Mental illness and running

I wanted a place where we could get advice and support.

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08/01/2013 at 10:14

Morning mr f. You have already contributed loads with that article. It struck such a chord with me as stress was my trigger. I was made to feel totally inadequate at work for breaking down and that article has given me a new focus so thank you. And sometimes its just nice to chat, we don't have to be experts so please hang around. 

 

08/01/2013 at 10:21
Soupy I'll change the case when I get on a computer
I'm still happy about Bear's big adventure. Guessing he's asleep having been up til 3 being too excited to sleep.
I your name Soupy
Mr F you don't need to make a marked contribution, even if all you do is grunt from time to time and help yourself to virtual tea we're still enriched for having you with us.
Hope you really are recovering from the setback, I think its sometimes hard for people to understand how frustrating and difficult getting back on your feet is too.
I worked in the same place for three years, I thought it was pretty open but I had an argument with someone who wasn't there in the middle of the open plan office. I was off for 9 months and when I came back people barely spoke to me. My team of 10 did the tea round over my head and didn't include me. I felt like quitting. Then one day someone had left his headphones plugged into the computer another colleague joked that he was hearing voices. I saw them clock me then burst out laughing at the mortified looks on their faces. It was easier after that, I answered a few questions about what had happened and what it was like. It turned out that they didn't know what to say, said nothing then didn't know how to make amends. That said I didn't ever feel like part of the team again
08/01/2013 at 10:30
Thanks.... That sounds truly awful solb, thankfully my workplace issues are more quiet ignorance as opposed to out and out bullying its more as if you are expected to be strong and these issues shouldn't effect you. I am on the up, but the last 8 months have been a horrific experience. Thanks for the welcome again, for noting I'm an Earl Grey drinker!
08/01/2013 at 10:41
The expected to be strong is so irritating I hate when people assume a personal failing. They wouldn't if someone with chronic back pain had another flare up. If pulling socks up really worked we'd all have done it a very long time ago, no one wants to be in pain, especially not so much pain it takes you to the depths of despair.
I don't think the guys at work meant to be cruel they were just crippled with ignorance and social embarrassment.
Since I came out about my mental health problems I've been overwhelmed by the support I've had. Not always from the people I'd expect it from. Life is definitely happier not keeping the secret
08/01/2013 at 10:54

*puts kettle on and rummages in back of cupboard for Earl Grey* 

Hmmmm - I haven't dared tell me new colleagues about my difficulties. One of them asked why I was there for 2 months, and if I was a temp but I just said I wanted some varied experience. I might think about sharing some more when I've got to know a few better. I don't want to come accross as needy. 

I wonder if my old colleagues didn't talk to me out of embarrassment too? I didn't think of that, but they were quite nasty too and kept on saying that I didn't work hard enough even though I was doing the same work in less hours than them. Yesterday it was commented on how fast and accurate I type which was reassuring to hear. I'll just have to be carefull not to keep pushing too hard again, I'm obviously not really working slowly, so don't need to go overboard. 

08/01/2013 at 11:07
But of course mental illness is 'the curse of the strong'. That says a lot about the sufferers I think.
08/01/2013 at 12:13
I don't think there's any excuses for meaness and cruelty. Not just in regards to mental health but in life. I really don't think there's anything anyone can do that makes indifferently or maliciously inflicting unnecessary harm on them acceptable.

I am always wary of seeming needy too, even when I am in need! I often don't ask for help and try to brave stuff alone rather than risk being too needy ... Silly but true.

I think its sensible to hold off the confidence until you feel a bit more sure of your colleagues Soupy. There's nothing to be ashamed of and you have nothing to hide but equally you are very precious and you are doing really well it seems wise to check that your confidence won't be betrayed
08/01/2013 at 12:26
Weird double post removed.
Edited: 08/01/2013 at 12:45
08/01/2013 at 13:23

Popping in the say the bleeding obvious.........."the more I run the easier it gets and the more enjoyable it is".  

Thats it. 

08/01/2013 at 15:18
I've never had MH problems that impacted on my work but I found it very hard going back to my normal activities after being in hospital. Some people had visited me and moo. My concern was that would see me in the same way as the other patients when I came out. There are occasional references to it, but actually people have wanted to talk to me when they or their relatives have been ill. It actually gave an elderly gentleman the nudge he needed to get treatment when his depression became too much for him to handle.
08/01/2013 at 17:15

Oooh heck all yesterday's excitement has left me pooped!

