Getting divorced

5 year hitch

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13/02/2008 at 18:40

Thanks for all the info (and ways to celebrate!) Reason ex gives is 'once married always married' on religious grounds. The fact that I was a divorcee  before marrying her didn't matter then!

It's just that my future Mother-In-Law is poorly with cancer, and wants to see her only daughter get married.

I've kept a note of where to get the forms etc, and will investigate further.

 Thanks again.

Nicko. Hdau    pirate
13/02/2008 at 20:50

I rang Newcastle courts for a copy of my decree absolute about 9yrs ago to be told "Im afraid your wife didn't file for absolute, your still married"

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I thought I was divorced in 96, so I rang wife up to tell her the good news  She said that she went on holiday and just forgot. If it had been file for a bag of money she wouldn't have bliddy forgot
I went to the local courts to get papers to file for absolute, filled them all in<<Bliddy triplicate>>and then rang wife again to tell her I had the papers and woud send them in to local court. Her answer was "OH I FORGOT TO TELL YOU IV'E ALREADY DONE IT"



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Bliddy women eh !!!!!

14/02/2008 at 09:57
Ha!  She just wanted to stay married to you, Nicko!
14/02/2008 at 10:09

I got divorced in 2001 and we did it ourselves using papers we got from the court.  We had actually split up in 1998 so waited for the 2 years with consent option. We had a very amicable split up, we had already divided up our possessions and the house was sold, no children.  In fact we sat together in my Mum's conservatory filling in the papers together.  One of us had to be respondent and the other petitioner and then just submitted the papers to the court with the fee. Easy peasy.

14/02/2008 at 10:53

All sounds easy really - haven't looked at the forms yet though.  Getting the house emptied etc is the priority at the moment.  Should all complete 29th Feb!

I'd like to get it all wrapped up this year.  We've been living apart for a year and no way of getting back together - although it's only a year hope it;s not going to cause problem. 

AL - party sounds good .  You're ex sounds like such a helpful chap though.  Hope he comes to his senses and does the decent thing.

14/02/2008 at 11:54
We had a divorce party, as much to show our friends that the two of us were still on very good terms and that there was no need to take sides.  Unfortunately those that were closer to me remained in the lounge and those that were closer to him remained in the conservatory.  We tried to get everyone to mix and ended up ourselves in the kitchen!  LOL.   We don't talk anymore now though.
14/02/2008 at 12:02

That would just be too weird for me Sezz!

In all honesty, I don't think I'll be celebrating.  Would feel a bit flippant marking the end of the most important part of my life so far combined with the most painful part with a party.  But I'm a sentimental sucker.

I don't mean that as a judgement on anyone who does celebrate though.  Everyone handles these things in the way that's best for them.

14/02/2008 at 12:05
I'm not saying it wasn't painful.  It was was.  The party wasn't to say 'hurrah, we rid of each other', not at all.  But after all we'd been through, which I won't go into, it was a relief for it to end in the way it did and to still remain friends.  And I'm one of the most sentimental people I know.
14/02/2008 at 12:08
Wasn't having a dig Sezz - in these situations you do what you have to do.  Glad you were still friends at the end of it.
14/02/2008 at 12:12

BDB, if you want a divorce in less that two years you have to do it on the grounds of adultery, or unreasonable behaviour.

If your (ex) wife has not taken up with another partner, nor beat you up or somehting else the court might see as unreasonable, then either she can divorce you for adultery, or you have to wait for the two years of separation.

However - separation does not have to mean living in separate houses.  If, for example, you couldn't afford to move out until the house was sold, but lived seperately (ie. separate bodrooms, each did your own cooking, laundry, etc), the court will count that time as part of the two years.

14/02/2008 at 12:25

Thanks Wilkie.

Seems odd that it's in terms of the law and damages etc it's no blame, but you have to pick one out.  But if we have too, I'm not the one taking the wrap!

14/02/2008 at 12:44
I suppose it's 'no blame' if you wait two years, but if you want a quickie (so to speak), someone has to be at fault.
14/02/2008 at 12:52
Well you know that answer to that BDB.

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