What does everyone do for a job?

I kind of get what Wilkie is saying regarding financial independence.  When the former Mr TP decamped I got the real shitty end of the stick as far as money was concerned ie all the debts and none of the cash.  It took me several years (and a very lucky break with property) to get out of that one and build the lifestyle I have now.  I said I'd never ever risk getting into that situation again.

Mr TP2B does OK for himself and there is no pressure on me to get a job when I move down there as I know he'll happily pay for what I need and I trust him 100%. However, I still have this nagging fear of chucking my lot completely in with somebody else and I will be getting a job, I will be investing in another property to rent out and I will always make sure that my financial ass is covered . I also think I'd go mad if I didn't have some sort of structure to my life and work seems the easiest way to get that.

I keep hoping that someone will post an interesting story of what they did (or would be prepared to do) in order to get a job.

you mean like have a shave and wear a suit for the interview?

or more likely these days, work for free for six months in the hope you'll get a job at the end of it.

I work for HM Coroner investigating death. Before that I worked in debt recovery. One day i may have a job that doesn;t kill the conversation dead at dinner parties.

Still you must get free formaldehyde

2wheels wrote (see)

I work for HM Coroner investigating death. Before that I worked in debt recovery.

Are the two related..?

LIVERBIRD wrote (see)

But independence? No. I don't want independence. It sucks.

Not from my point of view.  I would hate to feel dependent, be reliant on someone else for absolutely everything. 

And what about when you buy him a present? 

You can't buy him much! He has pretty much everything he needs and all the stuff he wants runs into four and five figures.

He doesn't feel like he's buying it himself if that's what you mean? We have very clearly defined roles. He can't do what he does without what I do for him and I can't pay the bills if he doesn't work!

Co-dependency feels just fine to me. I don't hold anything back. He even knows the passwords to my bank account so he can see exactly where I've been if he wants. Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

2wheels wrote (see)

I work for HM Coroner investigating death. Before that I worked in debt recovery. One day i may have a job that doesn;t kill the conversation dead at dinner parties.

Is'nt your job DEAD boring?

ha ha see what i did there hey hey hey .....Im here all week folks!

Phlebotomy is another dinner party show stopper.

"So Doris, what do YOU do for a living"?

"I make 140 people a day bleed"

After 12 years in the Army 6 of which were in Bomb Disposal, I am now a IT manager. Not as exciting and the money is far better.

Marginally less chance of having your ass blown off though Adrian?

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seren nos wrote (see)

full time mother and wife.............

Same as Seren but the pay is shit so I'm considering gainful employment from this month onwards.

Convince me why I should.....

Independence, independence, independence!

I've never NOT worked, and I wouldn't be comfortable not earning my own money (unless I have a nice lottery win!)

I do earn it.

I cook, clean, wash, iron, taxi, run homework classes and a million other things. If Mr LB were to pay someone separately for everything I do, he'd be bankrupt!

I have never understood this "independence" thing. I have access to all our money. We're married. Two halves of the same coin. It's not his cash - it's ours. He doesn't view it as "his" money and tell me what to buy or I couldn't have stayed at home as long as I have. And I'd have divorced him!

The only reason I would go to work now is because the kids don't need me half so much as they did when they were little and I need to keep active.

But independence? No. I don't want independence. It sucks.

I think this is a really interesting one, I've been on both sides of the coin. Before I married, well also since marriage and before kids (very little gap to be fair); I was fiercely independent, I still am but in a different way. There is nothing wrong with making a family work and function as a priority, I can see what Wilkie is saying from her point of view without kids; but once the rugrats come, you all have to move as an all functioning and positive machine to be a unit. Whether you have money or not, the principles are the same.

I.e. someone has to stay home and look after the kids unless you want other people to bring your children up. I don't, it's my family.

£5.00, my chimneys need sweeping before winter.

It's such a shame that the role of housewife and mother has such little respect attached to it. As if bringing up kids is a piece of piss and doing it well doesn't require any brains.

When I first gave up work and people used to ask me what I did, I told them what I did pre-parenthood. It was as if there is no validity in raising children and I felt judged. Now I've come to the end of wiping snotty noses and reading bedtime stories, I accept that a (very long) career break has done my job prospects immense harm, but I don't think that is outweighed by the benefits I've had seeing my children grow up with me around for them.

Trying to explain to employers that I'm not thick and they should hire me is going to be interesting though. Watch this space

Run an injury / rehabilitation clinic. Part time train dogs.

Feral,

are the two tasks related?