caro - glad you have session 2 done. hope you managed some sleep. and also hope you don't feel as sick / headachey etc...
run was surprisingly enjoyable. I did 'push' myself though - laughably slow - and I ache this morning. which is also laughable. after 25 mins of running. oh ho ho ho.
sodding traffic woes this morning again. utterly sick of it. they've now started doing works on one of the main roundabouts connecting some major roads - including the one which is all backed up due to road closures. so it was utter carnage even before I got close this morning. I snuck around the back roads so avoided sitting in the chaos but it was still bad joining the main road at the end. I am so over the sodding NATO summit! and this is going on until 13 sept (even tho the event is 4 and 5). argh!! sorry - you will all be sick of me going on about it. but it's insane.
blimey lotte - you are HARDCORE. you thrashed out a 10k which you won. then you ran another 10 miles. nutter!
meanwhile i'm about to start a 6 week 5k training programme. my running has been so awful and I just can't find time to fit it in, which is rubbish. but it's the headspace and stuff you need for it which I just haven't got. BUT I've decided I want to run a parkrun again but I can't bear to do it slowly, so i'm going to train for one. 4 sessions a week for the next 6 weeks. tonight's is a 20 minute run, and i'm thinking - 20 minute. ffs. not worth putting trainers on for. so... I will run to the park (assuming I can still get in there, which is doubtful with all the barriers up!). then I will do a 20 min run, and then i'll run back. with all the road crossing and stop /starting / weaving round barriers, it'll take me 10 mins to get there and 10 to get back!
hoggle -yes, I get the ads too sometimes. not always tho
early days bf is time intensive. but lactation consultant I saw said that really they don't 'feed' for more than 40 mins. so if they are still on the breast then, they aren't feeding effectively or are just sucking for comfort. I found J fell asleep as soon as he went on, which wasn't helpful. I agree that stripping them off, changing nappy part way thru etc did help a bit. but it does take for bloody ever!
good luck caro... am so glad your sis is coming over. how cool is that. am sure she'll be a great help too, and is presumably fab with the kids also
Pip - I agree it's worth working on. but don't you go blaming yourself. it's no good you 'trying' if he doesn't either. I had that with my 'ex' - he made it all my fault and blamed me for everything. his classic line - in front of the counsellor no less ' was "you are a clever woman. if you really applied yourself to this, you could be happy in this relationship. you just need to try hard". laid the blame fairly and squarely in my court. and that's what i'm sensing a bit from your posts - that he is blaming you and saying you aren't good enough / perfect enough / shagging him enough. and that YOU need to change. and that isn't right. he needs to accept that his behaviour also needs to change and he needs to accept that you also have to be happy in the relationship.
good luck on holiday. you may find it's not too bad if you both can agree to try and be nice to each other / listen etc.
it would be very interesting to see if he can actually listen to you and hear what you say. the counsellor tried that with T and me. she got me to say something that upset me about our relationship, then T had to repeat what i'd said, then say how that would have made me feel, then how that made him feel. he couldn't do it. he couldn't repeat what i'd said. he 'interpreted it' every time and put words in my mouth that I didn't say. I wonder if your husband could do it...
oh this is such a place to work. so - today a change window was agreed 10am - 5pm to do some work on switches which provide network connectivity to the Uni halls of residence. outage advertised...
so they make the change at 8am this morning. yes - 2 hours BEFORE the advertised window! in a way, just as well - because the change knackered the firewall, so that affected LOADS of services which are used by staff and students.
anyway, so they quickly realised and did a fudge so that the firewall works again.
but still the change has failed. and the residences are out.
so now they are doing ANOTHER change at 5pm which will hopefully sort out the initial thing they were trying to do, plus the issue they caused with the firewall when they did it.
but I have zero faith in this!! it's just as well i'm on holiday tomorrow really. they're making the change at 5pm to minimise impact on staff. however, if it screws everything up again, then none of the support teams will be around to fix it until tomorrow morning. about 9am. ho hum.