How do you get going again after pregnancy?
I think that's my main worry CM, that you can't control what they spend it on...it is legally theirs to do what they like with, and lets face it...when I was 18 the last thing I wanted to do was put a deposit on a house. If it was spent on Uni, travelling or house that is fine...but that is why I keep hold of the purse strings!!
My worry about home birth is if something goes wrong. The midwife has said that we are only a 15 minute ambulance ride away but still... Less importantly I am worried about the mess, as we rent and the carpets are cream!! I have the scan a week on Monday so will see how I am feeling then... hopefully I will feel a lot calmer about the whole giving birth thing.
Glad your walk went ok with no coughing and wheezing. Maybe its damp weather kicking it off?
CC, your run sounds lovely. I am looking forward to getting out and running in the air again. I so miss the fresh air I got from running. I hope your 20 miler goes well...enjoy! I've just done an hour in the gym...it just doesn't cut it though
Have a good evening in with your friend Caro. We are out tomorrow after sorting the babies room for a greek while my friend has L over night.
Hi EF...how are you feeling?!
i was very sensible at that age and would have invested it. i guess i will have to brow beat my kids in the same way...
i had a very straightforward first birth and J was nearly born in the back of the car on the way to the birthing centre so for me it was easier to plan a home birth than worry about whether we would get to hospital on time. the birthing centre i went to the first time wasn't attached to a hospital so if i had needed transferring it would have been a longer ambulance ride to get to the hospital than it would have been from home to the hospital.
my waters went as i was pushing E out and they had meconium in them. if they had broken earlier and there had been meconium, we would have been sent to hospital. sometimes i think things work out whatever you choose. i firmly believe both times that i went into labour at the weekend because my body knew that if i went into labour in the week, i wouldn't be able to get hold of T as he would have been at work and he doesn't answer his phone when i ring it (no change there).
for me there was no doubt in my mind about having a home birth if the presentation and circumstances allowed it because of my experience first time round. but if you have any worries at all i would say it's not for you. you have to be relaxed in your mind knowing it's the right choice - then you are most likely to have a stress-free birth. if you are worrying about the transfer then (in my opinion) you are probably more likely to need one.
i don't normally believe all this fatalistic clap-trap but somehow when it comes to giving birth it seems that things do just work out one way or another!
Yeah I agree. Its all about the right hormones etc allowing the body to give birth. I just need to chill about it. I think ignorance first time round was indeed bliss! Even though the first birth was quick and straight forward, I guess I know about the pain this time round!
RF - i've never done a bootcamp so am 'lalala' about the gasping for air bit. also walking there and back - over a mile each way. guess that may prove to be a mistake on the way back. hahaha!
i have been watching OBEM again. easier when there is no bloke in the house tutting about me watching it. i also have a strange and guilty fascination with all those 'i didn't know i was pregnant' programmes. less so with the 'i'm pregnant and ... my husband is a woman' ones but i will also watch those if there's nothing else on. now - my secret is out. i watch next to no TV - maybe an hour or so twice a week, but i always look for those sorts of programmes! dunno what it says about me
just been to asda to buy J some new daps (size 3!!) and wellies. argh. bumped into T and the kids there, which was initially lovely. loads of hugs and shouts of 'mummy. my beautiful mummy' from both of them. and then i had to leave, obviously - i was on my way out and they were on their way in. oh god E clung to me, screaming 'i hate daddy. i want to stay with mummy'. and everyone was looking at me as i walked off. it was awful.
I planned to have a homebirth first time round and was greeted with a multitude of "you're mad" reactions, but the midwives all encourage homebirths. I was worried about something going wrong and in the end I did have to go in an ambulance while fully dilated, but that was because the useless midwives thought Sophie was breech when she wasn't. In the end though, I think I got the best of both worlds - lovely relaxed labour at home in a pool then the messy bit and stitches in hospital!
With Nicky, hubby didn't want another homebirth (not his choice, I always thought ) but also I didn't want Sophie to see me writhing in agony or anything and thought it easier to just go to hospital. I really didn't like labouring in hospital though - I felt very self-conscious (silly I know) and not relaxed.
So I'm not sure what I'd advise - I think if your pregnancy has been risk-free then go for the home birth. After all, you're only 15 mins from the hospital (as I was). I think every birth has a risk but the midwives and other staff seem very well prepared for every eventuality. My friend has had both her girls at home and I do envy her!
Sorry for the waffle - hope it makes sense!
I have a question for you knowledgeable girls too - as I am working part-time now, do I need to inform CHB people? And Child Tax Credits which I no longer qualify for? Working Tax Credits? I have no idea how you even qualify for these things!
Right, I think I have decided I will go to the birthing centre... then all being well I can go home same day... I have the same kind of thinking as you Vixo. Will discuss with hubby anyway. Thanks for everyones thoughts on the subject. I am NOT watching OBEM at the moment...
