That's so tough Caro, cancer is just so horrible at the end though luckily I have not had to experience it close-up. Glad you got new baby cuddles to lift your mood though. How is hubby through all this? Good that work is enjoyable again too!
Sorry not been on much recently, just busy so no excuses really. Mum rang yesterday and sounded slightly subdued and I realised afterwards that she's just had her first Mother's Day with no mum so I wondered if that was affecting her. Sounds as though she's not being as generous with her time for my uncle which is good, as he's just come out of hospital and has carers visiting. I think she rings him and pops in on him regularly but hopefully she's stepped back from the full-on carer role.
Running-wise I'm up to 11.5 miles in my half marathon training with 3.5 weeks to go, and it felt ok so I'm feeling slightly reassured! Took me 2:03 so still pretty slow but steady. I had an energy gel halfway round and I felt quite revived on the second lap so I'm sure that must have helped. Friends did a reccy of the new race route on Sunday and said the first half is very uphill !
Had a lovely Mother's Day with a very sweet (verging on annoying!) Sophie constantly checking I was happy! I took her ice skating as it was £1 for mums, then lunch with MIL and Sophie and I went to the cinema in the evening to a special preview of Cinderella, which a friend's dad got us tickets for. Then poor Sophie was up all night with croup and off school yesterday. Still really croaky today but she's back at school.
Right must tackle this washing pile. It's all very well having a day off on Mother's Day but not any actual use if no-one else does the chores either!
Poor f in l Caro, I guess it must be a strain on her having him at home, but that's a rather extreme threat!
I remember doing that positive thinking before bedtime with Sophie, when she had a phase of being scared at night or not wanting me to leave. We'd just talk about all the fun things that had happened that day, and if that failed I'd make her Bear talk and she always finds that amusing .
Bedtime struggles are a pain but they do pass and it is important to be firm. Sophie (again!) had a phase of chucking her Bear out of her cot and then crying for him, repeatedly. Hubby was much more strict than I was and it worked eventually! Now some night she invents any reason she can think of to come downstairs, but as she's now 6 we tell her to stop doing it and go to bed but give her a quick cuddle so she doesn't get upset - she knows what she's up to, the little monkey!
I agree about reward charts - never made much difference here, in fact, I don't think we've ever done one with with Nicky! I definitely work on the guilt trip - my 2 hate it when I'm cross with them and say sorry repeatedly until they're sure I'm not cross anymore! Doesn't seem to work on each other though...! Intrinsic and extrinsic motivation I believe it's called in the trade .
I plodded round 10 miles this morning and it was so hard all the way! Had a bit of a dodgy stomach later so I wonder if that's why it was so hard. Feel ok now and not too achey, plus my knee didn't give me much trouble which it has done the last 2 times I've done that run. I'm also off chocolate, cakes and biscuits after seeing myself in a video at work with an enormous belly
My mum's here at the moment, driving me nuts from time to time as ever! She leaves on Tuesday...
Big hugs Camlo, so hard for you. She is in good hands so try not to worry yourself or put yourself out too much for her, she is an adult after all.
CM - don't worry, I am hanging my head in shame reading all these parental diets ! I'm probably not that bad, but we do have a big selection of cereals as I love cereal, but they get bored of the sugary ones and choose bran flakes or shreddies, and I make sure we don't always have sugary ones. Nicky loves porridge but I do put sugar on it...and on weetabix or he complains, and as I put sugar or honey on both of those I can't really say no! And we always have biscuits in the cupboard, but they are limited to 2 as a snack or a pudding per day. We also have breadsticks, malt loaf, cranberries etc which they also love as a snack, and I'm always telling them they can have fruit (which they also love). They are just eating machines! Definitely no pudding without eating all the veg as well .
Speaking of diets (how awful re the coeliac TT) my sister reckons she has Candida in her intestine, which is apparently not recognised by the NHS, and one of the things she says is that she mustn't eat too much sugar. She includes fruit in this, but her husband says he thinks it's rubbish and how can natural sugar be bad for you. I don't really know what to believe as my sister is very gullible and spends loads of money on special supplements from the US etc. but I suppose fruit does have a lot of sugar in it and fructose can cause problems.
Funeral all went fine by the way, I am so glad to be home after all that driving! My sister and I read a few words out about my Granny which everyone seemed to like. Weird going to my Granny's house now though as it's all just as she left it when she went into the home - all the pictures are still there, even her mints by her armchair, coat on the back of a chair etc. Don't think my mum or uncle are in a hurry to sort it out as it's not a priority for them. My uncle's health is not good all of a sudden, and he's going to need an operation to widen an artery in his leg and connect it to something in his stomach, plus his arthritis is really painful. If we're not careful, my mum is going to go from caring for her mother to caring for her brother - when he's not even been in the country for 40 years. Grr. My mum is too nice, we are trying to make her see that he is not her responsibility, but it's hard when he can't walk and she can and has a car etc.
My mum wouldn't speak to my cousin at the funeral, I can't believe how childish she is! They have fallen out because she kept making digs about getting married, when he doesn't want to marry his partner and they have a 4 year old boy together. She's so bl**dy stubborn! At least I got to talk to him as I haven't seen him for years, and make it clear that I don't share my mother's views. Families eh.
Just found Sophie on the toilet leafing through my Runners World !
Hugs to all those needing it. I may need one on Monday after my Granny's funeral though I won't be emotional in front of my family as we don't "do" that, which is stupid but hey. I've agreed to say a few words and have no idea what to say! Need to think tonight.
I'm loving my new job and am thankful for every cup of tea I can make and drink in peace, every toilet trip (!) or lunch break I can take in peace - the joys of teaching that make you grateful for these things once you're out of it! We had an open day yesterday which was good fun and nice to meet some prospective students at last. Don't regret leaving teaching at all right now, although I am still doing a couple of hours at the college but I am now thankful that I am just casual there as it means it is not my priority anymore.
Tomorrow: 9-10 mile run followed by Nicky's first birthday party that he's been invited to at school (I'm very excited ) then I've got to drive to Bedford to stay the night at my sister's, and on Monday we're driving to Suffolk for the funeral. Then on Tuesday I'm driving her back to Bedford before driving home - will be a long day I think . This is the sister I recently fell out with...I wonder if she'll offer me any petrol money... I'm not looking forward to any of it really, roll on Tuesday!
Had a few ciders at a wedding reception last night and felt a bit rough this morning, but managed to drag myself to kids' swimming and to my riding lesson. Having a very slow glass of wine now!