Losing your virginity

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18/07/2012 at 20:06

I don't think people view losing their virginity in the same way as they used to, although that may be a generational thing where we all think the youth of today's views/experiences are different to our own. 

I think popular culture is far more sexualised than it used to be, and that this has a knock on effect on how people view sex. When you're surrounded by sexual images/media content, it doesn't seem to be as significant as it once. 

18/07/2012 at 20:13

18...a summer fling to a boy who was just lovely.

I remember being one of the last girls in my school year to have sex and not really caring either. I think children and teens are becoming sexualised younger than when I was a teenager. They seem (from where I am) much older and more confident than I ever was!

18/07/2012 at 20:17

I was a couple of weeks shy of 16, and it wasn't a big deal.  But then I don't class myself as the typical teenager for a whole range of reasons that I dont want to go in to.

At that age most of my friends were in over 18 and some in their 20's so I guess I was doing what fitted in with my peers at the time.

18/07/2012 at 22:51

16 - I have to admit I did it so that I'd have "done it" 
I suspect a minority are doing it far younger than we'd have imagined 13+ but that the majority are about the same.  Might be talking utter carp though, what do I know?! 

18/07/2012 at 22:58
16 as well, but my kids, well, one is 21 and is a complete rake, the others 18 and is as innocent as the day is long.

I think
Blisters    pirate
18/07/2012 at 23:19

Me, more like 20, but I was gagging for it by then.

My elder daughter, I think that the New Year party season from when they were 13+ there was a bit of a pact. Half of her peer group got laid that week. I think that she has held off until she turned 16, but I'm fairly sure that she's active now. I don't mean right this minute, but I could be wrong.

19/07/2012 at 00:11

I lost mine with Red Dwarf on the telly in the background.

19/07/2012 at 00:27

She was either dressed as a clown and i was trying not to fall into the swimming pool.


Her name was Mia and she was a French exchange student from Nice and it happened on a train in a smoking carriage to Southend-on- Sea in '84

but i think her name was Lola and she was a show girl

but you knew that already


19/07/2012 at 05:48

15 yrs & 9 mths.....August 1986...... to the sound of Lulu on the radio singing Shout !

I'd planned to have Dire Straits on the record player (what a charmer) but once it all kicked off there was no way i was moving to turn the radio off !!  The little scottish pipsqueak still makes me smile whenever i see/hear her 

19/07/2012 at 07:40

At my secondary school - if you hadn't had it by 15 you were considered 'strange' and very odd.... saying that most of the girls in my final year had either: had a baby/was pregnant/had several abortions.

I think it's not just cultural but also local stigma for what's acceptable or not. I know that at another school - the age there was A LOT older - 18 years on average.

gingerfurball    pirate
19/07/2012 at 09:25

22 and on my wedding night

Edited: 19/07/2012 at 09:37
19/07/2012 at 09:54

I was a bit of a late comer (sorry about that but I couldn't resist!) - 23. I wasn't going to wait for my wedding night though as we still aren't married and we've been together 22 years now!!

I've got no idea about current pressures but I can't imagine there's been much of a change. There's plenty of very young mums where I live.

19/07/2012 at 10:09

I was only 12, and there was a bit of an age gap.......... my uncle was already in his 40's.

19/07/2012 at 11:20

13 She was 16 who da man! Didn't really have much of an idea what I was doing. Don't regret though

19/07/2012 at 11:35

Goodness!! My appropriate adult/child protection head is spinning! And I am definitely glad I waited!

19/07/2012 at 11:41

I was fifteen, so was he. 

That was 35 years ago

(we're not still together, btw)

Edited: 19/07/2012 at 11:42
Ultra AJH    pirate
19/07/2012 at 11:45

The night before my english lit o level. I got a B in that, it was ages before I bothered trying the sex thing again  I was over 16 though which was pretty much OAP in terms of my friends trying it.

19/07/2012 at 12:05


19/07/2012 at 12:52

Here's a question for those of you who had sex while still under the age of consent - did you worry about the age limit? Did it mean anything to you? I'm not judging, I'm genuinely curious!

19/07/2012 at 13:00
Wilkie wrote (see)

I was fifteen, so was he. 

That was 35 years ago

(we're not still together, btw)

You're not 50, are you? From your photo I would have said about 40.


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