Single, would like to meet....

Moved around a bit.  Started in Essex, moved to the West Midlands, then Hampshire and now back in a different part of the Midlands.

Reasons:  uni, husband, work - the usual sort of thing

kittenkat wrote (see)

Damn... 4 elipses in the title.

I'm sorry, I can't help it.  That would be 12 dots wouldn't it?

Would like to meet another grammer pedant.

(Or rather I would if I were single).

Since it's "grammar" - I suggest you might be be aiming too high in any case 

kittenkat wrote (see)

A conversation on another thread gave me the idea to start this thread. It's just a place where people can chat, make friendships and even take it further. kk plays Cupid if you will.

You don't have to be single to post in here, but I'm hoping it will be a nice thread for some regulars and lurkers to post on.

It may not work, but if you want to use it, here it is. Enjoy!

And also please use this thread to tell us of your best and worst dates

I'm 35, single, live in Hampshire. Other than running, I like snowboarding, cycling, Formula 1, politics and all the usual stuff like films, TV, video games, books and music. I'd like to meet someone female, vaguely similar age, reasonably local. Pedants welcome.

My OKCupid profile is here if you want to know more (you don't need an account to view it).

Haven't had any really bad dates. The worst that's happened is I've been bored, I'm pretty sure the feeling was mutual.

Eggyh73 wrote (see)

I have friends not far off their 20th wedding anniversary and who are just approaching 40. Most of my mates got married fairly young though, all seem to be very happy.

Well I have lots of friends..and relatives as well who are approaching 40-45 and have been married since late teens early 20s and now the kids are grown up they dont have anything in common , are sick to death of the sight of each other and are frequenting Match..

Night Nurse wrote (see)

Eggyh73 wrote (see)

I have friends not far off their 20th wedding anniversary and who are just approaching 40. Most of my mates got married fairly young though, all seem to be very happy.

Well I have lots of friends..and relatives as well who are approaching 40-45 and have been married since late teens early 20s and now the kids are grown up they dont have anything in common , are sick to death of the sight of each other and are frequenting Match..

I seem to be the only person on the planet these days that is surrounded by traditional relationships. I never knew anyone who was divorced when I was a kid and I'm the only divorcee among my friends and family.

Oh I agree with the last bit Eggy..when I was at school....along time ago  only one of my friends came from a split family...her mum owned and ran a pub on her own ..we all though she was really cool..

I sometimes think I live in some retro time bubble. I read all these stats on divorce and people mention miserable relationships and I know not one, bar my own divorce. One of my mates started dating his wife in high school. Yes, they actually are high school sweet hearts!

Mind you I never saw my divorce coming, so what do I know?

"Since it's "grammar" - I suggest you might be be aiming too high in any case "

Can I buy you a drink?

Tom77 wrote (see)

kittenkat wrote (see)

A conversation on another thread gave me the idea to start this thread. It's just a place where people can chat, make friendships and even take it further. kk plays Cupid if you will.

You don't have to be single to post in here, but I'm hoping it will be a nice thread for some regulars and lurkers to post on.

It may not work, but if you want to use it, here it is. Enjoy!

And also please use this thread to tell us of your best and worst dates

I'm 35, single, live in Hampshire. Other than running, I like snowboarding, cycling, Formula 1, politics and all the usual stuff like films, TV, video games, books and music. I'd like to meet someone female, vaguely similar age, reasonably local. Pedants welcome.

My OKCupid profile is here if you want to know more (you don't need an account to view it).

Haven't had any really bad dates. The worst that's happened is I've been bored, I'm pretty sure the feeling was mutual.

I like it...

All my friends were happily married too.  I was with Hubby 20 years.  Then this year the shit seems to have hit the fan with a lot of people.  I think I started a trend when I walked out

Eggyh73 wrote (see)

I sometimes think I live in some retro time bubble. I read all these stats on divorce and people mention miserable relationships and I know not one, bar my own divorce. One of my mates started dating his wife in high school. Yes, they actually are high school sweet hearts!

Mind you I never saw my divorce coming, so what do I know?

Eggyh73, depending on your perspective you are fortunate/unfortunate to be surrounded by so much emotional stability. However because couples stay together does not mean they are 'happy'.

I could never be described as a ladies man and when younger was never generally  that successful with the girls. However some of the girls that were not interested now seem to see me as fascinating - since their relationships with interesting, virile, sexy, high earners',(you name it) have gone awry! They seem to have all the time to chat with me now and through a third party I recently heard that I was described as "fruity" ( yes, fruity!!)-  the world has gone bananas. I am not surprised that in some of your posts you say you have given up however you may find that you become irresistable to ladies in the years to come.

I'd say I'm fortunate to have been brought up and still surrounded by stable relationships. And the people I know are happy. To me the saddest thing I've noticed since becoming single is how many other single people try and create this myth of unhappy couples as an excuse for their own relationships failing.

I've no intention of becoming a ladies man. I'm not a flirty person and have no inclination to become one. I have never been one to sleep around or look for casual relationships. In fact the only woman I've ever slept with was my ex. I'll be 40 soon and I now I've given up looking for anyone else I see that being the way it remains until my time is up.

I think most couples think they are happy and can give that impression.  Its hard to see when the happiness fades.  I know in hindsight I wasn't happy for a number of years, but I thought I had the perfect relationship at the time.  We never argued or disagreed and people commented on what a good couple we made.

But over time you can drift apart without falling out with each other.

That type of talk is another reason I'd be very wary of ever getting involved with anyone again. Too many folk don't work at their relationships, they run from them.

How can you not know if you are happy or not? That doesn't make any sense at all.

I'm glad that you don't understand because it shows that you have been lucky enough not to have been there, Eggyh.  It's too personal and raw for me to explain.

I know what you mean about some people not trying.  I struggle to understand people who get divorced within a couple of years of getting married.  Did they not know what they were getting themselves into, or did they go into the relationship thinking that it would be easy and that they could change the other person.

I'll not take your comment personally though.  Plenty of people know how hard I tried for a long time and the detrimental effect that it had on my health.

eggy.i was married at 20 and divorced by 23..........I almost stayed in the relationship because i believed that marriage was for life and that i had made a commitment and should stick to it......despite being very unhappy........

So glad i came to my senses and admitted i had made a mistake..........i could have spent my whole life working at it........but instead i have now been married for over 20 years to my second husband...its not perfect but worth working at..........

Just popping in to say that I met my OH via the "where are all the single men thread" back in 2005. Nearly 8 years later and still going strong. Know quite a few other couples who met on there too.....