How do you get going again after pregnancy?
Well going cold turkey may have had some effect with the dummy.... We had a horrible hour between 4 and 5 this morning as I watched the clock go round trying to sooth Ted whilst he cried... We tried twice with his dummy and he just spat it out, tried a feed and hed didn't want that so I then tried to help him find his hands. He did eventually and today he hasn't used a dummy so far at all!!! In fact on the way back from music group he found his thumb - hurrah!!!!!!!!! Really hoping that this may be the beginning of the end.
Hetty - I agree with you about them trying to find their hands though, I think in the middle of the night Ted is too tired to try and so that is what we need to get over. Ted is still a wee one so )10lb 8oz last week) so I'm guessing he may still need that night time feed. Ooh and how scary about the computer!
Minks - Ted is now 13 weeks and only on the 2nd centile, I'm guessing that that may mean he needs his night feeds for a bit longer yet. But like I say, no dummy so far today so we'll se what happens! Oh and ROFL re the cabbage leaves!
MR - Glad to hear you're sorting things out, hope that it's not too painful for you.
Well crying calls, there's sunlight in the poor mite's face...
Good luck with the dummy withdrawal Janie... my friend has just had to do it with a 3 1/2 year old and it wasnt pretty so prorbably better now! A couple of weeks will make all the difference with the thumb contol, mine can get it pretty much first time now and they have suddenly got so much better at settling themselves off to sleep because of it.
So jealous you went to see Prince Mitts.... good?? Cant help with the pethidine sorry.
MR - you poor thing sounds like you are having a rough time of it, could be a touch of colic unsettling her in the evenings. I know osteopathy has really helped some babies I know, may be worth considering if things dont settle. Not sure about the keeping awake in the day.... I let mine sleep but did wake them for feeds 3 hrly as they were little (advised by the hossie). Had to use some cruel methods including stripping them off to a nappy and blowing on them! As for occupying them, not alot you can do at that age but my 2 would always enjoy looking at us face to face and we would mimic thier expression etc, they can poke thier tongue out in response to you doing it very young so tried to get them to do that or yawn alot!
MR - hope things improve for you soon. It's such a nightmare when you can't seem to do anything right for them AND you're not getting enough sleep! JP was a bit upside down for a while in terms of being awake at night and asleep in the day. At one point he thought that 6am was a suitable bedtime! So I tried to bring his feeds forward and also limited his daytime naps to no more than 2-3 hours. He managed to shift his bedtime back then by about an hour and a half a night, and now he goes to sleep anywhere between 10 and midnight. I did feel a bit mean waking him up, but it saved me from going nuts!
Have had an OK few days since I last posted. JP is a bit colicky, but we're managing to keep on top of it with copious amounts of Infacol and making sure he doesn't feed too often. I'm doing mixed feeding, which is going well. I felt bad initially about using formula, but he has been so much better (and so have I!) that it's worth it. It works out that he has 1-2 bottles of formula a day, and Im either expressing or breastfeeding every 4 hours or so. This seems to keep the old milk supply up!
Must go, hungry child to feed! Oh, and forgot to mention that he was weighed on Thursday and had gained 15oz in a week!!!!!! This was after the 3 week growth spurt though. So he's 11/5 now. What a whopper!
Hey well done Tatty! It feels good going back for that first run doesn't it? I felt even better as I shouldn't have been running at that point, felt I'd really beaten (and rebelled!) against the system
Thanks for the support re the dummy issue, I've started to use it again as Ted goes to sleep as he was getting very distressed and still isn't 100% with using his hands to sooth him yet - however... He's not waking and wanting his dummy which is fab. He's using his hands more and more during the day so hopefully we can do this as a more gradual process over the next few weeks - the idea of doing it at 3 is terrible!!! That said two children that I know of last year in my class still had dummies when they started school!
Mitts - I keep meaning to add some more photos on Facebook as I haven't added any for a while, will let you know when I do! Have you come across Baby Book? It's fab - you can make a profile for your baby - really cute! Sorry don't know about pethidine...
MR - Hope things are starting to improve. Don't know if you have the Baby Whisperer book but we used that. Ted has a very structured routine before bed - bath, feed, book, lullabies and then bed. He started to recognise this after about 7 days (sorry it was hard at first!). We used to soothe him by patting or rubbing his tummy, using the shush technique and sitting with him. very tough at first but remember generally there is three crescendos and then they sleep. Must go!!!
Oh Mitts don't beat yourself up! I think we all have fat days, I find it good to look at photos of me in the first few weeks after I had Ted and then realise how much weight I have lost. I've had a major breakthrough though as I can now fit back into a pair of pre-pregancy fat day jeans. so the running and DOES pay off! I'm only really managing to get out a couple of times a week at the mo and once on my bike if I'm lucky. Hoping to get back swimming this week as that usually really helps me. I'm still 3 swimsuit sizes larger (mainly due to my rather ample bosom!) but hey ho, it's coming off and it WILL come off for you too.
