VLM with a newborn

Well, not WITH a newborn ...

16 messages
23/12/2013 at 23:51

Hi chaps,

I'm just after a bit of advice and your thoughts, especially if anyone has ever been in a similar precidament ...

Basically, I'm entered to run the VLM in April after deferring from last year due to injury (so I can't defer again). However, my wife gave birth to our beautiful son (our first) on Wednesday. He's amazing but it's been quite a shock to the system what with the sleepless nights/chaotic days etc.

I've not been out since he was born. And at the minute, I can't see how I'm going to be able to commit to running 3/4 times a week.

My wife is very supportive and wants me to do the VLM, because she knows how much it means to me but I'm just wondering if it's better to cut my losses, not do it this year but apply each year until I get in again?

Has anyone ran with a baby in the family? How did you find it?

Many thanks and look forward to your response.


24/12/2013 at 08:07

You should be able to fit it in, but agree with your wife times when you will run and times when you will look after the baby so she can get out/get some sleep/have a break. Or you could get a jogging pushchair and do some runs with the baby. Maybe accept that you are going for completion rather than a pb so that you are getting enough training done to get round rather than a massive amount. You could run early mornings so that you have time in the evenings to spend with the family. 

Cheerful Dave    pirate
24/12/2013 at 09:09

It's difficult if you want a schedule that says that you have to run X miles at Y time of day, especially at first.  You have to be prepared to fit in what you can when you can at short notice, which might mean early morning one day, late evening the next.  It'll get easier as you all get used to your new circumstances.

24/12/2013 at 09:15

if you start the training you can stop later if it isn't working out. If you don't get moving now, you won't be fit for the race, and you will Have closed off the option.


24/12/2013 at 10:04

Have a look in the shades training thread leeee. He and others train on very limited time/mileage. 

It can be done but with strict discipline. 

Also if it's not going great, right it off, Run/walk it and soak up the atmosphere 

seren nos    pirate
24/12/2013 at 10:15

just play it by ear.........

if doing the runs makes you too tired to enjoy your time with your family then bin it........you might find the fresh air brightens you back up .......

go with your instincts.if you want to spend your spare time with the baby then do....there will always be more marathons

24/12/2013 at 11:03

Thanks all. Some really good stuff. Will definitely investigate the shades training thread. Thanks again.

Oh, and,

Nick Windsor 4 wrote (see)

Get a grip, it's not like you've given birth, it's fuck all to men

The 1970's rang. Please can you return at your earliest possible convinience.

24/12/2013 at 12:21
Agree with seren nos, there will be other marathons but your son will only be a baby once & don't underestimate how much your wife needs your support - if only to give her chances to nap/rest. A newborn is/can be all-consuming. You could try & get away with three runs a week but don't put yourself under too much pressure since you might find yourself in a position (like I did) of stretching yourself too thinly & not doing any of those roles properly. I ended up prioritising wife & child and putting running on hold until the shock of a newborn eased into something resembling a routine. And I'm glad I did. But each family is different & you'll work out what is/isn't working.

Good luck!!!
24/12/2013 at 17:57

I'm a bit mystified as to why you've not been outside since the baby was born a week ago!

Many people have babies and continue with the rest of life - going out, going to work, running, etc.


24/12/2013 at 19:32

When I say I haven't been out since the baby was born - I meant out running. Of course I've been out of the house for other things.

I guess my original question should have just been "Has anyone had experience of running with little or no sleep and what effect does it have?".

I am well aware of how natural child birth is and what other people do in their daily lives. I am also aware that many of my male colleagues and good friends suffered sleep deprivation in the first few weeks/months of having a newborn! It's a fact.

Anyway, thanks for ALL the contributions. Really appreciate you taking the time. Merry Christmas.


27/12/2013 at 14:57

If you really want to do this, you could find a postnatal doula to come in two or three times a week to help your wife when you're not there.

27/12/2013 at 15:32
Flob wrote (see)

 In this day and age the only thing a woman really does on her own is squeeze the baby out.

and they kick up such a fuss about that as well.



seren nos    pirate
27/12/2013 at 17:15

what is a doula.........???


and remember every baby is different..sometimes you hit lucky with an angel who will sleep half the day and hardly ever cry.....and sometimes you get the baby from hell......no two situations are the same so learn to adapt.

28/12/2013 at 12:27
seren nos wrote (see)

learn to adapt.

So very true, just get on with it, the more you fret the less you'll do, life is different with a child but it doesn't mean time stands still, everyone's been there and guess what, we mainly survive, don't turn it into a crisis and it won't be one

cougie    pirate
28/12/2013 at 14:29
It all depends on the baby - some are good and sleep most of the time - others are buggers and are awake.

Get used to loooooong walks with the pram. Ok it might not be marathon specific training - but its a lot better than being cooped up inside.
29/12/2013 at 23:54

Thanks for the advice guys, just seen the latest posts.

Decided that I'm going to give this my best shot.

I've treated myself to some new running shoes (updated to Saucony Omni 12) and things have settled down baby wise.

I should have maybe said but I'm not a very good runner anyway, so I am going to be happy with anything less than 5 hours. Some of you could probably walk it in that!

Cheers again for all the advice. I'll let you know how i get on.

Edited: 29/12/2013 at 23:54

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