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10/07/2012 at 13:21

I would like to propose to my girlfriend at the London marathon next year. Would be interested to hear others opinions on a few things..

  • At what stage of the race? Do I go for the end/line.. nice pictures, no danger of not finishing, memorable. Is that selfish toward other runners finishing moments (getting in the way)? Afterwards in the park?
  • Do I tell the family [that will be there] so they can best position themselves and we can confirm a point? I will be asking her Dad's permission anyway.
  • Carry the ring on me and hope to not chug it down with a gel or collect it from family just before?

I'm not concerned about a time for the run so I haven't factored in a proposal in my pacing  

Cheers guys

10/07/2012 at 13:35

No, No, No and most definetly  NOT.

I can't say how bad an idea this is.

What if she says no?  Or wants to say no, but with all her family watching, and doubtless a few other runners, she might feel she can't, so says YES, but then has to break it to you later...

Ask her somewhere more private.

Edited: 10/07/2012 at 13:36
10/07/2012 at 13:41

I agree with Wilkie, unless you're absolutely 100% certain that she'll say yes

10/07/2012 at 13:48

I hope she doesn't read this forum

Good luck whatever you decide.

10/07/2012 at 13:56

I'd also advice privacy - it's an intimate moment, why would you want an audience?

10/07/2012 at 13:58

Thanks for the pessimism guys!  We have been together 6 years and have just bought our first house together and i'm 99.9% sure she would say yes. 

10/07/2012 at 13:59

I don't agree with all the 'no's, but really, at the London Marathon??  After the end of it will be approximately akin to basting yourself in turkey fat, salting yourself, putting yourself in the oven on gas mark 5 for two hours and then jumping out - minus the jumping bit because you won't be able to jump - on her in the middle of dinner with her family.

Would you say yes to swamp thing?

How about when you're carb-loading the night before?  Italian restaurant for pasta, she can drink all the wine because you can't drink, Roberto's your uncle.  If she says yes you're dedicating your race to her: if she says no you've got something to run away from...

10/07/2012 at 14:06

Ratzer I look like that at the start line and she has put up with it so far... but yeah good point - I did struggle to get even a kiss at the end of the last marathon due to my stink!

cougie    pirate
10/07/2012 at 14:08

Well she wont be able to get to the finish line - so you cant do it there. Same with the start line. 

Maybe in the park after the race would be best ?

I did know a guy who took his GF to Paris for the weekend and up to the restaurant on the Eiffel Tower. Great views of the City of Love.  He proposed. 

She turned him down.  

Awkward. 

10/07/2012 at 14:12

I'd say it kinda depends on what you (and she) want. If you want publicity and to be on TV, do it in the finishing straight and they're bound to show you on the BBC.  Whether you'd annoy other runners probably depends on what sort of time you'll be finishing. I seem to remember the finish line was one of the least crowded points (5 hour finish) as the road is so broad. It is difficult to spot people in the crowd at this point, so whether you can do it at all may depend on whether she's running too.

If that's not your style, then quietly in the park afterwards

 

10/07/2012 at 14:17

Afterwards, if you go down on one knee, you may never get up, or she may just think you have collapsed.

I would suggest the night before also. Tell the rest of the family at the post race get together.

10/07/2012 at 14:32
Sansom wrote (see)

Thanks for the pessimism guys!  We have been together 6 years and have just bought our first house together and i'm 99.9% sure she would say yes. 

Why don't you ask her what she thinks of this idea instead of a bunch of strangers?

WiB
10/07/2012 at 14:33

Is she running it as well? What if she is faster than you?

WiB
10/07/2012 at 14:39
RicF wrote (see)
Sansom wrote (see)

Thanks for the pessimism guys!  We have been together 6 years and have just bought our first house together and i'm 99.9% sure she would say yes. 

Why don't you ask her what she thinks of this idea instead of a bunch of strangers?

Surely that would ruin any element of surprise?

10/07/2012 at 14:41

Why don't you propose in private now, get married on the morning of the marathon, run it together in your wedding kit with 'Just married' signs on your backs and dragging tin cans behind you, then have an informal reception and post-marathon pasta party...

10/07/2012 at 14:42

I think it's a nice idea!

Is she running with you or will she be supporting you from the crowd? If she's running with you, then at the finish line; if you do it at the start you will just spend the whole race wanting to celebrate.

Didn't a couple actually get married during the London marathon last year?

Edited: 10/07/2012 at 14:43
10/07/2012 at 14:44
runs-with-dogs wrote (see)

Why don't you propose in private now, get married on the morning of the marathon, run it together in your wedding kit with 'Just married' signs on your backs and dragging tin cans behind you, then have an informal reception and post-marathon pasta party...

I saw a couple like that at the Marathon du Medoc (minus the tin cans though), thought it looked very sweet!

10/07/2012 at 15:27
Sansom wrote (see)

Thanks for the pessimism guys!  We have been together 6 years and have just bought our first house together and i'm 99.9% sure she would say yes. 

Would she enjoy the public proposal?  Would she like loads of other people knowing you were going to ask her to marry you BEFORE you did it?

I'd definitely recommend a romantic (whatever romantic means to her, that is), quiet, proposal personally.  That way she gets to tell LOADS of people about it

10/07/2012 at 15:49
Catalin Bond wrote (see)
RicF wrote (see)
Sansom wrote (see)

Thanks for the pessimism guys!  We have been together 6 years and have just bought our first house together and i'm 99.9% sure she would say yes. 

Why don't you ask her what she thinks of this idea instead of a bunch of strangers?

Surely that would ruin any element of surprise?

Duh! I never thought of that  

10/07/2012 at 15:51
xine267 wrote (see)

I think it's a nice idea!

Is she running with you or will she be supporting you from the crowd? If she's running with you, then at the finish line; if you do it at the start you will just spend the whole race wanting to celebrate.

Didn't a couple actually get married during the London marathon last year?

Sorry didn't put that in, yep she will be running it also - we are running it together, not as an A or B race so it's more the experience. 

Wilkie wrote (see)
Sansom wrote (see)

Thanks for the pessimism guys!  We have been together 6 years and have just bought our first house together and i'm 99.9% sure she would say yes. 

Would she enjoy the public proposal?  Would she like loads of other people knowing you were going to ask her to marry you BEFORE you did it?

I'd definitely recommend a romantic (whatever romantic means to her, that is), quiet, proposal personally.  That way she gets to tell LOADS of people about it

I honestly think that public or quiet wouldn't make a difference to her. It's more the fact that I'm asking her to marry me. Thanks for your views though!  

Edited: 10/07/2012 at 15:52
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