Edited: 08/01/2013 at 17:26
08/01/2013 at 17:42

Bear, put your feet up and take a rest.
solb, yes I am going to follow Soupy and keep you in lower case letters. To answer your question GF food tastes OK but it tends to crumble more than normal stuff, years ago it tasted horrible, so have got used to eating freshly prepared and more natural foods. Although still like  eating biscuits and cakes.

The positive vibes worked, work was OK only had to make a couple of phone calls to get work signed off when completed. Everyone pleased with what I did, so onward and upward as the saying goes.

I would have popped in during the day, but work computers have a block on this site and many more but I can access the BBC News and travel reports for the buses and trains.

08/01/2013 at 17:55
Evening beautiful people
08/01/2013 at 18:25

Evening Bricki, hope you're doing a bit better today.  Will catch your diary entry later I expect.

Good to see plenty of good vibes around again today.  Mr F - echo what's already been sent really.  Your article certainly gave me plenty to think about, but even if you're just having a bad day, you know you can always talk about your problems on here and, at the very least, there'll be plenty of support and sympathy.

Right, half an hour to get tidied up in here then off to the running club.

 

08/01/2013 at 19:48

Mr F, sometimes we just need to know thatt there are other people there and listening, so even if you have nothing to contribute, the occassional post just to let us know you are listening is enough.

Solb, your texts might be short sometimes, but I'm learning to read between the lines.  I can often tell if you are genuinely ok but don't want to talk.

Bear, well done on going to the class.  It sounds great fun and I hope you can keep it up

Bricki, I confess that I'm not reading your blog.  I don't feel that it is in my own interests at the moment and that is no reflection on you at all.

08/01/2013 at 19:56

As for facing up to the workplace.  I had a breakdown a few years ago and had to take 8 weeks off work.  I was not looking forward to going back, particularly as I has been a right bitch to certain people in the week before being taken ill.

In the end I asked for a group meeting at the beginning of the day.  I explained to people that I had been off with stress and that coming back was really hard.  I told them that I wasn't fully better and could be a bit over emotional but that I was on the mend and was able to do my job.  I appologised for being nasty to people and said that I was glad to be back, and that if anyone had any questions at any point then please ask me.

The reception I got was good and all of the team welcomed me back.  I was treated the same as when I left, except that maybe people were a bit careful to keep stressful situations away from me.  The only person who had trouble with me was my boss, and to be fair she was the one mostly responsible for my illness.  I won't go into the details of how I was treated right now, but I had enough grounds to take her to a tribunal for constructive dismissal.  One thing I do want to stress is that only the one person was a problem.  Everybody else was fantastic, and if I'd known then what I know now about life in general, I would have done things differently to help her to understand how to deal with me.

Because of my boss, I felt forced to leave the company so I changed jobs as soon as I could.  In hindsight I'm glad that I did as I had been getting stale there anyway and the new job provided me wwith a lot of new and exciting opportunities.

08/01/2013 at 20:41
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08/01/2013 at 20:49
Wow, thanks all. Never has a forum been so welcoming. Your all truly inspirational. Well, today was my first day back at work since before Christmas. Im on reduced hours to break.me in gently over a period of 6 weeks. My immediate colleagues are supportive, its just higher up the food chain where the sympathy dies. Seeing my occ health doctor tomorrow for a catch up visit to ensure things are still on track. Then to the go again on Fri for a medication review. caz, I really like your approach to returning to work. I think many people are a bit scared of colleagues with mental health conditions. Maybe they don't know what to do or say or how to react? Your meeting was certainly a strong and positive way of dealing with your return to work and I'm sure they really respectedbyou for that
08/01/2013 at 22:07

Good to hear you're had a better day, Bricki.  Did realise you were a goalie as well.  I'll be in action in a cup game tomorrow night against the top team in our league.  It's not going to be dull.  I was about to announce my retirement but then got persuaded to take over running the team which makes it difficult now. 

Succesful run tonight - about 9k including the infamous hill.  I ran well on the flat but the hill soon got the better of me.  I have also volunteered as run leader when they start the extra group on Thursdays.

09/01/2013 at 00:12

Can relate to the problems at work being further up, Mr F.  I'm sure most of my colleagues would be supportive, but not entirely trustworthy in that there's no way of telling them without it getting to the top, so I don't,  Also agree it was a good approach from Caz in going back to work - and all the more admirable as, although it's the right thing to do, it must have been very difficult.

Getting back into can't be bothered to shift myself upstairs mode again, so really must make the effort.

Night all.

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