The pad in your cycling shorts is know as a chamois (if you didn't know),as in years gone by was it was a real chamois, but these days it's synthetic chamois. I then use this stuff, i know some folk use vas but this has a lovely cooling effect when you put it on that I like, sends a shiver down my spine when I first put my shorts on! Think the ky would have you sliding too much!
You might find that if your bike has a blokes seat it's not designed for you sensitive areas, You can buy womens specific saddles, Although is suspect it's like mens seats, It's all down to personal choice. I can't imagine that it's comfy for women sit on a bike saddle. I find the more I do the less pain I get in the gusset area. Although I do always start to rise down there when I come to some traffic lights and get off the saddle, which can't be a good sign, and also after a good ride in the bedroom it will stand up but won't do the rest. Also I don't think that's a good thing!
Think I'm not going to bother doing Scotland, as enjoying my cycling too much to drop if.