MR - I'd forgotten about the newborn bath thing.... Ted suddenly decided he liked it one day and now LOVES his bathtime. It's mad thinking back how much he hated it now. I've only done three baths since Ted was born as Jon likes to do that (one less thing to do!) so know what you mean about being kak-handed!
Well we survived a trip to the outlaws... They were completely over the top when we arrived, completely freaking Ted out on a number of occasions but I think they have begun to realise that you can't do that with him. The fact that MIL has spent an absolute fortune on stuff she doesn't need and we can't use is beyond, but hey ho. We had towels and a changing mat (fair enough), sheets, cellular blankets, fleece blankets, quilts, weaning cubes (?!) and copious other amounts of stuff and we used the towels and changing mat as Ted uses sleeping bags and the sheets won't fit our travel cot. It's all from Next in blue (hope we don't have a girl next time!) and had been washed. Hubby had told her not to buy anything as it was a waste of money but would she listen??? She's wasted well over £100 and I'm really starting to wonder if she's realised that Ted is not her son....
Rant over, she does wind me up as you all know! I'm off to find friends for Ted!
Mitts - hope you're feeling better today - I think it's normal to still feel up and down for quite a while (I definitely have good days and bad days). Don't talk to me about weight! Despite running (now back to 10-12 miles a week) I have 1.5 stone (!) which is refusing to shift. Admittedly, i could ease up on the cakes a bit, but I tried to cut down my food intake a bit a few weeks ago and had a couple of days of feeling really lightheaded. I'm just hoping my body is holding onto the excess because I'm breastfeeding and it will all magically disappear when I stop ....
TB and MR - great to see you both on here - hope things are settling down for you now - in my experience the first few weeks are a real rollercoaster - I thinkit's easier to accept after the first baby, but obviously 1st time round you've nothing to measure it against so it's really hard work. MR - Re: running after a section - (I'm copying this from a post I did a while ago so you don't have to read back!) : I had my 3rd c-section with Eddie 9 weeks ago - I started run-walking after 4 weeks, then gentle running at 6 weeks - now up to 10-12 miles a week over 3 runs. Not fast but enjoyable! I tried to stick to the same rules as when I was pregnant - eg listen to your body, don't get dehydrated (v. important if breastfeeding), don't run if really tired etc. I'm really enjoying my runs now, especially getting out in the country.
Well, Eddie seems to have gone backwards a bit this week in terms of being settled - he did a fantastic week of sleeping for 8-10 hours each night, then a couple of days ago went back to waking up after 6 hours and last night went down at 9pm, woke up at 12.30 and then 2 - aagh! Then DS1 came in at 3am because his duvet had fallen off - luckily mrbob went and sorted him out and even more luckily it's half term this week so we didn't have to rush around getting ready for school this morning (as a result I'm sitting here in my pyjamas!). I've just put Eddie back to bed and am trying to get him to settle himself in the hope it might make nights a bit better - after some initial grizzling he seems to have found his thumb (he's been trying for a while but it's very hit and miss) so hopefully that will help. It's all quiet at the moment ...
Sorry I'm not getting much of a chance to check back and reply to everyone - hope everyone's getting on OK. It looks like there's been a lot of really helpful advice too - I'm trying to read the thread even if I don't get round to posting!
SB - we've had the same problem with Ted, thankfully he seems to be getting better again now, much aided by not using his dummy all night but it has been really tough. He went through to 4.30am last night so I'm hoping we're back on track. If it's any consolation a friend came round for coffee this afternoon and she'd had a pyjama day today until she came round!
MR - like your thinking about weight, going to hold onto that one!!!
Mitts - would echo the weight thing - don't worry! I'm still 11lbs heavier than pre-preg, but it is coming off gradually. I'm hoping to lose 1-2lbs a week so I'm back to where I was by Xmas. I have a theory that cos JP is so big, I put on extra fat to help with feeding him! Or maybe it was all that chocolate I ate...
Will put JP on Facebook next time I'm on.
JT - that sounds so much like my FIL...Bless him, he keeps buying loads of stuff that we will never use (politely accepted and then put to the back of the cupboard). What are weaning cubes???
Another 2 miles tonight! But it does take me longer to get ready now, what with the padding and having to wear two bras!!!
Ahh unfortunately this all for their house... So it's then really obvious it's not used. Bizarrely it was all being kept in their room. Weaning cubes are for freezing purees when you make them so she REALLY doesn't need those. Have to say she's starting to freak me out again. Between that and trying to take photos that are the same as Jon when he was little...
Thanks for the advice on the shoes too - my feet are getting much better after buying some sensible (boring!) shoes that fit.
Have to say though JT - weaning cubes are FAB! I have masses of them so I can make huge amounts of various purees/mashed veg and freeze them all: saves having to cook more than once every couple of weeks for Kit.
