How do you get going again after pregnancy?
That looks ace, gutted there isnt one in bristol!
Thanks for the advice MM - we have got a good evening (bottle, story and bed at 8 ish) and morning (cozy feed and cuddles in bed at 6 30 -7ish then we all fall back to sleep, I get a shower at 9 45 and girls wake up at 10ish) ... daytimes are a bit more haphazard as I amout and about lots but I have been making a mental note and the girls seem to nap around 11 30 and again late afternoon so maybe I need to try to be a bit more consistant with that.. They have bouncy chairs and sat in them for the first time without wailing today - seemed to enjoy watching me get my lunch with a running commentary! I did meet up with a group of twin mums last week but it seemed all they did was moan.... may just have been a bad day so will go again next week.
Ap - I have 1 sling which is great if one baby is wingy or awake while the other is asleep (usually sends the other off to sleep too!) You can get a double but it is very expensive and I am not sure how long you would be able to use it without killing your back. Your 8 week check sounds horrendous! Will be interesting to see how mine compares next week. My 6 week check was quite thorough with an abdo exam, BP, bloods and 10 min chat.
This is definitely getting like the pregnancy forum!
Monkey Runner, you'll get to that concert. Expressing and freezing works a treat, and topping up with formula is a good backup (especially as just for a couple of days). Although I didn't stick with b/feeding for that long, both mine started with it and I expressed from word go. Both were offered a bottle from two weeks old (late evening feed about 10.30pm) as per MM and there was no problem with confusion. My HV told me to make sure I did offer a bottle at this stage, just for one feed, to ensure there were no issues. You will need to express while your away - otherwise you will explode! - but you can just chuck it away.
Hetty, obviously not having twins I can't imagine how it is juggling two babies, however I've used a fairly clear routine with both my children and it works great for us. Baby sleeps well so are happy when when awake, alert enough to play and eat properly and hence they sleep well. A kind of circle really. It definitely helped when no. 2 came along as that is probably the closest I had to juggling two - and they both had different needs. As they get bigger, they get better at entertaining themselves anyway. I can remember trying desperately to entertain Joshua in the early days and all he did was winge and cry and I got nothing done. Getting him in the routine and being a little bit 'tougher' worked a treat. I found with no. 2 that sometimes you just have to ignore the noise! If Scarlett has to whinge for 10 mins while I get something done, then so be it!
I went running in the rain on Weds eve too, a club run and the longest I have done yet. Didn't quite plan to run 8 miles!! Our club hosts a 10km race in Sept, the Alice Holt 10km and we decided to go and run the course, of course, I forgot we also needed to run from our clubhouse and back again. Returned home about 8.30 soaking wet, covered in mud and as stiff as a board. My hamstrings feel like they have turned into cement! Trying to get some biking in too as it is now about four weeks until my first effort at a duathlon.
If it's any consolation to you guys, the whole system gets even more relaxed once you get to no. 2 pregnancy! Thankfully I have a lovely Health Visitor because every other element of the system seems to fall apart when it comes to continuity!! At my 8 week check this time around it was really just for Scarlett, I don't think my doc asked me anything about me, and I had been highlighted for Post-natal depression risk after having it with Joshua and the results of my survey this time. Thankfully, although it's definitely still lurking this time, it's nothing like I had with Joshua - fingers crossed.
Anyway, happy Friday, hope you all have a lovely bank holiday weekend. I think we might even see the return of summer....
It's funny even thinking about being pregnant again when all we did on the pregnancy thread last summer was moan about how awful we felt for various reasons!! They say the worst pain is soonest forgotten - can't say I experienced major pain since I had the dubious honour of a C-section (although the contractions I had before being taken to theatre were very intense) - a lot of my memories of the birth and the first couple of weeks afterwards have faded so I struggle to recall the details now.
Cragchick, well done on the birthday cake! Am dreading the birthday party stage. Just hope the friends Kit makes don't have super-competitive parents who expect top-notch goodie bags and try to outdo each other with the superiority of their birthday cakes. I'm adequate in the kitchen when it comes to day to day fare but I am no Gordon Ramsay. If I have friends round to dinner at least one course will be courtesy of M&S!
