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How do you get going again after pregnancy?

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11/07/2007 at 10:16
Hi all, everyone seems to be doing so well, I always know there'll be lots of positive stuff here.

Hard to believe the little one is 9 months and got 8 teeth already! This time last year I was moaning about being pregnant in the heat!

I'm selling at my local NCT sale on Saturday. I've never been before but I'm hoping I can clear out some of the excessive baby things in my house.

You all sound so organised, how do you all do it? Sometimes I say to myself Superwoman has nothing on me. I love being a mum but it can be relentless.

I've had school parties for the last 6 weeks. It's a good way to keep a 3 year old entertained on a Saturday but can be tiring having to get the 9mth old ready as well.

I work full time and my 3 year old goes to Nursery, my 9 mth old goes one day a week and the other days he's with my MIL.
I get back from work, make a little dinner for us all then relax with DH and the kids for an hour, after that I start to get ready for the next day and get them ready for bed. I might watch a bit of TV and run on the treadmill for half an hour but just feel constantly rushed!

My husband's not a runner and although he's very supportive he can't understand why I'm running a half marathon on a Sunday when that's my chance to rest!

I've been thinking about getting a live in au-pair but I'm rather nervous of letting a stranger look after the kids.
Is this the norm for you all? Should I quit moaning and get with the programme! Any tips please share on how you all juggle things.
11/07/2007 at 13:35
MM - My Harry was sicky until he was over 1 year old - I had hoped weaning would help, but I think it's just a matter of time and development. Can't remember the last time he was sick (which is something: he used to bring up something about 10 times a day!!). It made me smile when you said you find possets everywhere - it's worse once they're mobile isn't it? I used to find manky bits of puke (or food he'd stored in his mouth and spat out) all over the place!!

glad to hear everyone's doing so well, I don't often contribute these days (now mine is over 2) but it's always interesting to have a read.....

Hegs x
11/07/2007 at 13:45
Its worse after their milk and cereal in the morning and after their afternoon milk. Have tried reducing the milk which makes no difference. Just have to live it I guess, may be something to do with being a bit prem. They do love their food though.

Minks I always put them down awake. They both suck their thumbs so settle themselves pretty quickly, they didn't take to a dummy on the times we tried in desperation, which is good really. Since becoming mobile they seem to need more sleep again. Now sleep for 45 mins between 9am and 10am and then for 2 hours after their lunch. They then have 12 hours over night which is bliss!

I am loving my running, but do find it very tiring after wiping up puke all day! Am lucky that hubbie home by 6pm every night so I go out then while he does boys bath. That or I get at 6.30 and go then before he goes to work. Some days he as at home working, so that means its more relaxed. He loves seeing them during the day too.
11/07/2007 at 13:48
Just read your post again Minks about the veg this time last year. I was the same, what an awful time! Couldn't brush my teeth without throwing up either! Nightmare!

Now thinking about trying again, would love a girl, but not till next year or year after, see how finances go.
12/07/2007 at 23:30
MM, I put Kit down awake too. We only really started doing this properly last week and it's made a huge difference. The main problem now is that he won't nap during the day for longer than 45 minutes. He's struggling to stay awake by 8:30 (after getting up at 7:00) and naps from then until about 9:15. Then he wants to go down again at 11:30 and again will nap for about 45 minutes or so, and he has half an hour in the afternoon, usually around 4:00. I've tried to make him stay awake longer so he'll nap at 9:00 and 12:00 but he just can't seem to last out that long. I've been working on getting him to have a longer sleep at lunchtime but am fighting a losing battle - once he's awake he's wide awake and any attempts to make him go back to sleep just result in him getting so distressed and worked up that I give up as it just isn't worth it. He sleeps pretty well at night and doesn't seem to suffer for his relatively short naps - it's just that I'd appreciate a little more time to get things done during the day sometimes!