MR, sounds like you're having a bit of a nightmare at the moment. It's quite common for new babies to confuse night and day - you have to re-educate them that night time is for sleeping! It's a bit brutal but (and I think you're doing this already) you might need to make her day naps shorter and wake her if she sleeps for too long. Otherwise she just may get all her daily sleep requirement during the day which you definitely don't want! It does sound as though she may be a bit colicky too? We were very lucky as from the outset Kit always slept really well between 7:00pm and 10:00pm so we had "us" time almost from the start - I can only remember eating in shifts on two occasions when he wouldn't settle.
He also loved his bath from the word 'go' so it became part of his bedtime routine very quickly. I think initially we only bathed him every other day as were worried about drying out his skin but soon progressed to daily baths. His first bath at home was the one and only time he pooed in the towel! Could be worse though - he's never actually opened his bowels IN the bath (a couple of my friends' babies have!)
I had a C-section and I started back running after 7 weeks. I then launched straight in to 3-mile runs every other day and ended up straining my lower back, which resulted in another two weeks off running, so I do recommend the cautious approach! When I was able to resume I started literally with 1.5 mile runs, progressing to 2 miles after a week or so. I'm now back up to about 20 miles a week (before pregnancy I averaged about 30-35 unless marathon training) so am getting there. Mitchie Moo was right - the longer runs DO get easier. A couple of weeks ago I ran 8 miles and my legs were so sore and stiff it felt like I'd run 18 - yesterday I ran 8 again and was absolutely fine. It was a beautiful sunny, crisp, clear autumn morning and it felt SO good to be out there.
Those of you with pounds to lose - keep the faith: it WILL come off. Even though I hardly put on any weight and am very tiny, it still took about 5 months to feel that my pre-pregnancy clothes fit me properly again. That said, I think my waist is permanently slightly larger than it was so you may have to accept not being EXACTLY the same as you were pre-pregnancy - but hey, small price to pay for our beautiful babies, eh?
Kit now has 4 top teeth and 2 bottom ones - bless him! My gummy baby has gone forever He'll be 8 months next week: REALLY can't believe that.
JT - great to hear about the thumb! jacob found his at about 12 weeks as well. i don't know what he'd do without it now. it's cracked, swollen and disgusting from being in his mouth all night - and a lot of the day as well!
i don't work Mondays, so would be interested in coming along to eeeeezzzeeeeplay, although jacob will be the biggest i guess - not that he will care as long as there are bigger children to beat up somewhere. is it next monday? and what time?
MR - it sounds like you are having a really tough time, but it's not unusual at all. the memory fades a bit, so people often don't tell you about the really grim first few weeks. i had no sleep for 8 weeks with jacob because he was colicky and even though he would sleep for a few hours at night, he would make such an awful noise in his sleep that i couldn't sleep. he would also only go to sleep if lying on our chests on his front. he would not sleep on his back at all, and would just yell and scream. in the end, i got so desperate that i put him in his cot on his front at 8 weeks of age and he just sucked his fist and went straight to sleep. i wouldn't obviously recommend it because it's associated with a risk of cot death, but it worked for us and we have always put him to sleep on his front. we still do now and he's 15 months.
Regarding weightloss, i'll make you all feel better about yourself's, i'm still a stone heavier than when i got pregnant (and a stone and a half heavier than the upper end of my normal weight range) and Isla had her first birthday on saturday. I did have plans of being back in shape within 9 months and also planned to go back to work in my old jeans at 10 months but that didn't happen either. I can get my old jeans on and the zip up but they're just too tight to be comfortable.
I know why i haven't lost the weight, since i got pregnant and been breastfeeding i've used it as an excuse to have a treat everyday and am in the bad habit of having some choc or cake everyday. Also have had injury problems, sore back on 3 occasions now, stiff joints and a sore hip when trying to run again. Was getting back to running again and even had a 10k planned but then i got a nasty cold and my back started playing up, ist is getting a lot better now and planning to try a run next week sometime and try to do a lot more yoga/pilates/stretching type exercise.
I also think that i've probably been breastfeeding with bad posture and that's not helped. Isla is only taking a feed in the morning and before bed now, so going to try stopping the morning feed for a week or two then stop bf altogether. May have trouble with the night feed as she usually goes to sleep on the boob at night.
MR sorry to hear about the sleeping troubles, to be honest i can't remember much about the first 3 months, it was all a blur and that was with a baby that fed and slept without to many problems, so you have my sympathy.
I am still 7lbs heavier than pre-pregnancy and it just won't shift so am resigned to being slightly bigger. I was very light anyway, so now still pretty light and thin, but I guess would still like to be the way I was!
My two turned one on sunday. They had a fantastic birthday party, it was brilliant, we had everyone who had been involved in their life so far, next year will be smaller, but we wanted a big bash for us to celebrate too. Exhausted now but it was worth it.
I was lucky my two rejected the dummies in favour of their own thumbs and like CM's Jacob my Joshie has a very worn out thumb!
J stood by himself for over 2 mins last week, won't be long now!!
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