My brother is getting married tomorrow so have to pack for the wedding day and the following day. Not sure what to do now Kit's on solids. I assume defrosted puree will keep in the fridge for about 24 hours so if I make some up tonight it should be OK for tomorrow, and I can defrost a cube tomorrow for Sunday. The hotel we're staying in doesn't have fridges in the rooms but there's apparently one behind the 24-hour reception we can use. Will have to take steriliser and I think we'll just use cartons of formula for the weekend - bit pricey but less hassle than having to cart around a tin of powder and then keep the bottles refrigerated. My mum, my aunt and a couple of others are helping us out with Kit by doing half-hour babysitting shifts in our hotel room once he's gone to bed, so hubby and I can attend at least some of the evening disco together. My brother seemed to think we could just put Kit in his buggy in the corner of the room for the evening! Er, no. For a start I wouldn't want his little eardrums exposed to that level of noise; secondly it's hardly fair to expect him to sleep in his buggy in a noisy environment when he's used to going down in his cot in peace and quiet. I don't mind his routine being a little bit disrupted (it will have to be to fit round the wedding schedule) but there are limits!
Cragchick, my hamstrings are tight as a drum too. Mainly because I never get round to stretching. When I ran the London Marathon in 2006 I was out injured for two weeks during the training because I tore my hamstring insertion. Physio said it probably happened because hamstrings are so tight and I started stretching religiously. Of course, now that the injury is a distant memory the stretching is getting that way too ...
Minks there are some very good sachets of single purees you can buy in supermarket like carrot etc. Which may help for that purpose. I try to make as much of boys food as poss, but do use jars and sachets for occasions such as that and for travelling. The boys hate them but they have a purpose!! Otherwise purees tend to be fine for 24-48 hours in fridge.
I also never have time to stretch and my muscles are shocking. I get in from a run and have to get on. Running is going well though, even ran twice on monday, which was hard but felt pretty good. 7 weeks till half-marathon seems so soon.
Best go boys are awake, no rest for the wicked!!
Think this is probably it for us too .... I reminded myself several times to enjoy my pregnancy (and did apart from the last bit) and am trying to do the same now whatever challenges I face as its probably the only time I will get to be a mum to babies! On the whole, have to say I am loving it!
HV came today and the girls have put on nearly a pound each in 2 weeks, now 8 5 and 7 9. Also had my first proper smile from Milla which was great (Ella obliged a couple of days ago but havnt managed to get one out of her since!). Also, they sat happily in thier bouncy chairs for 30 mins this morning and played on the baby gym this afternoon - definately a good day!
Found a buggy fit class fairly locally and am definately going to give it a go.... looking for an evening pilates class too so I can have an evening off! Am starting to get a bit despondant... thought the weight would fall off feeding 2 but I have not lost anything for weeks and am 2 stone over my usual weight. I have to keep eating as otherwise my milk is crap so hopefully some exercise will help.
Enjoy the wedding Minks!
The cake sounds great... my mum bought me a recipe book when i finished work but so far its unopened! Maybe when the girls can cook with me!
Think I'm going to cry. Just did a huge post and it's lost. too long! Will need to come back later, a girl's gotta eat!
Think I left it a bit long between visits - there was stacks to read! This thread is getting busier!
Louise is up to 9lbs 1 and thriving. Still covered in rash but I think you are all right, it's just one of these baby things. It certainly doesn't bother her.
Left boob still small but have bought a new breast pump, splashed out on medela electric one and it's increased production a bit. I don't feel it drains my boob though which is weird. The right one was really sore at the bottom yesterday so I reverted to the manual pump as I can move it about and really squeeze every bit of milk out. I know that won't help my lopsidedness but ow it was hurting.
MR you will make the Take that concert no bother. You just need to express one extra feed a day for a few weeks and freeze it and you will have more than enough. Plus, a little bit of formula won't hurt. We started giving Louise expressed milk at 8 days on advice of midwife - it was to reduce my engorgement. We used tommee tippee closer to nature and there were no problems with her accepting bottle and reverting to boob. She's greedy, she'll take food from any source.
Take That though - I am soooo jealous!
Introduced Louise to the street last night at our street BBQ. yes I live in suburbia! She was a wee star, sat there eyes wide taking it all in and then calmly went off to sleep in spite of the total hubbub around. We all had to move indoors though, it was baltic last night!
Splitting post to avoid losing it again!
You girls are all so good going to classes. I am not really a classes person apart from my spinning class. My HV is trying to get me to go to a buggy tone or something and i keep smiling and saying yes maybe but with no intentions. I think I am an exercise snob. I like my classes, if I go to them, to be ludicrously difficult with military like instructors yelling at you and I can't see buggy tone hitting the spot. so spinning and circuits were acceptable but I haven't done aerobics since uni! Actually I am possibly just an antisocial cow cos she's trying to get me to go to the new mums coffee group too and I can't be bothered - the thought of spending an afternoon with a zillion other screaming babies is just not pleasant! It's one thing when it's your own... Yes I am officially anti social. Maybe I'll make myself go on Thursday just for the hell of it. It's the sort of thing I enjoy when I go but can never be bothered getting there. That's why this forum is ideal! All the company you need in the comfort of your own home!
