how to train with a partner that doesn't understand why

i think Ric has hit the nail on the head above.  As long as you are pulling your share with the kids and her you are on stable ground regards your long run.  as long as you do it a  reasonable time so it doesnt impact on family life she should learn to get used to it.   This isnt about long runs really though.

she has her things, you have yours, others you do together

Bloody hell!

I can't believe my luck with my missus and running.

She always encourages me to go out at 7:00 pm every Tuesday and Friday and to be out at least 2 hours.

Ok, so it belongs in the category of 'send a joke to a rest home'.

Now that a professional in these matters in the form of WW has arrived, I shall take a respectful step backwards.

I do wonder if people in relationships think the deal is about winning a contest or gaining control of the other person.

My own relationship is just co-operation. Also lucky my missus gets on with anyone.

Here's a pic of her chatting to one of her mates. (she's the one in the black jacket)

Perfectly valid post NN. Second thoughts about it maybe?

Running Kev wrote (see)

I find it hard to comprehend when partners are jealous of their OHs keeping fit and healthy (as long as they pull their weight elsewhere).

It's not as if they are down the pub or something!

+1

Subconcious jealously? Either of the time you have to yourself, the fact you have something you are passionate about she doesn't, or that you are doing something that makes you more healthy/fit than she is? 

If you can keep to times that are not intrusive to the rest of your lives together that's great (especially with the kids). There are certainly worse habits to have. But I dont have kids so I dont think I could ever understand what your missus is feeling and whether she has any right to.

and really like the biking when you are running idea - getting them involved in your training will be great for you as well! have a little fanbase alongside.  

RicF wrote (see)

Perfectly valid post NN. Second thoughts about it maybe?

Something like that..

A good book which covers this area in some depth (the area being family resentments against the running) is the Zen of Running.

I live with a runner though, so it doesn't apply to me, but when I wasn't a 'runner', yes of course I could get resentful about the time she spent running.  What I didn't realise was that although running isn't like work - it's not something that needs to be done to maintain the roof over our heads - but neither is sleep, but it's hugely important we sleep.  Running for many is just like sleep.  It mightn't earn us money, but it's just as vital.

Can you get up early and run so it doesn't infring on family life?

Shona what a great idea with the car !

My last two partners have also been runners, which you would think was perfect, but both always seem to be getting injured (nothing to do with me honest) whereas I luckily stay injury free...problem I found was the jealousy towards me on these occasions !! I consider myself very easy going and have never minded what a partner does as a hobby...I just dont seem to have been able to find someone who is as accepting of mine,

I used to resent the time my OH was out running as I saw it as a waste of time that we could be spending together - he sees his daughter on Sunday's so always did his long run on a Saturday which I considered to be 'my day'.  Anyway, I began running myself and now I'm not bothered - I do my long run on whichever day suits me and he's fine with it - I also now appreciate the time it takes to cover the mileage (I'm a slow runner!!) and the time I get to myself doing something for me when I can just think about any old thing that comes into my head. 

When he's in 'proper' training and out doing uber distances, I just make the most of the time by seeing friends, baking, taking the dog out, doing my own long run or just chilling at home.  Ultimately he's going to do it anyway, regardless of whether I like it or not, so rather than fight about it I just accepted it and turned it to my advantage. 

Fortunately for me, we don't have kids, so that makes it a bit easier for us. But even if we did I would never tell him he couldn't go out running - I would just expect a little common sense to be applied in that he fit it around family life.