Crap at relationships - Page 4 - Clubhouse

Badly Drawn Bloke

27/09/2010 at 12:28

(((((((Min))))))) and big snogs to ya.

Min is right, it is bloody tough especially when people tell you you're lovely etc. I spend a lot of time on my own at the mo and sometimes need a cuddle and would love someone to take care of me and tell me everything will be alright. But I've had that and lost it and sometimes think that I wont get it back, or if I even really want it again.

I've wonderful friends who are looking out for me so I embrace that. If anything else happens at the moment, it's a bonus.

Don't be down though Slowfoot, things do happen and you can make them happen too.

Nam

27/09/2010 at 12:51

Aw Min. Made me really sad to read that and I remember feeling that way and it's crap!!!

Bessie mate is a bit the same... I think she's really pretty, she's clever (senior registrar dentist in a hozzie), she's funny, kind, lovely, she's interesting (has heaps of interests/hobbies), own house (very very lovely cottage), a bit quirky (owns a 6ft python), lovely family, not at all unhinged.... but she can't get a data with a nice man for love or money... She's done the dating websites (where most men in their 40s wanted to meet women 20 years younger than themselves... what's that all about??), speed dating, singles dinner nights, singles activity weekends... but she says it all feels so contrived. Likewise my my other bessie male mate has been single for coming up to 8 years now and he'd make someone a perfect boyfriend. He's loyal, friendly, a great listener (counsellor!), has a really fab moral code and would never cheat on anyone... again women just don't seem to be interested...

I think I was just really lucky that after years of wubbish, and just about to give up on relationships, I've met someone absolutely sterling, and I do count myself very very lucky for that and don't ever take it for granted.

Seems like everybody has a great best mate who's single. We should get them all in a room together.

Edited: 27/09/2010 at 12:54

M.ister W

27/09/2010 at 12:55

So you have two mates who are single and would love to meet the perfect guy/girl. One is male and one is female?

Merrylegs

27/09/2010 at 13:05

(Seems like everybody has a great best mate who's single. We should get them all in a room together).

my single friend . com/co.uk...the problem with these sites is you have to market yourself not good for shy types and it all feels a little meat markety with so much pressure to "preform". Not really the way to relax and meet someone to care for.

seren nos

pirate

27/09/2010 at 13:05

Nam wrote (see)

Likewise my my other bessie male mate has been single for coming up to 8 years now and he'd make someone a perfect boyfriend. He's loyal, friendly, a great listener (counsellor!), has a really fab moral code and would never cheat on anyone... again women just don't seem to be interested...

Sorry Nam......you made him sound like a labrador.............

sorry

Hugs to everyone out there married or single who is lonely

Nam

27/09/2010 at 13:06

Mister W... I've tried that but unfortunately there's no spark.

Nam

27/09/2010 at 13:07

seren nos wrote (see)

Sorry Nam......you made him sound like a labrador.............

LOL and in many ways that would not be too far off the mark. As a friend he's certainly been as loyal as an old labrador!!

Wilkie

27/09/2010 at 13:51

I was single for two years after my marriage ended.

I was fit, healthy, member of a running club, owned my own flat, financially independent, not unattractive (so I'm told).

During that time I had two dates.

Then I met my lovely, lovely, Squeeze (at a forum social!)

So although it's not by any means guaranteed, don't be too dismayed by the fact that some people take longer to find their "significant other" than others.

Just cos it hasn't happened yet, Min, doesn't mean it won't ever.

Red Squirrel.

27/09/2010 at 14:14

(((((((((Min))))))))

I might end up being in the same position (not missionary unfortunately ). I split up with my long-term partner in May and a friend asked me if I'd met anyone I'm interested in since the split. Although it's a bit soon for me to be thinking about getting back into a relationship I said to her "What if I never met anyone?". It's definitely a possibility.

Edited: 27/09/2010 at 15:10

Badly Drawn Bloke

27/09/2010 at 15:39

Oh you meet people Parklife and there is fun to be had along the way. it's not all doom and gloom, honest.

Red Squirrel.

27/09/2010 at 15:59

As long as I don't meet gloomy men BDB - there are a few of those out there.

Badly Drawn Bloke

27/09/2010 at 16:08

You're right, plenty of gloomy peeps. Just go for the fun ones for now. The art there though is separating the nutters from the genuinely fun ones. Doesn't matter about futures etc at this stage, just enjoy yourself.

Red Squirrel.

27/09/2010 at 16:18

Ha ha BDB I wouldn't say I'm particularly spoilt for choice generally, either of nutters or fun ones.

But I'm not somene who actively seeks out potential dates/partners anyway, I just wait for them to drift towards me (can be a long wait

) + I've got plenty of really good male friends and for anything else, I s'pose I could always go on one of those sites selling plastic battery-operated items.

Badly Drawn Bloke

27/09/2010 at 16:22

I'm sure I don't know what you mean

Nam

27/09/2010 at 16:28

Parklife wrote (see)

I s'pose I could always go on one of those sites selling plastic battery-operated items.

I suddenly realised you's not a boy...

Tickled Pink

27/09/2010 at 16:30

And separating the nutters from rest is an interesting experience. At least if you get it wrong you come out with some tales to tell .... thank you but I don't want to hear about your mother's bunions ...

Men in their 40s and early 50s generally want to meet women in their 30s. Must be the kudos of having a yonger girlfriend. Not sure what that leaves for those of us in our mid 40s ...

Nam

27/09/2010 at 16:34

Tickled Pink wrote (see)

Men in their 40s and early 50s generally want to meet women in their 30s. Must be the kudos of having a yonger girlfriend. Not sure what that leaves for those of us in our mid 40s ...

This is exactly what 2 female friends of mine said who both trialled dating websites. Both are in their early 40s and look lots younger but didn't feel they should have to lie about their age and all the men had set their upper age limit to often at least 10 years younger than themselves and the lowest age limit set to 18 even if they were 40-odd....

Cake

pirate

27/09/2010 at 16:46

Nam wrote (see)

Parklife wrote (see)
I s'pose I could always go on one of those sites selling plastic battery-operated items.

I suddenly realised you's not a boy...

How could you ever mistake young parky for a boy? She’s cook nice veg curry for a start and as some folks always tell me boys can’t cook.

They don’t get any brownies or cookies off me.

Red Squirrel.

27/09/2010 at 16:57

Lots of people think I'm a boy on here. It does say on my profile that I'm not. I'm not very girly tho' and can be foul-mouthed at times.

Badly Drawn Bloke

27/09/2010 at 17:01

When I've been on dating sights I sent my limits to 5 years either side. I've seen women who were younger, same age and older than me. My ex is 4 years older than me, so it really doesn't bother me. If you are attracted to someone, age really doesn't matter. My sis in law for example is 14 year older than my brother.