Why should married women change their names?

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14/03/2013 at 20:47

I kept my maiden name when I got married.  I *was* going to try double-barrelling it with hubby's name, but I realised that I'd have to PAY to change it by deed poll - as this is still considered very left field in this progressive country we live in (!). then I'd also have to pay for new passport, driving licence etc. Free if you just take husband's name.  Stupid system so I CBA in the end.  I like my maiden name and I've had it for nearly 40 years.  Also I'm a feminist and am not keen on the idea that I give up part of my identity just cos I'm married (why are people to afraid to say they are feminists here? Am also a Guardian reader :-P)

Kids- I've got two kids by two different dads, both of whom have double barrelled names, my name and their resepective dad's name ("council" according to someone else on here!?). If they want, they could choose just one when they got older. Up to them, makes no difference to me.  Fairly straightforward stuff I'd think

15/03/2013 at 23:36
I did change my surname when I married the first time. When I reverted to my own surname again I realised how much it was a part of the real me. Second time, I stuck with my name and he stayed with his.
16/03/2013 at 10:43

I quite fancy your surname. Perhaps I should borrow it.

16/03/2013 at 23:42
17/03/2013 at 18:28

Yeah, I like having that extra syllable

17/03/2013 at 23:11
I think changing your name to take on a spouse's is very old fashioned now. I changed my name upon my divorce. I had to inform every single professional contact and received many congratulations 'on my marriage...'. I enjoyed correcting their misconception and assuring them congratulation was still very much in order

I will keep this name forever because its my identity and another person won't change that.
17/03/2013 at 23:12
I do love Rickster comments. They always make me laugh and sometimes I wonder if he actually means them.
17/03/2013 at 23:38
OW wrote (see)
I do love Rickster comments. They always make me laugh and sometimes I wonder if he actually means them.

Of course not. I'm just joking with you. Now fetch me a cup of tea wench! 

18/03/2013 at 17:18


18/03/2013 at 17:36
For some reason Suzie didn't take my name when we got married
18/03/2013 at 18:27

I have no problem with double barreled names as long as they don't sound stupid.  I think it can actually help in a situation where someone wants to keep their birth name to use for their career, but also want to take their spouses name.  It can make things easier with any children as it provides a link between the parents and the child

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