after all a 20 year thing. Only just over a year in my new place.

There's a lot of that RW love going round - need to be vigilant

PS we are in similar situations.  It will be a year since I split from my 20 year relationship come next month.  I've not been single since I became an adult and its fun trying to work out who I am as an individual.

Occassionally I miss company especially when I'm ill, although I have a lot of friends who look out for me, but I don't feel the need to have someone around which surprises me.  I'm a social creature and hated being on my own in the house when I was coupled up, but I seem to have got over that very quickly.

I've got the the stage where if someone comes along they will be welcome, but on my terms and a casual basis.  I can't imagine organising my life around someone else and sharing my living space with someone, but I like the idea of being special to someone.

Caz you are special to alot of people so there.

 Errr does that sound dodgy on some level?

*Mwah*  Thank you Cake.  Love you too.  Shame you're already married, but then technically so am I.  If Bookie wasn't such a lovely person she would have to watch out

(I assume the 'lots of people' bit refered to the Business, Cake, so I'll say no more about that)

SuperCaz wrote (see)

*Mwah*  Thank you Cake.  Love you too.  Shame you're already married, but then technically so am I.  If Bookie wasn't such a lovely person she would have to watch out

Chuck why lower your standards, Only reason booky puts up with me is I can reach high shelves.

 Lol! Better hide all the stepladders then Cakey boy

Afternoon all!  Funnily enough i was having a similar chat with my pal last night - i'm not actively looking for someone, but if i happen to meet someone then great. Though I know I can have a good life without a partner, i just do what I want anyway, and don't need someone to enable me to do stuff.  I used to worry about singledom but I don't now   My current concern is I WANT TO EAT CRAP, because i'm on day 2 of weight watchers, and it SUCKS .  I love sugar too much, lol

And my main concern is that I want to sleep, because I'm on day 11 of my training plan and I've not done as much exercise as this for months

Well what if I eat and sleep for both of you? then you can both do what you need to do and stuff?