Has your training/racing ever caused tension or friction in your household?

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kittenkat    pirate
01/02/2013 at 10:38

How does your partner feel about your running, do they do any exercise?

(I know we've done this thread before, but not for a while, and seeing I've had to come home to look after poorly daughter, I feel the need to be entertained, so I don't feel tempted to attack the housework)

*smiley face*

Tommygun2    pirate
01/02/2013 at 10:48

When I first started seriously training it did used to piss the Mrs off especially at the weekends. I would be totally useless after a long run and just lay around the house "recovering".

 But then she saw the benfit of me getting off my arse to do somethng positive and allways comes to races with me. Plus I tend to running first thing in the morning now while the rest of the family are still asleep.Also with being fitter my recovery is much quicker.

oh and she used to moan that I spent far to much time on here talking to on- line freinds and even meeting up with on-line friends....

kittenkat    pirate
01/02/2013 at 10:53

D knows that I'd be a nightmare if I couldn't run. I've always been involved in sport so it's nothing new. When I was training really long, that caused tension as our kids were young and I was a bit neurotic about it all

D used to cycle to work and back but with my new job it's generally him that does school drop off/pick up, so the cycling has gone a bit by the board. He does use the gym at work regularly. He keeps fit to feel good, but he doesn't have my competitive streak.

 

kittenkat    pirate
01/02/2013 at 10:55
Tommygun2 wrote (see)

oh and she used to moan that I spent far to much time on here talking to on- line freinds and even meeting up with on-line friends....

Yeah that actually caused more tension in our household at a point I was online a lot. Looking back I was depressed and bored as I was only working part time.

Now life is much busier, I'm much happier and consequently online much less.

 

 

Tommygun2    pirate
01/02/2013 at 11:06
kittenkat wrote (see)
 

Now life is much busier, I'm much happier and consequently online much less.

 

 

Same here, I tend to lurk more than post these days if I look at RW at all.

The fun threads are far to few these days anyhoo.

Bring back D2D, at least it made for interesting threads

Edited to say I am at work but with nothing todo today....hence posting on here

Edited: 01/02/2013 at 11:07
01/02/2013 at 11:11

My Squeeze runs and cycles too, and does other sports that I don't,

We met through running, (well, RW), and we were both running before we met, so it's never been an issue between us. 

In my previous relationship, my ex wasn't very interested, but he didn't find it a problem.

Edited: 01/02/2013 at 11:12
kittenkat    pirate
01/02/2013 at 11:17
Tommygun2 wrote (see)
kittenkat wrote (see)
 

Now life is much busier, I'm much happier and consequently online much less.

 

 

Same here, I tend to lurk more than post these days if I look at RW at all.

The fun threads are far to few these days anyhoo.

Yeah, it can all be a bit serious on here now. We need to rob another bank or Barbie needs to hit the headlines again with her Slutternly ways! (Is that a word?)

01/02/2013 at 11:17

i think im in the early stage of annoying everyone!

im moving this weekend and told everyone that im doing my 13LSR they just huffed and said "your always running, cant you miss 1 week"

little did they know i would of been done and back by the time they actually decided to move stuff 

kittenkat    pirate
01/02/2013 at 11:21

It's got to be better than 'you're always on pron sites or getting too friendly with sheep'

 

Tommygun2    pirate
01/02/2013 at 11:25

Whats a Pron Site KK

01/02/2013 at 11:29

I am lucky as Mrs CC run also so does not have an issue. W hen training i try and work round when she works late.   She did get a holiday from work when i ran a marathon abroad a few years back but had to raise money for the charity she works for. 

KK - Now life is much busier, I'm much happier and consequently online much less.

Yeah right!

 

kittenkat    pirate
01/02/2013 at 11:29

Like porn but with the middle bits in the wrong place. Kinky huh?

01/02/2013 at 11:47

my missus is quite happy that I run, she spent years as a snowboard instructor, and loves to swim, so she understands the need for a regular fix that physical activity gives. Her best friend is a coreographer and former dancer with the royal ballet, and my missus is quite into dancing and physical expression too. So although she's not a runner, she appreciates my interest.

I can imagine it is different if a couple have both been sedentary for years and then one partner takes up sport and starts to look and feel better. I suppose it could feel like a kind of betrayal. Not only are they doing something new that might not include you (bound to be scary if there are any underlying insecurites about the relationship) but because it's sport the potential benefits is that one partner begins to look better, which may be quite threatening. The sedentary partner may even feel resentment that they're not as healthy (for healthy, read attractive) by comparison, which could cause conflict. They look like a different person, do they still want the same things, are they happy with me, etc?

