Hi Toria: We met at a Sartaj curry many moons ago. I have had a similar hip problem to you. Mine started off as back pain, then various chiro (psycho) sessions made it a lot worse as he would twist my back by pulling one knee across the hips twisting the pelvis one way whilst restraining the shoulders. The lower back pain was joined with severe hip pain too. I got to a stage where the hip-pain was so bad I could not walk for several weeks. I was side-lined from running for about a year.
IMHO, it is important to get your muscles to (i) relax and (ii) return to normal patterns of movement.
Do you swim gently (even float) at least once a week? Do you do very gentle pillates or yoga at least once a week?
Have you had a deep muscle sports massage on the muscles around the painful hip eg lower-back, glutes, hamstrings, abductors, adductors and most important of all, the (dreaded) piriformis muscle?
Although you didn't want any: (((toria))).