Want to race but cant

Wow you have a problem but it's not a running problem. You say in your first post you and your OH enter the same races, why? enter alternate races and whichever of you does the run, the other takes the kids.

Life is a compromise

Couldn't you dump him, abandon the kids and have them taken into care, and then you could do what ever you want when ever you want ?

Or like the rest of us you could compromise... But I do think getting rid would be easiest and most sensible.

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letting my 10yr old go to the park or home alone versus leaving him in an unknown city at a busy place like the finish line.

not really the same are they ?

seren nos wrote (see)

out of interest........those who wouldn't leave their children at the finish line......... do you ever leave them at home for an hour

Not a chance.......... Leave our kids alone in th ehouse for an hour.... It would be stripped and my good scotch drunk...

(NB Our youngest is 22 YEARS old)

EG Graham wrote (see)

There is clear factual evidence that no harm will come to a child in this lone situation, I recently watched an American documentary on this actual subject with Macauley Culkin  

Jeepers wrote (see)

And just to emphasise this, EG, a second documentary was produced a few years later and again, no harm was caused to Master Culkin, although the adults in his charge did suffer somewhat.

What's this stuff doing on a Runners' Forum?

If he were signed on for a football team he'd need every Saturday afternoon from August through to May plus a training night which could easily clash with your pilates class, for instance. There are plenty of us on here I'm sure that have been through this as children and parents, and have come out ok at the other end without ever feeling the need to air their problems on a public forum.

Ploddersoftheworldunite wrote (see)

What's this stuff doing on a Runners' Forum?

If he were signed on for a football team he'd need every Saturday afternoon from August through to May plus a training night which could easily clash with your pilates class,

Most races are on a Sunday tho, So it might be better if he played wendyball.....

Looking at the number of races your husband is planning, he'll be injured after a couple of months. Sorted!

Seriously - hope you can sort something out

That's it EG !!!

A match race Winners take all, Winner gets first pick of any race they want to do, Loser spends the next 25 years in the kitchen bringing up the kids

Well it worked in the 50's so why not now ?

wow I was going to reply individually but lost track, some funny posts there

thanks everyone for your contrtibution for the entertainment value!  Seriosuly, there are some valid points and some silly ones and some wishful thinkig ones. You guess which is which.

And he is not that bad, if he is being very competitive he is hiding it well (i think is more of a case he thinks that is not an issue leaving them waiting at the end) as he always encourages me and shows intertest in my running (may be checking the competition - lol) Genuinely so. He is a hands on and loving daddy otherwise! And he does wants to do some races with me, to share the experience but if we do then we will have to plan and perhaps get a baby sitter, as someone mentioned.

I'll talk to him (again) when he comes back home; "darling we need to talk.....

I'll let you know the outcome, stay tuned! 

Slow_coach wrote (see)

I'll talk to him (again) when he comes back home; "darling we need to talk.....

Don't start that way, He'll think you have gone off sex !!!