I can relate to that. Wasn't so much being told I can't- rather not getting support. My dad died when I was young and mum had her own stuff to deal with, so I'm not bitter or anything.
Did you know, there was a psyche profile done to determine what background would most likely produce a strong minded, independant thinking, balanced personality.
The group that came out on top wasn't having both parents, or divorced parents, etc.
It was a male, whose father died when he was 9.
There are loads of famous people who fit this profile. Hitler was one. I'm probably not QUITE as committed as he was though. No dodgy 'tash either :)