Mental illness and running

I wanted a place where we could get advice and support.

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23/03/2013 at 10:38

((((Soupy)))) It sounds like you are going through a really tough time.  Hang in there and don't forget that we are here if you need us

23/03/2013 at 10:41

Thanks Caz. I'm surprisingly well despite all the bad stuff. If anything I feel angry at how I've been treated and  when it builds up I go back to virtual pie therapy. Think I might need another course of counselling at the end of it all though just so I can move on without carrying baggage. 

23/03/2013 at 12:30

Hugs all round I think  (((everyone))).  Caz - in view of your Facebook message.  I think financial problems are more of a worry when you're on your own.  It does sound like you get lonely where you are and the financial situation makes it difficult to get out and about.  Obviously you've got to commit whatever you have to financially to the Channel Swim - there's no room for compromise there.  Is there anything more you could get involved in socially on a local basis without expense (that's the tricky bit!) to help take your mind off things?

Just got my referral letter to Mental Health.  Got to ring and make an appointment this week.  Oh well, here goes.  Really scared about this and upset that it's come to this but  it's got to be done.

23/03/2013 at 13:25

LR, my trouble is that I need to travel to get to the sea.  I combine my social trips with training events so if I cut back on the socialising then I also cut back on the training.  I'm currently doing very few social trips that don't involve a swim somehow.

This month has been hard as I haven't seen anyone for three weeks but thats because I can't justify the cost of travelling for a 10 min dip.  As the sea warms up the travel costs become better vvalue for money

If I wasn't doing the swim then there are loads of things I could cut back on - ditch the gym membership, wouldn't need to buy kit, could buy the cheapest foods rather than the most nutritionally balanced ones (and I would need less of it)... Those are the costs that are crippling me at the moment.

I'm trying to get to know people at the gym.  Before I moved the gym was a big part of my social life as well as my training.  We would meet up after training for a coffee, support each other at events etc.  I miss that aspect of it all, but its really hard to find the equivalent here.  My old club was very special in that aspect and I've not heard of anyone else having a gym quite like it.

23/03/2013 at 14:06

Ahhh, someone needs a hug - and a real one at that.

The swimming itself is certainly not proving the most challenging part of achieving your goal.  As you've said, it's where your finances are having to be prioritised and leaving you in debt.  The effect that that's having on you is proving a much tougher challenge for you.  You do need to think of everything that you're going through as part of the challenge of achieving the Channel Swim which is something you'll feel proud of for the rest of your life so it will all be worth it.

I certainly find for me, the challenges with running are not to do with the running itself.  I am physically fit enough to achieve my goal of a half marathon now but there are, of course, other issues that make it so much tougher for me to actually get out there and do it.  I did hint at this earlier on the mundane thread as comments like the fact that the weather makes it difficult to run do remind me how much easier it is for some people.  The weather will get better - errr eventually, I hope - and for people who have a problem with that, it's problem over.

Even so, it must be so tough when you're on your own on a Saturday afternoon and it's all got too much for you.  The three weeks 'solitary confinement' must certainly be making it difficult but hang on in there. 

23/03/2013 at 14:17

Its not that bad LR.  I have my friends and some of them are worth their weight in gold.  If I didn't have them I would be in a much worse place.  I might not be able to see them on demand, but they are at the end of the phone.

Several have made me cry today through being so wonderful

23/03/2013 at 14:22
I am not doing NDW50 anymore. Moo has tonsilitis and still isn't responding to the antibiotics, we have atrocious weather and I just dont want to go into it hoping I get round. I am gutted and relieved.
Soupy, I had to claim discrimination and constructive dismissal against my previous employers. They settled just before it went to hearing.
23/03/2013 at 14:28

Sorry you had to make that decision by 'eck, but at least you can stop worrying about it and start planning the next adventure instead

23/03/2013 at 15:33

Sorry to hear all your news by eck. Glad your previous employer settled in the end, but getting to that stage must have been stressful. I'm dreading having to write my statement which will be very long. And then I have to read what the other side say which will no doubt be lies. Its really awkward too when I still work for them. I think they will settle sooner rather than later though and they have mentioned they are trying to permenently redeploy me. I'm not bothered about getting money out of them unless it comes to constructive dismissal. Taking money from the NHS feels sort of wrong, I just want to go to work without being made ill. 

23/03/2013 at 15:38
I think the last part of that last sentence is brilliant, and would be a very powerful part of your statement, ((Soup))
23/03/2013 at 17:30
I agree with Frodo
23/03/2013 at 19:08
Hello, I'm new to the site and forum - just been reading the threads from this group and think you are all fab!

I signed up to do Brighton marathon last year as I have always liked running, and to be honest I felt like a complete failure and wanted an achievable target to work to. Luckily I braved up in December and went to the doctor as I had been feeling low for years and years - bullied at work, isolated, bad viral illness, work pressuring me back even though doc had signed me off, move to a new town knowing no one, low confidence and self esteem, away from close knit family....all leading to anxiety and chest pains and depression..the list goes on and I think it all got too much! I Got prescribed medication which has worked wonders and kept running which has made me feel amazing. My attitude has also changed, rather an a achievement this marathon training is making me feel better and healthy which I have now realised is the most important thing ever. The achievement element is still important and I proudly hang all my 5k, 10k and half marathon medals on my wall - and no matter how good or bad my time, I can't wait to hang my first ever Brighton marathon medal up next to them!

Sorry I've gone on a bit, but lovely to meet you all xx
23/03/2013 at 19:34

Welcome Dudey! *waves*

I'll be at Brighton to support a friend of mine who is doing her last marathon, so I'll cheer you on too

23/03/2013 at 19:48
Welcome Dudey
23/03/2013 at 20:18
Thanks guys got Hastings half tomorrow so just devoured a big dinner hhhmmmm. Have you all been running this weekend?
23/03/2013 at 20:23

Hi Dudey. 

Enjoy Hastings tomorrow. I did it a few years ago and the first half was really tough but I loved the race. I also love Brighton marathon so you've picked some fab races. Too cold for running today here. Well its not really I suppose but it was a good excuse. 

23/03/2013 at 20:41
Thanks Soup Dragon. I did my first half in Tunbridge wells half last month which was hilly too, I must try and find some flatter ones!! Too cold is a good excuse, which is why I gave myself a day off yesterday fingers crossed for some warmer weather!!
23/03/2013 at 21:09

I'm no longer a runner.  I swim now, but I ahve a shoulder injury so I'm not even doing that this weekend

23/03/2013 at 21:18
Oh no you poor thing, hope you get better soon. Hopefully when you're up going again it won't be so cold brrrrrrr!
24/03/2013 at 09:35

Sorry about your injury Caz. Hope that gets better soon.  

I'm off to the gym soon, might manage half an hour on the dreadmill.

Dudey - Brighton is flatter than a flat thing on the second half. And the first half hills aren't too bad. Wish I was doing it, such a great race. Beats VLM. 

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