never thought I'd be a victim

bullying in the workplace

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07/08/2012 at 07:11

Have you had issues like this before?

08/08/2012 at 09:15
I think Twister has made anough good points to warrant being heard. But if Hash or anyone else doesn't like it then use the ignore features. I also think MimaDuck is big enough to take care of herself on this Forum and doesn't need the big brother/get in your pants protection.
08/08/2012 at 20:37

Dreamtwister - I'm fascinated - why sign up for this forum when your profile is so totally devoid of any details about your running activities/preferences and you only post on contentious issues - usually non running related  I am sure that your intentions are totally honourable in showing the rest of us the error of our ways, but your approach does tend to give ammunition to those who accuse you of trolling - however misguided they might be.

(BTW - I think ignore member one of the worst features introduced on this site)

08/08/2012 at 21:57

Thanks for sticking up for me Bear B., Hash etc - means alot that I have at the very least a virtual support network.

Nick - I've never ever had issues like this - possibly why I found it so hard to deal with and why it made me quite so upset and angry.

Things have eased off now I have a new line manager - and there may be bigger changes ahead but for now, I'm very glad to have a bit of breathing space.

Dreamtwister & Sussex Runner - thanks for your contributions. I am able to "take care of myself" but it's also nice to have someone looking out for me when I'm just that little bit more fragile than normal. And yes, I was a victim. And also having a tough time. But thanks to the nice people on here, it makes it a bit easier to get my head round.

08/08/2012 at 22:01

All the best mimaduck .

08/08/2012 at 22:07

Mimaduck, glad to hear things are getting better. Bullies are just sad sad people who carry on every aspect of their life in that way. Dont listen to them. Sounds like he thinks he is great at everything he does and only he can do things. You know you are good at what you do. Be happy you are a better person than them and stay strong. Never let them beat you. xx

09/08/2012 at 09:38
Shall I get the ducking stool ready Barry?
09/08/2012 at 16:05
I must admit I don't care whether someone runs 1-3 times a week or whatever. I'm here to hear what people have to say not stalk them. Can't we just agree to disagree that people might just come on here and have different ideas of what forums are about.

The contentious issues are only interesting if there are people who are interested in re-assessing their own opinion aswell as giving their own. I'd like to think my own opinion is not set in stone. My initial reaction to this thread is to support the OP in this but the reaction of the ducking stool mob is not so much shocking as just plain dumb.
09/08/2012 at 16:17

SR - I don't think there was a lynch mob mentality - just advice to mimaduck on what to do and some good wishes for what she clearly found a distressing experience.  As you seemed to have changed your opinion based on other people's reaction then that seems to indicate a desire to be contrary rather than balanced.

Dreamtwister, if it looks like a troll, smells like a troll and posts like a troll......

09/08/2012 at 16:33
But I don't agree on the definition on a Troll being someone who has a different opinion to every one else. If we were iun Nazi Germany in 1936 would the troll be the one who didn't want to gas the Jews? Ooooops just evoked Godwin's law!!
09/08/2012 at 17:11

SR - I wasn't accusing you of being a troll - just irrational.

kittenkat    pirate
09/08/2012 at 18:08
Dreamtwister wrote (see)
Hash wrote (see)

Dreamtwister/Lardarse/Yifter/whatever you're calling yourself this week could you possibly feck off and troll somewhere else?   If you have a problem with what I wrote then please send me one of your trademark unpleasant PMs.  I'm big enough and ugly enough to not be bothered by it, but leave Mima alone, she's having a rough time and doesn't need this.

Hope it went okay today Mima


I shown an opposite approach to yours. Difference is I didn't feel the need to call you a troll for your stupidity. I'm tempted to say why don't you fuck off and express your stupidity somewhere else, but I don't really give a toss either way.

And yes you probably are big enough and ugly enough. You come across that type. Also unlike you I'm not naive enough to think that everybody that is "having a hard time" is a victim. It obviously makes you feel happier about yourself. Ignorance is bliss I suppose

 

 

Nah, hash is good stuff.

It's funny, I've seen so many people on here over the years (including me) move from shit hot banter to just defence... I guess.

I've got a load of shit on here over the past 18 months because people love their ivory towers, and can't get past that.

09/08/2012 at 21:32

Fair enough - I never said what was going on. I never expected sympathy but I've come to speak to several people on here regularly and have been offered sound advice previously.

I refused to go for a drink with the boss and after that things changed. Snide comments, calling me while I was on site (when I had stuff to do on site) to come back to the office for no reason, putting me down in front of the office, trying to make out that I'm incompetent (I'm not) by implying I've messed stuff up (I hadn't), culminating in threatening me by saying "you don't want to make an enemy out of me".

small things but even small things build up quickly. Yes - things have eased off now I have a new line manager - I've never said they hadn't. I am not a drama queen - I just don't like being made to feel threatening and vulnerable.

kittenkat    pirate
10/08/2012 at 05:57

Duck, are you looking round for something else?

13/08/2012 at 20:50

I am indeed - we'll see what happens though.


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