"Why do parents let their kids get fat?"

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26/09/2012 at 17:45

Anyone see the item in BBC news today about childhood obesity?

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-19661085

Some interesting - and frightening - statistics in there, 33% of 11 year olds and 22% of 4-5 year olds are overweight or obese. One of the women featured in the article reached 20 stone in her teens, she said her mum wasn't to blame and that in fact she had tried to help by enrolling her in sports clubs, getting professional help and even going to the school to tell them what she should and shouldn't be eating ... I'm at a loss to think what else the parents could do in that situation?

 

kittenkat    pirate
26/09/2012 at 17:50

I let my kids get fat. They can eat what they want, nothing is restricted.

They are not fat, infact they are both the smallest in their respective classes.

So, I think there is more to this. What do you think that is?

Dave The Ex- Spartan    pirate
26/09/2012 at 17:53

a muzzle

26/09/2012 at 18:02

I find this a hard one.  My daughter is a bit overweight at age 9.  

SHe is 'sturdy' more than anything else although does have a belly and boobs.  She looks fine except when stood next to some of the really teeny girls her age who look several years younger.

During one week she does roughly 7 hours of sport a week (all be it not always with tons of enthusiasm). most of it gets her hot and sweaty.

During the summer she is outdoor all the time but once autumn hits Scotland - all the kids seem to disapear inside except for organised activities.

I am pretty strict with the quality of the food I have in the house  since she stopped being a wee skinny thing and got a bit sturdy - but I am loathe to start calorie counting or do anything to make her too conscious of what she eats other than the normal household's obsession (me, hubbie and eldest son) with health - she often asks what is the healthiest between various options. I also don't see her eating much and as I control her money and lunch box - there is nowhere else for her to get any rubbish from. I am in no doubt that she has a very sweet tooth but I keep as much sugar out of her diet as is humane (she is a kid after all).

 

My mum dieted her whole life - me and my sister are both normal weight and obsessed with our diets. I don't want this for my daughter (or son), but want her to be healthy too.

26/09/2012 at 18:43
Dave The Ex- Spartan wrote (see)

a muzzle

That made me laugh. 

26/09/2012 at 19:31
I think it depends. It can be partly due to parents choice bu just like gym addict says - it can sometimes be that they're just sturdy. My nephew plays sports at least an hour a day and he's a large lad but there's no fat on him - he's big but it's all muscle and little podge.
Blisters    pirate
26/09/2012 at 20:03

There's some and some in my opinion.

Around 9 years old a girl's body especially is going through a lot of changes, and it's a race between getting wider and taller. I have 2 daughters, and the younger one always had a penchant for a bit more of the unhealthy stuff than was necessary. Her podge has slowly falled away as she has approached her teens. Her elder sister is as skinny as Barbie, except for a tummy that sticks out. She doesn't eat enough, but does eat the wrong sort of "food" and likes a drink at the weekend. I blame the cider.

Any 5 year old is the product of the parents. End of story. Encouraging or allowing addictive habits like chocolate and pop after school or as a bribe for going shopping is a one way street as I see it.

You can call me biased, opinionated or rude, but you can't call me wrong.

 

26/09/2012 at 21:29

I think it might have a lot to do with video games, ds type things, laptops, phones with games, the internet, tvs in every room. It seems some parents are happiest when their kids are sitting in front of a screen.

Given the choice most normal kids would be out running around, kicking a ball or climbing the nearest tree - until Santa brings them something with a small screen and suddenly they turn into grunting, pale, grumpy game addicts.

Those things are banned from our house, and there is only one tv. The kids pretty much eat what they want, within reason, but I find after they have been playing outside for a few hours they are more likely to come in looking for a baked potato or bowl of soup than a packet of sweets - it's as though your body really does know what it needs.

As a seperate point, I was the "tubby" child in our house growing up; but not in a morbidly obese way, more that I just had a slightly different body shape and a rounder face than my wiry brothers and sisters. Looking back, I would have just naturally grown into my shape in my teens had I not taken on board a comment my own mother made to me that cut me to the bone (the word "dumpy" was in there.)

So began many years of eating disorder misery, bouts of skeletal-ness and obesity, which I am only now beginning to leave in my past.

So, if you have a child who is slightly larger than his/her brothers and sisters,  please be careful what you say to them as you are stepping on seriously dangerous ground. Chances are they know they are the "big" one, so you don't need to point it out to them. Gentle guidance and setting a good example work without anyone getting hurt.

 

26/09/2012 at 21:49
I saw a woman and child walking along the other morning at would have been going to school time. The woman was eating a doughnut and the child a chocolate 'lolly' on a stick. Amazingly, there was another child walking with them who was not eating at all.
seren nos    pirate
26/09/2012 at 22:21

I have 2 very slim sons and one chunky.he has always been chunkier.he has a broad barrell chest and solid legs.hit puberty very young.he is youngest but wider waist than his brothers.brought up in the same household...............

eldest eats the most crap but is very skinny........

youngest is not what i would call obese or fat but he must have a high BMI as he is so solid........

26/09/2012 at 22:34

The ingredients on the packet should read like a recipe. If they read like a formula for vermin control put it back on the shelf.

 

26/09/2012 at 22:50

Sorry springle, don't agree.  Mr C is a games programmer so we have computers galore in the house as well as Xbox etc.  Both Mr C and Little C are on the very slim side, play football, enjoy swimming etc but both enjoy computer games, little C as a treat.