So i can see how any change in the dynamic of a relationship might cause unease, but if it's handled well i don't see why it shouldn't work.

01/02/2013 at 11:47
I'm home with poorly boy today kittenkat, and having now had 2 very broken nights sleep I am feeling NO incentive to go and do housework!

I've only been running for about 6-10 months (started about 10 months ago, but really got into it about 6 months ago), but I've managed to nag my other half into running too. Since I manged that, we tend to egg each other on to actually get out there and do it.
kittenkat    pirate
01/02/2013 at 12:03

Hope he feels better soon Shona. I had my eldest off on Wednesday and now little one has been off for 2 days.

kittenkat    pirate
01/02/2013 at 12:05
Cheshercat wrote (see)

I am lucky as Mrs CC run also so does not have an issue. W hen training i try and work round when she works late.   She did get a holiday from work when i ran a marathon abroad a few years back but had to raise money for the charity she works for. 

KK - Now life is much busier, I'm much happier and consequently online much less.

Yeah right!

 

Tis true, which shows you how much I used to be on here!

I'm too busy at work, plus it's an open plan orifice.

01/02/2013 at 12:06

Occassional 3rd degree friction burns. Not from the running but from the consequences i.e. several pairs of wet trainers all over the house, sweaty clothes, rollers and massage balls etc cluttering up the place. It's fairly minor.

Booking a marathon on our 1st day of a holiday in Wales was not so popular. Faking a spring in my step for the next 6 days of hill walking quelled that one.

Whats more bemusing than a source of friction is the 'Recovery run' days, as in "No running session today dear, just a quick recovery run", with the usual reply "Explain that one to me again".

01/02/2013 at 12:55

my husband exercises loads, but not solely running, he does off track MTB and swims like a fish, i swim badly so i don't go with him often, he doesn't mind me running , i often go alone, we try to do parkruns together if work allows,

i like my alone time , sometimes he comes and makes up his own version of what i'm doing, bit annoying , but hes very supportive,

and yes, biggest complaint of either exercising is leaving dirty stuff everywhere , particularly wet trainers  on the rad

the house resembles a kind of messy sports shop, the girl ice skate, and play netball, theres is usually sports kit out in every room ,

he complains any event i mention costs too much, yet buys ridiculously expensive cycle parts  - ooo  i feel instantly irritated thinking about it , let alone fishing tackle costs - angling... burns fewer calories than any other sport lol

01/02/2013 at 13:21

I returned to running after 11/12 year break ( I did run when I met my wife) I started again two years ago to lose weight (I shed 3 stone) - my wife does resent it big time as following the birth of our son she did gain weight and although she did start running to do the race for life and felt better for it but gave up. I supported her every step of the way and took her an her friend to the event looked after our son. But nothing would induce her to come along to watch me. She put all sorts of obstacles in my my way when I first started back - so I started running at 5:30 am so long before she gets up so no longer an issue - but she still would love me to stop. She works two days a week in the winter, 3 in the summer so if she really wanted to do something she could easily go for a walk/ride/swim. I don't take the p*ss with it. Don't belong to a club ( although I am an honorary member of my old club) I only do 3/4 races a year, none of which compromise family life so I continue and will continue - would just like a bit of support sometimes.

Edited: 01/02/2013 at 13:22
01/02/2013 at 13:57
Grendel3 wrote (see)

I returned to running after 11/12 year break ( I did run when I met my wife) I started again two years ago to lose weight (I shed 3 stone) - my wife does resent it big time as following the birth of our son she did gain weight and although she did start running to do the race for life and felt better for it but gave up. I supported her every step of the way and took her an her friend to the event looked after our son. But nothing would induce her to come along to watch me. She put all sorts of obstacles in my my way when I first started back - so I started running at 5:30 am so long before she gets up so no longer an issue - but she still would love me to stop. She works two days a week in the winter, 3 in the summer so if she really wanted to do something she could easily go for a walk/ride/swim. I don't take the p*ss with it. Don't belong to a club ( although I am an honorary member of my old club) I only do 3/4 races a year, none of which compromise family life so I continue and will continue - would just like a bit of support sometimes.

I think that's a bit of a strange attitude. Fine if she doesn't want to do it, fine if she worked full time and really needed the extra support but since she has free time of her own and your running doesn't seem to impinge much on family life why shoud she want to you to stop?

 

 

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