Tonia, I don't know how you manage with working full time. I'm hoping to go back part time (am due to meet with my less-than-supportive manager in a couple of weeks so we'll see) but if we didn't need the money I would far rather not go back at all. Never thought I'd say that as I used to enjoy work, but I've amazed myself by how much I love being with my baby boy and just don't want to be parted from him. If/when I do go back, hubby is going to work a day from home each week and I know he's looking forward to spending more time with Kit, so in some ways it would be selfish of me to give up work completely.

MM, can't believe you're thinking about trying again! Be careful - you could end up with another set of twins!! Funnily enough, if we were to have another, I think I'd want another boy - just feel I'm more of a 'boy mummy' than a 'girl mummy'. Not sure yet that I want another - or rather not sure that I want to go through another Caesarean birth. I know there may be an option to have a normal birth next time but quite often if you have a section first time round you end up having another. Also as I had a section (and Kit was breech) I wouldn't be able to have midwife-led care next time which would make all the antenatal appointments such a hassle.

I'm finding running tiring too - but am enjoying it probably more than I did before. Perhaps just because I appreciate the time I get to run all the more as I have so little time to myself these days.
13/07/2007 at 08:55
Minks I think most babies go through a phase of not sleeping during the day, my two did exactly the same. They will then wake at night, and this is when most people start weaning. I started at 5.5 months even though mine were prem. I have friend who has a big baby boy about the same age as Kit and she is looking to start weaning at 20 weeks. His daytime sleeps are awful unless she takes him for a very long walk! And he is waking at night. HV has told her to wait till 6 months, but I don't know anyone who has done that.

When he starts rolling he will tire himself out enough to sleep well during the day.
13/07/2007 at 13:56
My friend has started the baby rice after another day of bad sleeps and a bad night. He is 19 weeks. Her GP has told her to go ahead even though HV was against it. Think I have a great HV, she is much more willing to give her opinion rather than just the text book answer. She was fine about us weaning early.

Boys do seem much better sick wise today. I used cows milk on their cereal instead of formula and it seems to be better. Fingers crossed!

Janie my two have always been bad. I used to be breast feeding while out and Harry particularly used to then chuck up all over me. Muslin cloths and bibs and lots of them. Now I have wipes everywhere and anti-bac spray at the ready!
16/07/2007 at 09:57
Just thought I'd share my running diary with you all

Diary of a Running Mum ;-)

Ran the Wycombe Half Marathon yesterday. Completed it in 2hr 9 mins. 2 mins faster than the St Albans half 6 wks ago. (My goal is to run in under 2 hours before the end of the year). Although the time is not really important.

It felt fantastic running, so liberating...

My husband had to go on a business trip on so was not on hand to help with the kids. I drafted in my brother to look after Jonathan (my 3 year old) and my MIL to look after my 9mth old. I got everything ready the night before and left them with instructions.

I really enjoyed the race and wished I could have stayed around afterwards to enjoy the atmosphere. I chatted to a few ladies including a few mums about how to fit in running around the family.

I got back home to find Jonathan wearing a completely different set of clothes to the one's I'd left out he'd picked out his favourites himself.
He poured a whole bottle of body wash down the bath and couldn't wait to tell me of the programmes he'd been watching (all the ones I normally don't let him watch) He'd had a fantastic time with his Uncle and asked when I'd be going for another race!!
His uncle said Jonathan told him what to do - (not all of it true!)

I've booked in for the Harlow 10 in 3 weeks and I can't wait! I may not be a fast runner but the freedom is second to none!
Have a good week all..