26/09/2012 at 22:58

I have friends whose kitchens look like an explosion in a sweet factory and the kids are stick insects

My kitchen looks like it belongs to a health-nut (which it does) and yet both my sport-billy kids have puppy-fat..... 

I plan on sticking to encouraging lots of exercise (outdoors when possible - hockey and football are the favs at the minute) and emphasizing the health of foods rather than the fatteningness of them. I just hope I can do a better job encouraging a healthy attitude to food than my own mother did.  As someone earlier posted, I will never forget when at 16,my dad mentioned in passing that I was a bit chunky (coming from someone morbidly obese - this was a bit rich). 

 

I blame tv, video games, parent paranoia (no playing in the street!), bad weather and the vast quatities of sugar in foods marketed to children...... and myself of course but that surely is what every mother does.

 

( on the video game front - my son loves to run around outside but all of his pals want to sit in and play games online - so often he ends up just going with the majority)

Edited: 26/09/2012 at 23:00
27/09/2012 at 08:42

Eating healthy foods is only part of the solution. Portion control also comes into play. 
There's no point in providing healthy food if you could feed an entire nation with the quantity.

I see it at work - massive meals, most of which are unhealthy I have to admit, given to already overweight inactive adults. 3 or 4 shredded wheats with sugar and a jam sandwhich (2 slices of thich cut bread)  given for breakfast to an adult who is going to spend the day sat down watching TV for the most part. That's followed by mid morning snack, large lunch, mid afternoon snack and massive dinner. Then supper before bed.
These people are given more food in a day than I eat yet they do no exercise and I exercise daily. No one seems to get portion control or the notion that these people are overweight and carrying too much fat. It doesn't help that over half the staff are overweight or obese.

 

seren nos    pirate
27/09/2012 at 09:06

t mouse..........my boys all have very very big portions.................and they do not snack much......mainly fruit........

its hard to get the balance between bigger meals and reduce snacking or lots of smaller meals and snacks.......

seren nos    pirate
27/09/2012 at 09:09

portion control and eating healthily is really hard when you actually really love food......

some peopel aren't that bothered and so its easier for them to do without....

same as some people need their fix of exercise and if you got told you can't run for a month oer had to cut down to one mile a day.people would suffer........otrhers would find it easy..

similar to sex.if we were all told not sex for a month or to cut back to once a month for the rest of your life...........some people would find it a lot easier to do than others..........

so its not just will power or lack of it...........its harder for people who get a lot of their life pleasures for food....not saying it can't or should't be done.....but it is harder......

27/09/2012 at 09:31

The thing is seren, these people for the most part eat very little fruit or veg. They don't like it so wont eat it. They don't have the ability to understand that fruit and veg is good, sweets, biscuits, cakes etc are treats. they want a regular diet of the bad things.

Some do like fruit and veg and will eat it. but that is given in addition to the bad stuff, not in exchange. So an item of fruit is given mid morning along with goahead bars or cake and biscuits.

These people need to lose weight for their health and mobility yet no one seems to understand why they are not loosing any.

It's not really about pleasure - if we had pleasure all the time we would not go to work, not do any housework, not care about others etc etc etc. So if food is your pleasure you have to learn to ration it. I like food, I like wine, I deny myself because I don't want liver disease or to be drunk all the time or to be unfit and overweight. I exercise because I enjoy being fit granted. It doesn't hold that much pleasure for everyone.

You can't justify greed in whatever shape or form it takes.

27/09/2012 at 10:09

Cinders - obviously you have the balance right in your house, with the little one enjoying swimming and football and the computer games being viewed as a "treat."

The children/parents I was referring to are the ones who choose video games over football and swimming, and thus have no balance in their lives. Some of those kids would never see daylight if it wasn't for going to school.

kittenkat    pirate
27/09/2012 at 10:15

I think that there are so many different aspects to this, our culture rewards people with food in various ways, food is also seen as emotional, social, an opportunity to bond over etc...

I also think that nutrition needs to be very carefully taught, I don't believe in 'good' and 'bad' foods, and I think there's always going to be a problem when people are told not to do something.

They want to do it more!

Also habit plays a big part in our comfort of day to day things.

27/09/2012 at 10:41

I agree Kittenkat - nutrition does need to be taught, and from an early age, in my opinion.

It really helps if you get the kids into the kitchen so they can cook their own dinner and see just what goes into their meals. The usual kids favourites like chicken nuggets, fish fingers and pizza - or last nights' yummy chicken curry -  can be made from scratch at home with very little difficulty (and often a lot of fun) and my two think they taste much better than shop-bought ones. I tell them it's because we know what is in them - and when you buy factory-made you really don't know - or want to know.

The only drawback is the cost. The ingredients for tonights' fish pie came to almost £10. Not a huge amount to feed five people, but I could have bought a ready made one for half the price.

The food companies are scraping the leftover trimmings off the factory floor, adding some fat to improve the texture, adding a mountain of salt or sugar to improve the taste, and then selling it as "food" to people on a budget. We will never get the obesity crisis under control until everyone is able to afford real food. Sure, fifty chicken nuggets for a pound looks like a good deal for someone on the poverty line, but what on earth is in them? Not much "chicken," that's for sure.

 

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