That is a great attitude Bigeater. Just aim to increase mileage by about 10% per week and aim to do your only 20 miler a month out from the actual marathon. Kafeeg is totally correct have a step back week once every 2-4 weeks .
Hi Kaffeeg. Just as I thought. I had guessed one of your fears. That is the latter. The 2 main fears with many runners ( you really are not alone here by any stretch of the imagine) are fear of failure , and as you said fear of the overwhelming fatigue that sometimes comes with running.
Firstly. You said that you may lack the motivation that goes with the training. However, you have already ticked one positivity box ! Your last post said I really need to start training again. That is great. I know , it is motivation and what have you. But, ask yourself this Do you desperately want to improve , or are you happy to just get round again. If the latter, that is absolutely fine. You will still be completing your second ever marathon, one more than many other people have ever done. That is a fantastic notch to put in your belt. Tell yourself this. You only need to do one long run at the moment once every1-2 weeks or so and this shouldn't be that long. Can I also ask you why at this stage you feel you have to do 14 miles !!! I went out today for 8.5 and that was enough. I will probably do 10 next time, but don't have to. maybe you should think like this too. I should imagine you are putting too much pressure on yourself too early !! Unfortunately I am not a psychologist and can not get into peoples brains, but I can speak rationally and tell you exactly what works for me. We are all human after all even if we all run to different standards. We are all made of the same stuff.
Could you do me a favour ? Tell me what your typical training week is at the moment . We can have a look at it and perhaps you will find your weekly mileage is far higher than it perhaps needs to be !! at this stage your longest run should only be 6-8 miles !! That's it !! During the week you can get away with a 2-3 runs of only 3-5 miles. Your weekly mileage should only be up to about 20-25 miles. No more. Not 14 in one go. That is over half your weekly mileage in just one run. !! Go easy on yourself. Go out and run very relaxed and steady. If you have motivation problems, can you join a club or find someone else to run with. They do not have to be doing the marathon at all, however if they were, even better. But it is company and it will force you to go out. Very important for you to not look too far ahead. One week at a time, or even one run at a time. I am the same. It took me a while to get out the door today. But the thought really is worse than the action. Once you have finished there is a real sense of achievement. Once I am out on the road I am fine.
You also said the last time it was a lifetimes ambition. Take some pressure off yourself by saying , I have done it once, so now there is nothing to prove to anyone. You may think this will take away some of the determination and go to get round. Why ?? It is still a marathon and your second. This is something to be doubly proud of, however as you have done it once,the pressure is actually off. To me the real fear for first timers is the fear of failure, not getting round fear of the unknown, the list goes on and on. You do not need to worry. You have conquered it once . I hope this makes sense. You are cut out for it again. I don't think you would be having a go if you were not. I know, sometimes you just need some encouragement to keep going. We'll give you that. Do you really feel you have to do it faster !! Again you are putting pressure on yourself. You will probably find that you will anyway. Worry about that later on once your confidence has grown and you actually have miles under your belt. Again, don't look to