17/07/2007 at 20:26
Tonia - well done on the running. I know what you mean about the freedom. I love and appreciate running even more now. I think we all have our own private running goals whether those aimed for times are considered fast or slow...I wouldn't get out as often as I do if I was racing (myself).
I started weaning Oliver 3 weeks ago, at 24 weeks. Although Oliver is a big baby he was showing none of the classic signs of wanting to be weaned. However, I thought I would start gently with a tiny bit of baby rice so that there is no pressure. 3 weeks on and the whole process is still very weary and messy. He is just not really taking to it. He refuses to open his mouth, or we get some in his mouth (by making him laugh, or when he yawns - which feels very mean) and he coughs, gags or leaves it on his tongue for ages with his mouth open. It doesn't seems to be the taste that bothers him - he's now had carrot, apple, sweet potato - just the feel of it in his mouth and not knowing what to do with it. If he takes the spoon himself he opens his mouth but you can imagine what a mess we get into and how little ends up in his mouth. Sometimes I think we are making headway, then he regresses again. Not worrying yet but imagined the whole thing to be a bit easier. To his credit he is good at drinking water from a learning beaker.

MM - Hi! Nice to catch up with you. You are amazing...and a credit to Gina Ford!! Can't believe you are thinking about another baby. I am still coming to terms with the one :-)
18/07/2007 at 09:43
Not sure what to suggest Austrorunner, my two have always opened their wee mouths like little baby birds. Keep persevering I guess. Let him play with a spoon a bit so he gets used to it being near his mouth, try eating something yourself at the same time, babies love to copy, or fake by putting it into your mouth and pretend to swallow. He will get the hang of it.

Like I say only issue with my two is the puking. Gave them blueberries with banana from Plum Baby last night, big mistake! Vanish came out for the carpet, and vanish for their bedding! Thank goodness for vanish oxi-action!!

8 month check tomorrow (being done at 9 months!), so will ask HV again about it all, as does drive me mad! Both have colds at the mo which just makes it worse.
18/07/2007 at 11:08
Hi - lurking a bit on this thread until I qualify to join in properly (c. 3 weeks - although obviously won't be running quite that soon!)

Austrorunner - have you tried both having a spoon? I found I could always sneak in a bit more when my babies were feeding themselves. And soon he'll be big enough for some soft finger food, which can help. I wouldn't worry too much - babies take different times to get used to things and as long as you keep trying different tastes and textures he should be fine.

Sounds like you're all well and enjoying being back to running - I'm really looking forward to being able to go faster than 13 min. miles!
18/07/2007 at 11:59
Hello Graduated at last!

for those that dont know me from the pregnacy Thread I have 10 day old twin girls called Ella and Milla. we came home from hospital on sunday and they are proving to be really chilled and content babies at the moment (every time I say that I touch wood!)

I had a section and lost alot of blood so exercise is definately out for awhile, went for a short walk this morning for the first time though and it was lovely to stretch my legs and get some fresh air, the girls slept through thier first outing!

Body wise the damage is beginning to become apparant, I was very swollen due to pre eclampsia and it is gradually going leaving a jelly belly and wobbly thighs, but not as bad as i feared!
19/07/2007 at 09:53
Big snots today from my two, not great. I babysat for a friend last night so a bit weary but good for them to get out. Means we're owed too always a nice feeling!

Hetty I walked every day with my two sometimes twice a day, being the outside type I couldn't bare being shut in. You are doing brilliantly, keep up the good work. I started jogging at 4 weeks, but it did feel like everything would fall out!

Wobble belly goes with lots of those postnatal exercises, worse for us two of course! Also pilates great for getting everything firm again. But beware I still have a belly now although quite firm it does stick out, was a flat tummy before the boys, so looks like it maybe staying given we're 9 months on and am running quite a bit and doing pilates! I can't diet, would get too depressed, so will put up with it!
20/07/2007 at 00:19
Hello ladies and babies
Found you thanks to Janie - been a while since I been on forums.
Jacob now 8mths old - how time flys.
In training for 10k in Aylesbury in August - yikes.
GMx
20/07/2007 at 13:58
Hi GM. Amazing isn't it. Can't believe my two are 9 months. How are you doing?

