In a long term relationship what would you do if

I've got a four inch fat filled tumour on my back that is causing me discomfort (not exactly pain) and the NHS don't give a monkey's about it. That's fine. Please fix the people with cancer.

There's no doubt I've become MUCH more self conscious about it recently but Mr LB doesn't even mention it.

My weight since marrage has gone up and down by four stone. He never mentions it. And I married him for love too.

Kryten wrote (see)

I was once in a relationship where my partner gained about 3 or 4 stones in the first six months that we were together.

Not doubt it makes me very shallow but I could not help but find her less physically attractive.

It is not an easy situation to be in! I am fairly sure that I never once made a negative comment about her weight gain, but somehow she still managed to make it all my fault.

Well obviosuly it's your fault!  You're a MAN!

SPELLING ERROR!!!!! ^^^^^^^^^

That was probably my fault too.

What would I do ? More a question of what I wouldn't do:

Wash, shave, change clothes, tidy up, clean anything etc.