How do you get going again after pregnancy?
Just read that as "I seem to be constantly looking for a new career/hubby/etc." JT
I also find that the mummy friends I do know quite well seem to have such busy lives that our free time never seems to coincide, which is quite frustrating. Also with working now I spend more time seeing the grandparents than friends, which is quite dull! I think the main problem is that I haven't bothered to make new friends after Nicky was born, so people I see at playgroup on a Monday and singing on a Friday are not people I've even exchanged numbers with, while the friends I have from when Sophie was born have gone back to work/moved away etc, or we just don't meet up anymore because we don't have any free days the same. I've kind of stopped bothering with one group too because they were so cliquey and just didn't invite me to any of their nights out etc so I got a bit fed up . It's a bloomin' minefield this mummy social life!
CC - thanks for your thoughts. It's hubby I feel most guilty about because he always seems so reluctant to take over while I'm out - makes comments like he has no idea what to do with them on a Sunday morning while I'm running so they just go to his parents' where Nicky has spent half the week! Then I get annoyed because I work now too and can still manage to do things with Nicky on my days off .
Gosh I've become a right waffler! JT - how did you manage to keep playing with Archie pulling your hands off and screaming?! Sounds quite amusing but I imagine it wasn't .
Hols to North Norfolk on Saturday - not looking as though it's going to warm up either!
JG - I do know what you mean about the hubby thing, I have had that pretty much since most of mine were born, whenever I wanted to do a race etc or even, heaven forbid, have a work shift during the holidays when he has time off ... much sulking, huffing, demanding what to do with them ... BUT ... I've chosen to ignore it and do want I wanted to do anyway, and just get over whatever he chooses to do (or not do) with them when I'm not around. I think it changes as they get older, definitely less problems now as it's much easier to do more stuff with them, and he's been forced to get on with it. Tough though.
Planning and 'away day' up to North of Ullapool tomorrow as forecast is good, perhaps get a walk up Stac Pollaigh if not too much snow
I see woman of our resident super women (the ultra one) has done good on her race - check out fb
right, tea to be sorted and hot cross buns & flapjack to be created for hill food ...
JT - just a horrible place to be ((()))
JT friends from Portland Or, USA. My uni vet friend who went straight to the US after graduating and never came back. Now has hubby and 2 kids so never will come back. But we have planned a 5 yr reunion - villa in tuscany, for our 40th b days. She is pregnant with child no 3, and her folks emigrated to NZ so she doesn't really have much reason to come here. Her sister is here (she's over for her wedding) but they're not close. We stayed with them last summer, and the kids just have so much fun together.
Going to brave the nat hist museum tomorrow before they go. Prob mad due to the bank hol but it's now or never for them so we'll go early and hope for the best.
CM - they've actually only been married for 5.5 years and no, no children (one of main reasons they're splitting up I think, though they haven't been "in love" for a couple of years now). It would seem totally unfair if she demanded money from him - if anything he's supported her with her poorly paid career (acting) all these years so it would be a real kick in the teeth if she did. They're still great friends but it's just on the point of turning nasty I fear .
Ok I might be a wee bit excited. After my race yesterday I got a serious case of the wobbles and shakes. Because I was unsupported the stewards were a bit worried so held me hostage in a tent until they got hot food and warm clothes on me and thought I was ok! This was very good of them of course but I missed the prize giving so I just said thanks to a few of the organisers and toddled off to the car! Anyhoo today the organiser just phoned me to say I won the British 100k champs bronze medal and the Scottish gold medal. How mad is that!
The race went really well. But OMG it was tedious! 42, 1.5 mile laps of a park in Perth. My plan was to start off around 8mm pace and hold for as long as possible before dying! I pretty much managed to hold this until the 50k mark but then started to fade. I went through the marathon in 3.32 and 50k in 4.12. My garmin shows I was averaging 8.25 pace by 50 miles when it died. I finished in 8.54.50. My secret target had been sub 9 hours so I am delighted. I had a really tough patch around 35 miles and really wanted to give up. It was such a big mental battle. But I came through it and finished strongly. My legs are pretty sore today but think just general stiffness rather than injury (fingers crossed). My sore throat came went as quickly as it came but I did (do) still have a bit of a snurty cold. Feeling a bit out of it today. Couldn't sleep, remember looking at the clock at 12.30am still awake but must have fallen asleep soon after and woke at 2.45am for a shower and then drive the 2 hours up to Aberdeen to catch the 6.30 flight home! I'll maybe do a proper race report when I am a bit more with it!
Spent the morning at the beach with the kids, glorious day here. Starting to fade a bit now I must say!
So enough of me. Will post this and then have a proper read back to see what you have all been up to!
Sounds like everyone has had busy easter weekends.
EF - I am so shocked and sad to hear about your friends baby.
Kinsey - hows the sleep thing going?
JG - (()) you really need to try to stop feeling guilty. I used (many years ago with my first babies) to feel like that but now I realised my me time makes me a better happier mum. My hubby is a parent link coordinator and he organises and leads parenting classes and he is always preaching that parents me time is so important. Mind you he has changed his tune as he didn't always feel this way but in his new job he has to practice what he preaches
CC - hope you had a fine day in Ullapool. Pity the ferry wasn't cheaper and you could pop on up here and visit us!
Argh can't remember what else I was going to say...
Agree with the straight talking - I have an agreement with my friend that I call her often and if she wants to talk she answers (or text back if she misses me) and if not she doesn't. Means I am offering support and she is able to take it or leave it without feeling bad or obligated to talk when she doesn't want to.
Heading off to the beach this afternoon - National surf competition on so thought we'd have a nosey!
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