Went for two mental walks with the pram this week - 3 hrs each and the last hour is all uphill home. Stopped at starbucks to feed/change Louise. What a hoot. Had a bottle of expressed milk with me and a fisher price flask thing so I could heat it. Well, the bottle was too squat to fit in the lid to heat it up so I pushed it down. Yeah well, it stuck. so tried to remove it and lid came off. so pulled the teat. It just stretched in all directions. Asked barista to borrow sink and she took it off me and upended it and I was screeching mind your hands, it's boiling water (it's the lawyer in me, I have to warn her of the hazard!) Got a big mug of boiling water off her and spooned some over the teat to sterilise it. Then managed to drop the bottle into the mug and spill hot water all over table. Finally ready to feed Louise and would she wake up? Had to resort to evil tactics - put my cold frappuccino against her arm. That got a hmm and a swat with the arm. Eyes firmly shut. Finally started opening and closing the velcro bit of her bib right in her earhole. After 20 goes she propped one eyelid open. That was all it took! In went that bottle! I won't even begin to tell you about the changing side of things - suffice to say it involved two new nappies and a lot of loo roll clearing the place up!!
Right, dinner should be nearly ready now. Enjoy wedding Minks. Good to hear from everyone.
Lots of posts to read - thanks everyone (this thread is a life saver for keeping me sane) it's early in the morning - only chance I get really to concentrate without distruption from little Jacob (9mths), or partner ... he seems to get upset if I'm up early without Jacob waking. I love it - is only genuine 'me time' I get.
We're suffering from teething and horrendous nappy rash (blisters), and poor little Jacob whimpers and screws his face up when he's changed. I only use warm water and cotton wool when his botty is that bad. Poor little scrap. I use gallons of Sudocrem which seems to comfort him. Any other tips from anyone on treating his botty blisters?
Was so very lovely to see the sunshine yesterday ... at last got some laundry on the line (can't believe I said that - I am no domestic goddess)!
Got parents over, and niece + boyf. Niece is preggers so I'm looking fwd to hearing all about her progress; plus I have a pile of goodies to give her - she knows she's having a boy and I think I'm more excited than my sister (the genuine grandmother).
No 'buggy fit' type classes in my area - big boo! But I do try to attend aerobics and or yoga classes every week. Got a 10k next Sunday and should be out training this morn. but will have to go this eve. in stead. Had a curry last night and not good for carb loading pre a long run.
Hope your Bank Hol weekends are going well and that the sun continues to shine and your sprogs are beautifully behaved and all are happy.
Ok, no need to go to any organised buggy classes...I have discovered a new way to exercise and entertain your baby all in one go: put some music on (or the pop video channel on telly, as I did) and dance your pants off! Hector loves it! I was really going for it and doing finger clicking and hand clapping and he was chuckling away for ages Don't know what that says about my dancing...
He's discovered his hands. He can stare at them for ages and is now trying to grasp at things. And his new thing in the past few days - not so much fun - is forgetting that, when he's tired, all he has to do is close his eyes and go to sleep. Oh, he's fighting the sleep! At least I've worked it out now though and know that the crying will stop when he realises he's just tired. Phew, getting to understand baby language can be hard!
Hetty - I know what you mean about the weight, mine's stayed put for a few weeks now, and it's a bit disheartening. And I thought it was meant to drop off when you're breastfeeding!
I don't know anyone whose weight has dropped off while breastfeeding - think it's all a myth.
Wedding was fantastic and Kit was an absolute star. I got a bit distraught at one point when everything was running a bit late - the speeches hadn't even begun and it was way past his usual bedtime. He started rubbing his eyes and looking at me imploringly as if to say, "Please put me to bed, Mummy!" I felt SO guilty. I hate disrupting his routine and got a bit emotional - think I was tired anyway by that point and had found the day quite hard work getting everything organised, getting myself and Kit ready and then constantly having to focus on him throughout the day to make sure he was OK. Some of the girls at the wedding were so kind though, telling me I was doing a fantastic job and it was OK not to be perfect all the time; it wouldn't do any harm for Kit's routine to be all over the place for a day or so. They were right, of course - he was fine when we put him to bed and was fine the next day, if a little tired. It didn't help though that hubby got completely wasted - worst I've ever seen him! - and I had to look after him as well the next morning!
EF, LOL at your tale of changing/feeding Louise in Starbuck's. Think we've probably all had a similar experience. One thing I've found recently is the places are refusing to give out boiling water to heat bottles - twice I've been told it's against Health & Safety regulations. One place on holiday wouldn't even fill our flask for us.
