Every meeting has it's own distinct 'flavour'. And after a while in A.A. people find we have quite a few different viewpoints on recovery, so certain types of people tend to gravitate towards certain kinds of meetings. And all of that is cool; I'm pretty ecumenical about this stuff myself.
One thing that springs to mind is that when an A.A. meeting has someone brand new there, members will often share about the tough times they experienced in the hope that the newcomer identifies with them (identification is pretty important in A.A.. For example we never tell anyone they're an alcoholic, we just share our stuff, and hope the newcomer identifies as one of us). So that could've been the reason for the depressing shares. But that should've been tempered with some some hope too.
Some folk - mostly in the cities where there's meetings on all the time - ask newcomers to try to go to 90 meetings in 90 days. And whilst I'm not a fan of that, I can see the benefit in that it would encourage someone to go to at least fifteen different meetings, so they can get a good taste of what's on offer.
Ours is not depressing though; we've a good bunch of lively characters.
Just entered the Cardiff half marathon with Mrs Easy. We'll be running it with a young lad who got 18 months sober, then when life wasn't matching his expectations, he went out and drank for 9 weeks straight, ending up in hospital three times and a police cell once (prior to which the police gave him quite a kicking). That's pretty good going I reckon for 9 weeks.
Anyway, he missed about 9 weeks worth of training, so he'll be happy to just get around; it'll be his third half marathon.
Thanks, Ric, and well done on kicking the smokes and losing the weight.
some of the meetings in your area (particularly towards Newport) can be a bit dark. If you ever want to go to an upbeat meeting, give my A.A. homegroup a visit; we meet up on Tuesday evening in Chepstow community hospital at 8.00 pm. We're dead easy to find - it's just a few minutes from that bridge you ran over - and we're an upbeat group.
I know a few long time sober alkies who drank again (like Robin Williams did after 20 years sober), so I think mixing with a like-minded group of folks in recovery is important. And it can be fun too.
I rarely miss my A.A. homegroup meeting (they're like my 2nd family) and we're a friendly lot. We've a few runners there too. Two of us ran marathons last year and another ran a few half-marathons (he also kicked the smokes).
Hi Ric, yes, I ran the Severn Bridge Half; I didn't get even anywhere like a decent time though. It's what I deserved for having ran very little in the past few months. Mrs Easy got a good 1hr 37 mins and she spent the first five months of this year injured. Some folk make me want to puke!!!