I agree, don't think you're over exercising. i'm a mother of 2, work full time and some how i manage to fit in 3 runs a week and 2/3 games of squash which i try to play at lunchtimes. My partner plays golf and not much else but knows how important sport is to me for my mental as well as my physical health.
Is there any way she could join you for at least one of your activities? In the summer the children and partner cycle with me on my long runs.
i do get pangs of guilt but it is a question of balance.