Running after a break-up

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03/12/2002 at 09:52
Just curious: has anyone else out there taken up running after divorce or separation?

I know there must be others. It all seems more positive than alternative ways to move on but I am not sure how non-runners feel about dating obsessive health freaks.

03/12/2002 at 10:09
Not as such but I am assuming that this is a fairly difficult time for you ( been there etc) in which case you will probably find running most beneficial in terms of fitness menatl and physical and also stress release. Much more beneficial in fact than alcohol and tablets. As for dating non runners then should you adapt your life to other peoples or should there be a half way house in a relationship ? Decide what YOU want from life and go for it. Besides you might find that if you join a running club or go to races you will meet like minded people and a new social circle.
I found that when I took up running prompted by my new girlfriend and now my wife it got rid of a lot pent up emotions I had stored from a previous disastrous encounter. Now my running has taken on a different form and gives us both a sort of focus.
I hope this helps and good luck. Go do it !
03/12/2002 at 10:10
3rd line I do of course mean mental !
Ratbag    pirate
03/12/2002 at 10:15
I would agree with Bobolink. Running is a better way of relieving the stress and taking your mind off the difficult situation you must be going through. Set yourself a goal and train for it.

Also, what's wrong with dating runners???

There are some real nice people out there...

...don't rush into anything....
03/12/2002 at 10:28
Starting Again,

I agree with the Boblink... but most important of all I think is that the running will give you more self-confidence (something usually lacking after a split). You mention how non-runners feel about dating obsessive health freaks - well I think it's easier if they know that you from the beginning....
I on the other hand have just started this health freak phase (in the last six months) and I can say that it already causes friction between myself and my partner because I am a changed person (albeit for the better - fitter, healthier, happier, more outgoing, need I go on ?). Have I waffled enough? (sorry)

Good luck and HAPPY RUNNING !!
03/12/2002 at 11:31
But foxy surely I am your partner and it has only brought us closer......?

03/12/2002 at 11:33
03/12/2002 at 11:33
Starting-again, sorry for being silly!! Running is always good. Do it for you, and a happy sideeffect is that you will also meet lots of likeminded peeps (as on here...).And runners as a section of the population in my humble opinion seem to be EMINENTLY more desirable than other sections of the population.......
03/12/2002 at 11:34
Personally, I like running because I get to meet loads of fit looking birds.

So, to summarise, it gives you a focus, it gets you out, it makes you feel more positive and you might, just might, one day end up with a physically perfect partner who doesn't smell of fags and chips.
Ratbag    pirate
03/12/2002 at 11:46

LOL!!! Fit looking birds (Foxy, Badge etc...)WAS on my mind but I wasn't going to say so!!
03/12/2002 at 11:56

Am I good at counselling or what?
03/12/2002 at 12:02
RB - think you are holding too much store my a very old photo....!!

DB - you are a saint!
03/12/2002 at 12:11
I used to work with a chap who had been a sub 2:30 marathon runner but had become less serious since his marriage. When he got divorced, he started doing 100+ miles a week training and travelling the place to do marathons. I think he found it gave him a good focus away from the miseries of every day life and some positive experiences. Cost a fortune in shoes, apparently...
03/12/2002 at 12:22
Going through a very bad patch in my own relationship at the moment i can testify that it is running that keeps me sane.
It is an excellant way to fight of depression and to get rid of all those negative feelings that rear their ugly head from time to time.
Ratbag    pirate
03/12/2002 at 12:22

You are a great consellor. I'll use you if I ever have the need!!


You put yourself down. I'm sure that you are still a real babe!!!!
03/12/2002 at 12:33
I agree with DB who is certainly wise.

I think running is great and I should know as I have been dumped many times, ha, ha!

Hope you enjoy the running!!!
03/12/2002 at 13:10
Stating again,

I got divorced 2 years ago, I started drinking far too much and eating too much to block it out, so, in Feb this year I thought "right thats it I must pull myself together" so I started walking and then onto running and have now lost 3 1/2 stone and have cut right back on the drink.
Running has sorted out my head and made me fit into the bargain.

Not sure about what a non running partner would say as I am still on my own and have no intention of looking for anyone, for the moment anyway as I am really enjoying the single life again and the freedom.

All the best to you Startin Again with your running and good luck with your quest to start again.

Cheers Gaz...............

03/12/2002 at 13:19
Running makes you feel very good about yourself - have to be careful you don't get too smug though!! So it's a great way to get over most things...
Anyone had to get divorced because of running?

DB / RB - Agree totally!

Gaz - you look about 12 now!
03/12/2002 at 13:27
Thanks Greeny,

See running takes years off you...........
and yes it does make you feel very good about yourself.................
03/12/2002 at 17:28
Well it seems that I am not alone. It certainly feels better than booze/clubs at the moment.

I am not looking for anyone at the moment - I just worry about the future sometimes like one does when your world gets turned upside down. I was going to mention how good looking and young for their age all the female runners I have met seem to be but thought that might seem I was in it for the wrong reasons :-).
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