MM, re. sachets of single purees, which brand are they? They would be very useful. I can only find sachets of several different things mixed together and he's only on single flavours at the moment!
EF, like you I'm an exercise snob. Buggy Fit classes really don't appeal to me either - in fact, I'm rubbish at classes. I think it's because they're at a regular time and place - running fits around my life a lot better as I don't have to go somewhere to do it, I can just step out of the front door and go. If I had to drive somewhere first I don't think it would happen. And like you, if it's not hard I'm not doing it!!
Hmm I can fit into the not hard not doing it category... Still thinking about buggy fit as a way to regain fitness after my section but even so... Got out on my bike at the weekend which was fab, I'm allowed to do that as it's not impact exercise. It's good cross training for running so I'm going to try and get out as much as I can before it gets dark. Give it another few weeks and I get running properly too - hurrah!
Minks- Glad you enjoyed the wedding. It must be pretty stressful getting everything organised. It's bad enough when I leave the house to go to town!
Ef - Sounds like you had a nightmare with the flask! I've got one of those too and hadn't thought about that issue! Well done for you getting out on your walks too. I'm trying to get out and about now that all the visitors have gone home!
Well Ted has had what I'm hoping is his 6 week growth spurt. From Saturday to Monday he was feeding every 1-2 hours, it was really hard work. He seems to have settled now, trouble is my milk doesn't seem to have done! I'm finding it's not continuing to top up by the evening in spite of how much I drink (non-alchoholic of course!), anyone got any ideas?
Another note - does anyone on here wake their baby up for a last feed at your bedtime? Hubby and I are in some debate as to whether this is good or not. Any thoughts would be gladly welcomed!
A sunny bank holiday w/e - yippee, long may it continue ...
Janie, we've topped both of ours up at around 10.30/11pm and it has worked a treat for both. Last night I dropped this feed for Scarlett for the first time and she slept from 7pm-7am straight!! Hopefully this was not a fluke and she will continue in this vein. We found it really wasn't extra hassle to do the feed and it definitely helped us all get more sleep, encouraging them to make their longest sleep be at nightime. Re milk supply, I think it is quite common to be a bit low in the evenings, in which case you could try topping up with some formula, just for the evening feed (if you are open to using formula?). Even when I was b/feeding, we used to use formula for the 10.30pm feed as it meant hubbie could do the feed and I could go to bed early (or we used expressed milk).
Minks, I think there is a make called 'Ellas kitchen' that definitely does a single apple puree as I used it at the w/e. Unfortunately I've binned the sachet. Also used plum baby which have some reasonably straightforward mixes - allbeit more than one flavour. I know Kit is only on single flavours at the moment but it will be a matter of weeks before you start mixing them up a bit. Scarlett had some mixes over the w/e while we were camping and she has been fine. Although I suspect I am a little more blase second time around than I was with Joshua! Glad your wedding went well - despite hubbies behaviour. I think if that had been me, hubbie would have been left to suffer on his own!! Like you, I used to get quite stressed if routines went a bit out of sync but soon realised that babies are actually pretty adaptable - especially if their life is generally very structured, then they can cope with the odd bit of chaos!
I'm also of the 'not hard, not doing it' category, BUT there is a lot to be said for a class if that is the only way you are going to get some motivation/companionship. Chances are you'll find at least one other person in the group with a similar mentality and I'm sure there will be a way of making it harder if nec.
As for losing weight with breastfeeding. Seems to be pretty mixed opinions on this, many of my friends didn't lose any weight until they stopped. I was an exception, probably because I was pretty lean throughout pregnancy both times so had very little stored fat to lose afterwards. Joshua was a very hungry baby so he ate what little fat stores there were.
EF - you painted a great picture of the Starbucks episode - i have had so many of those kind of incidents. My favourite trick is to forget to release the button on the top of my flask so it isn't sealed properly. I think put it in my bag and shake it around a bit - hot water everywhere and nothing to warm my bottle up. Lost track of how many times I do this ...
Another waffle-a-gram which the site will probably lose for me but here goes ...
Janie, we've always woken Kit for a last feed at 10:30pm too. It's worked really well as he's slept through from then until at least 6:30am since he was about 3.5 months old. Now we've started weaning, I'm planning to get him off this last feed as soon as I can. I'd planned to cut it down by 1oz every couple of nights until he's down to about 3oz, then just not bother waking him. In some ways it's tempting to just go cold turkey and not wake him and see what happens, but I always tend to be overly cautious about these things!