Joshie projectile vomited his lunch and tea last night. Seems to be much better this morning, but had to cancel everything today in case.

I am entered for half marathon in October. Yes yikes! Have done three 10ks and a 7 miler so far.

Weather so grim today, have huge ironing pile so hope the boys will play nicely together so get on with that!
22/07/2007 at 22:25
MM, thanks for the thoughts about weaning. Kit is very interested in watching hubby and I eating so I think he'll be ready for it when the time comes. I'll probably start weaning him a couple of weeks before he reaches the 6-month mark. He's on anywhere between 32 and 36 ounces of formula a day at the moment so there's no real need to wean yet.

Hetty, I second MM on the belly front. I had a section too so couldn't resume exercise immediately - think I went for my first run at 6 weeks which was against hospital advice but I couldn't bear to wait any longer. It was all fine as I took it VERY gently the first few times. Like MM, my belly is fairly firm again now but is slightly more rounded than the completely flat tummy I had pre-pregnancy. I still need to tone up my thighs a bit, and my upper arms, but I'm pretty happy with how I look after 5 months.

CC - yes, Kit is now sleeping pretty well again. He occasionally stirs at about 5:30am but has learned to settle himself back to sleep 90% of the time. I tried a bit of 'controlled crying' during the day - putting him down for naps and as soon as he started crying, going into his room and reassuring him using my voice only, then going out again and repeating at two-minute intervals until he settled. It only took a day and his sleep has been so much better since. The first day I used the controlled crying he slept right through the night: of course, it was a fluke, but he hasn't woken more than once any night since - and most nights not at all. I think he just needed to be allowed to fall asleep on his own - hubby and I were far too quick to rush in at the slightest murmur and pick him up or give him his dummy. Now we always put him down awake and he usually beams at us as we zip him into his sleeping bag, and settles himself really quickly without crying at all. He's also learned not to cry as soon as he wakes up, but will happily lie in his cot cooing and playing with his toes until we go in and get him up. We were away in Devon last week and he slept like an angel in an unfamiliar cot and bedroom, bless him.

Have to say since having a baby I've really noticed how bad facilities are in most places for feeding/changing them. While on holiday we went to the Eden Project: ONE baby changing/disabled toilet once you'd entered the main area. We had to wait for three other mothers ahead of us, then when I finally got in to change Kit, I was plagued by a woman in a wheelchair banging on the door the entire time. Quite often I found myself changing his nappy or feeding him in the car which was not ideal with the weather we had!!

Forgot to say congrats to Hetty - and welcome to the post-natal thread!
23/07/2007 at 13:46
Yes we have found that Minks. National Trust places have lovely facilities but you can't get a double buggy through the door! But this is the situation in many places to be honest for us. I do generally have to rely on the good will of others.

Did you have a good break otherwise? We are off on hols in a weeks time to Wales praying the weather improves but not sure it will!!
23/07/2007 at 15:25
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23/07/2007 at 18:49
Hello all!

I thought I should make the journey over from Pregnant Lady to Mum! If you don't already know, Hector was born on June 29th after a fantastic home birth and he is doing really well. He's so gorgeous! I wrote up my birth story if you fancy a read (it's long, by the way).

I'm definitely not ready to start running again yet (I think I'll wait until my six week check up - is this with the GP, by the way?) but I do feel good - the jelly belly has gone down pretty quickly (but is decidedly wobbly) and I am able to fasten various pairs of trousers after months and months! To be honest, I'm really not stressing about my post-birth body, I just look at him and feel proud :) I do have a way to go with the weight though, but won't put myself under lots of pressure because it seems to be happening naturally anyway.

I look forward to seeing how everyone gets on with training and I will keep you updated on my own progress.

AP+h xx
24/07/2007 at 10:46
Janie - congratulations, what an experience! It sounds truly challenging, good to hear you are both well now though. Ah, welcome to the world little Ted, what a gorgeous name you have!

Take care xx
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