I can't believe how some people don't know they are pregnant and it fascinates me too CM. When I was booking my presentation scan in the hospital a afro/caribbean lady came in asking for a scan...she was quite clearly about 6 months pregnant and had not had a scan before and had no idea how far along she was... not that I was listening or anything! Crazy. It's those people who say, "well I thought I had a tummy ache and out popped a baby" WHHAAT?!
for me the choice was a bit easier because i definitely did NOT want to go into the gwent (our local hospital). JT will understand why... that is why i chose the birthing centre in caerphilly - which was actually a very long way from where i lived at the time. it was at least a 30 min drive, and also a similar transfer from there to hospital (no hospital attached to birthing centre) as JT will know. she was bluelighted from caerphilly with Ted.
the second time round it made absolutely no sense to go back to caerphilly because of the length of the drive to get there and the fact that we would need to sort childcare for J. i was simply too worried that, by the time we had found someone to have J if it was the middle of the night, we wouldn't make it to caerphilly. so that swayed my decision to try for a home birth. we could have J at home with us until i really couldn't cope any longer which gave us time to sort out someone to have him. in the event, E arrived at 11am on a saturday morning so the timing was perfect. he went to his friend's house down the lane at about 9.30am and came home again at 1. and if i had to be blue-lighted in, it's only a 10-15 min transfer to hospital, less than from the birthing centre.
anyway, i think you have to go with what your gut says about these things. for me it wasn't so much about the idea of having a hippy home birth. it was more the practicality and not wanting to be pushing in the car!!
just survived bootcamp. lungs weren't brilliant but i seem to have recovered. but oh my actual good god - what a workout that is!!
Ooh the blue light from Caerphilly... Not something I'd want to do again! It's amazing how much quicker you can make an ambulance driver go when you start shouting 'Are we only in bl00dy Machen?!'. That said, we made the Gwent in 15 minutes CM
Anj - you have to be comfortable with whatever you choose, something that puts me off having another baby is having to go to the Gwent, I chose Cardiff purposely for Archie. I shouldn't have ended up in the Gwent with Ted but they were full, aaggghhhh!
Cm - is it worth taking the blue inhaler around 15-20 minutes before exercise? That's what is recommended for exercise induced asthma, so may help? Just be careful going too hard when you're still grotty!
CC - skiing sounds fab... Would so like to go again... My skis are in the loft looking very unloved!
Rah, can't remember rest, must read back again!
Caro - boo to the job . That is so annoying. Don't blame you for not wanting to take a pay cut! I suppose that's where teaching is handy, once you get to a certain point, you stay there. Always people being promoted who shouldn't though!
CM - Cardiff job could be interesting. There may be more flexibility than you think. A number of parents of children I've taught have worked at the uni and frequently turn up (ie weekly at least!) to drop/pick children up from school. Shame the train station is the opposite side of town...
Also - glad you've laid it on the line with N. You needed to do it for your own sanity.
Good luck MM and C for the weekend!
Tired tonight, but have lost some weight this week so not feeling so lardy. Lungs up and down, nowhere near where the consultant wants, so I fear the worst in a couple of weeks . Really, really don't want to be on systolic steroids long term, but I know they work. It's funny, when I talk to people about all this who aren't medical, they all do an eek to the potential weight gain, that's the least of my worries tbh, it's the rest of the side effects that concern me!
We certainly havent had any kind of correspondence about child benefit but we are fine by a long margin.
Nice M and S meal, bottle of wine, toblerone.....and then a fine old time watching 16 kids and counting! What the girls get up to when the boys go out.
Am sitting here looking at a cd of hubby's back MRI scan on the computer. He picked up the disc from the GP today to take to his appt. However our friends staying with us tonight are medical sales people, and the husband is a sales rep for spinal surgery implants so is very knowledgeable about the treatment and who is best to give it. So he is going to copy the image (and the protruding disc and corresponding nerve compression are very obvious) and show it to some surgeon friends of his and hopefully get hubby on the waiting list. If neccesary we can pay to go private, he reckons if surgery was required it could be 2-3k which is manageable, and not really any more than a dog going to a specialist referral centre and having spinal surgery! But hopefully it wont come to that.
Job e mailed me one last time to say they have decided not to hire a part time vet anymore at the moment - maybe that's because they figured out that to get anyone half decent they'd actually have to pay them a half decent salary. Grrrr.
Oh that's an arse Caro - what a complete waste of your time
Do you pay £12 for a pilates class - wow!
Oh goodness, so much to check back on I can't tonight but great to hear that CM seems to have working lungs again.
Camlo - I find the FIRST schedules great for focussing on quality session and then if anything else can fit in during the week I made it an easy run of whatever distance fitted. Nice speedy rep in the middle there. Chilli choc cake sounds yummy, recipe please ...
OBEM is compulsive viewing, hubby always asks me why I'm watching 'not like you want any more is it?' - erm no, but there is just something about that program ... and then he kinds of hangs around with half an ear to it!!! Haven't watched it for a while though.
Will read properly tomorrow
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