Cragchick, I wasn't very happy with hubby but what can you do? In some ways it was quite funny - when we left the wedding to go back to the hotel about midnight, hubby INSISTED it was right out of the venue when I knew it was left as I'd been back and forth to the hotel a couple of times during the evening to do a babysitting stint or to give Kit his last feed. Hubby wouldn't listen and marched off up the road in the wrong direction, staggering all over the place. No amount of shouting at him on my part would persuade him to turn around. In the end my brother had to go and get him! If it hadn't been such a busy road I'd have been tempted to let him get on with it!
I've seen those Ella's Kitchen sachets of baby food in Sainsbury's and they look very good - no additives etc. Also the Plum Baby ones. They do only seem to do mixed flavours (in my local Sainsbury's anyway) but he'll be mixing it up very soon so I will use them when we're out and about: much easier! He had carrot puree this morning which seemed to go down well. He didn't take to the sweet potato I tried him with yesterday at all - pulled a face at every mouthful then started spitting it out. Not too bothered as sweet potato doesn't exactly form a major part of mine and hubby's diet so if he doesn't like it it's not a big deal. Had planned to try swede and parsnip this week but Sainsbury's was out of both when I went there this morning. Will have to try again later in the week.
About time the little fella woke up so will sign off before this turns into another epic!
Janie, we did the same waking the babes at 10.30pm. My two also slept from then until 7am from about 12 weeks, not bad for two premies. We dropped the feed around weaning time like Minks is about to. And yes we dropped by an oz each day. Then went for it one night, its bliss to put them to bed at 7pm, though I do have to pop in a give them a kiss before bed! I do love my boys to bits, but I also love it when they go to bed!
Think I might be confused with the sachets of mixed veggies then Minks, couldn't find any single types. Sorry about that. Can recommend plum baby purees though when you can mix, especially the plum, pomegranate and guava. Boys love it!
I started using formula for the evening feed around 8 weeks, as my milk was pretty crap at this time and I couldn't keep with boys growth spurts. I also used to express at 9.45pm and go to bed and hubbie used to feed the boys. Must admit it took a lot of persuasion from hubbie to give the boys formula as a top up, but it did make sense.
I stopped breast feeding at 5.5 months, and don't regret it now, but have to admit I did feel so guilty at the time. I was so exhausted I could barely stand up some evenings. Not long till cows milk now, can't wait! Boys now both taking anyway up cup for morning and afternoon milk, will change bedtime soon, then no more sterilising. Hurray!!
Just put the boys in new car seats. Harry is a little bit small, but Joshie is fine. Nice to beable to turn round and see them in the car.
Well done on the wedding Minks, it sounds like you did really well, and you must have done for people to be saying so! We've got one this weekend and I'm not really looking forward to it to be honest (is that awful of me?!). We have to drive a few hundred miles and I am pretty certain my husband will end up in the same state as yours, as it's his old school friends, and they seem to like to revert to their rebelious teenage years when they get together! I think I'm doing husband's head in by asking every five minutes: 'what time does it finish?' 'how far is our hotel?' 'can we leave early?'. I'll be glad when it's done. I'm hoping people won't be wanting to hold Hector all the time as well, I'm not really into the passing him around thing, but maybe I'll just have to chill out a bit...we'll see!
Janie, that sounds just like the growth spurt Hector had around week six, we were feeding every hour or so for a couple of days! It is knackering, but worth it
Re: exercise classes, I had a look at the 'buggy fit' and did contemplate it for a bit, more as a social thing really, and something I could do with baby in tow, but I just know I would be itching to push it further and would get bored. I am more of a loner when it comes to training - good thinking time - but if I do a class it needs to be one where I'm being shouted at by a sergeant major type and feeling half dead at the end. Mmmmm, sounds like bliss
Thanks all! I win the debate. Hubby suddenly decided at 11.30 last night that waking Ted up was no good as he'd wake up in an hour anyway. Was trying to point out that it's only happened for the last two nights as Ted was on a growth spurt but he was being very difficult!
I am using formula for the last feed at bedtime (usually nearer 10.30) but am finding that my 7.30 feed is disappearing too and not stocking up. Think I may have to try expressing at 10.30 to try and stimulate the milk supply. Thanks for all the advice. MM you did brilliantly feeding twins until 5 1/2 months - that's fantastic!
AP - I know how you feel with hubby and his school friends... We had a wedding in February that was like that. Fortunately most of the girls were pregnant so it made it a lot easier! Thanks for the info re the growth spurt - I just can't believe the amount of pooey nappies today!
As for weaning - it just sounds like a complete minefield!!!
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