Mental illness and running

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17/05/2013 at 19:21

I think you were wise in deciding to wait and see what happens regarding an offer, if they make an offer they may even be willing to negotiate. I'd negotiate to have a Bear working for me! 

17/05/2013 at 19:34

Not much I can do now anyway - they'll have finished work until Monday. They've got some more interviews then too - they said I'd probably hear Tuesday.


Wish I was one of these peeps who didn't keep thunking when it makes no difference I have a good plan of action so it's just wasted brain activity.


Have you got any jobs Solb?

17/05/2013 at 22:11

I think one job SOLB has is to read the book her best friend sent her today, right SOLB? *giggles mischievously*

Bear, that's completely the right approach. Wait for an offer and then negotiate. It sounds like you got on well with the panel, which counts for a lot! 

The 'lottie is great and saves us a huge amount in veg bills but it's bloody hard work. I almost gave it up last year. My plot is the weediest patch and had trees planted on it before I got it. After three years struggling, I've tarpaulined it over completely and am growing everything in boxes filled with...erm...shit It'll save my battered back from all the weeding and digging and it's giving me more space. Hurrah!

Off to Exeter tomorrow to see some friends of Mr.S. The chap is fine, the wife is really odd, I never know where I am with her. I like to think I'm pretty congenial but she's taken a dislike to me and I'm not sure why. I'm in hosp for an invasive procedure on Monday and I could do without it tbh, but I'll suck it up!

have good weekends all...I probably won't post for a while but I'll be thinking of all of you x

17/05/2013 at 22:54

Yes we really did seem to get on well, we even shared a few jokes.


I want to work there but I think it's very important to my mental health atm not to lose my social life.


I wish I could stop thunking!


We used to have an allotment when I was a kid - used to love getting fresh stuff

18/05/2013 at 00:03

Here's a CBT site if anyone's interested.

18/05/2013 at 10:17

Thats a good site Bear. Thanks

19/05/2013 at 14:43

Ahhh Sossidgey one I've read my book several times, seeing as you've brought it up I could post a snippet - don't worry I'll make sure I have correctly referenced the author though 

Ahh poor Bear, hope you have managed to find a distraction, if I'm ruminating on stuff that isn't helpful then I either run, find a distraction or stop thinking about it and write it down. Sometimes I think there are loads and loads of things frantically pressing down on me then when I've written it down I realise it's just a couple of big things recircling and being rephrased and a handful of not so important things that feel bad but when seen on paper aren't really so bad. I think feeling everything at once can make it hard to step back and be logical about whether the anxiety is either justified or helpful. You are doing really well, I promise going to the interview and doing so well in managing your anxiety and negative thoughts was an incredible achievement. Don't forget to credit yourself for that!

I have had an absolute blast at Hash's birthday party with By Eck. LR, Frodo, SCaz, T.Mouse and Foxy Lady, TP, Blouse - who haven't posted here before,,...(I am desperately hoping I haven't left anyone off my list!) 

I loved dancing about like a drunk daddylonglegs on a trampoline and getting to eat breakfast with everyone else ... and some cake OCD was pretty good though I needed to come away after breakfast and sort it. (and I'm covered in deeply unattractive OCD spots where I've clawed at the 'badness'; think crack whore meets tomato and that was me at the pub - oh but with a massive grin too!!) 

Oh it was so so much fun, I went for a very short run with the lovely Hash in the morning wearing neon pink stripey PJs and borrowed running shoes. I didn't have my inhaler so I was pretty wheezy but it was a nice way to spend the time out with Hash when I couldn't sleep this morning and the village is beautiful. 

I just feel on top of the world, I am so so ridiculously lucky to have such wonderful friends!! It's difficult to know where to start with being grateful for RW forumites who have become such real, deep friends. 

Plus I have aquired a tent which has promised to take me and not-calling-each-other-girlfriend-yet-but-totally-are R away camping in Cornwall  

Bear, I was very sorry not to see you, hope everything was OK.  Incidentally has anyone heard from Bricki? Does he still post to his blog? I know that Ben-o is busy IRL but from the very occassional snippet I see of him on FB I think he's OK. 

Why am I rambling? Love to all absent friends would probably be easier to write!! 

I am so tired, 3 hours sleep in the last 3 nights but every waking moment more than worth it. What a lovely positive end to the week. 


PS. I totally kicked OCD's butt this weekend !!!

19/05/2013 at 14:45

Soupy your post has only just appeared - how are you getting on? I've been thinking about you this week and wondering if the worky stuff is getting any better. 

It's so nice to hear from you  

19/05/2013 at 15:36

Yay to kicking OCD's butt!


I was really sorry I couldn't make it and see all the lovely peeps but I'd double booked with an improv  show - where I had fabulous fun and got a buzz that is still going - yay!

19/05/2013 at 20:07

Just been investigating and Bricki last commented on another RW forum a few weeks ago and has still been active on

Great news about the OCD, SOLB.  Great to meet you at last.  I thought you seemed on good form - but obviously have no past experience to judge upon - so it's good to hear that there were no OCD problems you were having to cope with.

20/05/2013 at 13:07

Oh Bear I am so thrilled you are getting so much out of the improv! 

I've been asleep all morning, was really tired but feeling much brighter now  

Still no news from the Psychologist after she postponed out last appointment, selfishly I'm really hoping she's not about to go off on long term sick cos I really liked her and felt we could work really well with each other. 

It was lovely to see you too LR, I was on good form, had a lot of fun! You didn't seem too anxious either

20/05/2013 at 14:14

Boo about the psych Solb


I'm now frantically trying to organise groups to prtform with for two shows - trouble is not everyone can make the same dates but I can and I can see myself getting caught between the two. No way I'm giving up my new fab hobby for a job so I really hope the job doesn't need me to work evenings.


In other buzzing bear news, a rather pretty girl said at the bar after the show that she loved one of my characters.  We got chatting and it turns out she's the girlfriend of the improv class teacher, so no joy on that front but I've since found out that she normally performs with one of the leading improv groups in the country so high praise indeed

20/05/2013 at 14:22

Awww I'm glad the pretty girl gave you a fantastic compliment even if there's no romance in the air! 

Sounds like very very high praise indeed! 

I have just ordered some flowers to be sent to a pretty girl She'll be kind of embarrassed but I hope in a nice way *wibble*

20/05/2013 at 18:28

Ooo the flowers couldn't be delivered today but on the plus side they'll be sent tomorrow with a free upgrade  

I have just been bitten by the laundry basket while I was ignoring the ironing ... most rude! 

20/05/2013 at 19:29

Yay good news


I need to find a pretty girl to do nice things for

20/05/2013 at 19:33

Just had a quick catch up, hello everyone!

20/05/2013 at 19:34

Hi, Rwtw, how's things with you?

20/05/2013 at 19:38

Good thanks! I'm all excited as have a project on the go - my best friend who also has recovered from an eating disorder was saying how she wants to do a photoshoot with people who have recovered / are recovering from eating disorders / depression (she's a photographer). i suggested putting it in with some articles of recovery etc etc...and now i'm very keen to do it! positive message of recovery and give people hope that they can become comfortable in their own skin.

20/05/2013 at 19:47

Good stuff.  To add to the positive vibes, I can say that I seemed to be in a fairly good mood at work today and was quite chatty with colleagues instead of wanting to just hide away.  A bit of mundane therapy certainly helped there.  Still feeling exhausted though  so have opted out of trying to get back to running tonight.  Plan is to do it tomorrow night.

20/05/2013 at 20:10

Ooh sounds good rwtw


Well done on the weekend LR

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