A few days won't make any difference in the long run BP, but I can imagine how frustrated she must feel having built herself up. Has she already had chemo? I can't remember. I had surgery first then chemo, so for me surgery was the first hurdle, and I had a 2 month wait between finding the lump and having my first op, which just seemed an age at the time, and I imagined the cancer rapidly spreading itself around the place whilst I wasn't having any treatment.
Dr google is definitely to be stayed away from, but the charities and support groups are good if she's the kind of person who would find it helpful talking about it. I know I do....but its hard to explain to people who haven't been in your shoes.
The one thing I would say is see if she has any support networks of people in her shoes, ie other young women with breast cancer. They have been such a source of information and strength to me, mostly just virtual, FB groups and such, but also meeting up with people, just going for coffee and talking to people who know where you're coming from, makes all the difference. Possibly not yet....because she's still going through it, but several months down the line when active treatment has finished and everyone assumes she's fine, that's it, done and dusted, bye bye cancer......that's when a good support network really helps.
You remember when you were a child CM and your parents taught you 'if you can't say anything nice.....don't say anything at all...' the same applies
I agree, if the shoe was on the other foot I have no idea if I would have been a good friend to someone. I hope now I would be. I only have 1 friend here who surprised me a bit as she is really local, a good friend but she pretty much kept her distance, whereas I had people I barely knew making me lasagne.....