Crap at relationships

I really have to stop reading this thread just before bedtime - I get all depressed and start feeling sorry for myself and everyone else who's lonely....

I definately support the 'doing nothing' with someone thing..... I miss that too. No matter how full and busy your life is, nothing can make up for just hanging out with someone and chilling. 

Its a bit tricky to do the whole lazing in bed on a Sunday morning picking bits of toast out of your pjs with somebody who's just a friend though Cake. 

Have got my arms warmed up and ready for a hug Slowfoot. 

I have to say this thread is really making me appreciate Mr CS...  ((((hugs to everyone))))

One of my friends has been single for a while and although I'd say she's more outgoing than me doesn't seem to put herself out there even though she says she wants a relationship.  I am getting from you lot though that this whole dating thing is harder than I remember.  I thought it was just a case of talking to enough people in your circle of mutual interests and eventually one of them will talk back to you.  She has said she doesn't want to kiss any more frogs which to me is limiting your choices, you can't judge somebody purely on how they look... there is more to the book than the front cover....

 I agree Cake.

I don't necessarily miss the 'doing nothing' thing with someone because I'm a very active person.  In my last relationship, the OH was a bit of a 'doing nothing' type bloke and this was one of the reasons we split up.  Although it's taken me a long time to come to the realisation, I now know I need to find a partner I've got a fair few things in common with, rather than go for someone I just completely fancy.  My last OH was a lovely person and we did have some things in common but not enough for us to have proper shared quality time together that I could see lasting into the future and keeping us both happy long-term.

Depends what 'doing nothing' means I suppose.  To some peole that means literally sitting on the sofa watching telly but to others it means not doing anything planned, just thinking of stuff to fill a Sunday afternoon.  How I term it is that I'd quite like somebody to play with.

Things in common are good, if not essential, but people need to keep their own interests and their own lives.  Somebody with an interest in running ... fine ... somebody who wants to go running with me ... no thanks, we'd argue and anyway that's my thinking time. 

Yeah I guess that's what it means to me too TP, I rather like just doing whatever crops up, chatting and getting to know more stuff about the person

I like scheduled outing too, just if that's all there is and you can't be comfortable in the other person's company without some laid on entertainment then I'm not sure that's a good basis for a relationship

CazSoul wrote (see)

She has said she doesn't want to kiss any more frogs

That's because Womble found her prince Mike

*passes bucket for those with delicate tummies*

Aw Lea but you'll have your lovely little flat and a permanent position at the company which are both things you've really wanted for a long time .....  

You'll get by on the money stuff and you'll work your way through the To Do list in time.

I won't say that someday your Prince will come .... I am older and I am sure I was in the queue first  We'll just have to make do with the lycra porn in Regensburg ....

CazSoul wrote (see)

It She has said she doesn't want to kiss any more frogs...

I suppose that's fine if you aren't one yourself - otherwise there might be people looking at her and thinking the same thing.   

Cake wrote (see)

 Just because your hanging out with someone and chilling doesn't meen they have to be anything other than a friend Lisa. What happens happens just be happy.  (((hugs alround)))

I'm finding it really difficult to explain myself but maybe thats half the problem... I dont know myself what I want!

What I was trying to get across was probably more about intimacy and affection rather than just chilling. I do hang out with my friends and watch TV/talk crap/quaff wine etc but there's still something missing - oh heck - I cant explain it!

So once again, its bedtime and I'm reading this thread - great! Anyway ((((((hugs))))))) to all the singletons in need to some TLC! nitey nite peeps.

Pea, you'll be too busy doing to have time for letching in Regensburg .... best leave that to those of us with more time on our hands

I did pull an 83 year old in the ice cream queue at Sandringham this summer.  I don't think he had his own teeth but I didn't ask as I am not sure I really wanted to know.