Not an easy one at all. Like Yums, I think I would want to feel that if the healing process did derail for some reason he was in the place where he would be cared for most expertly and most quickly; but I can totally understand your wish to take care of him yourself, right now! And I am sure he would MUCH rather be at home. But does it help to think through alternatives? I mean, if the healing goes well he will be home Monday in any case; if there are problems over the weekend and he's at home, would you have to take him back? You probably would have to take Monday off as I guess you couldn't leave him; if he's in hozzie, then they can go straight into action without delay and without having to move him.... We all know this dilemma, and there is no right or wrong answer, you will know the right thing for him and for you.
(((((Podds and DG)))))
Awww, Tubs, they are SO sweet---and look about the same size as Monty! Megs will love them.
Larry, it IS funny when you change dog size radically, isn't it? Your Ozzie obviously has a giant personality, though, he sounds wonderful.
Daffs, bliddy well chugged that lass!!! If even Meldy is pleased with you, then you done good, for sure
Bon voyage, Coco, hope the trip goes really well and you are able to forget the hassle in the office here and enjoy concentrating on the work at hand and on seeing your MIL. It will mean a lot to Mr Coco that you make that visit, too.
So now you're doing two people's jobs?!?!? And you weren't exactly kicking your heels to start with! Look after yourself just a little bit, won't you?
We are about to go look at a new exhibit about a classic bastide, if it's good I'll post the link. Monty is really settling in now, and is turning into a real goofball. When I'm making his food he is wildly enthusiastic, and jumps up and down beside me---think a 15 stone rugby player trying to sauter like a ballet dancer and you'll get the idea. He can jump really quite high---he gets 4 feet into the air, but he's such a big lad you can't help laughing. And while Rossie was like an arrow when she ran, straight and clean in her movement, this one is the definition of 'lollop'. But he sits very quietly, and even Mr C (who as you know pretends not to like animals) likes to have him sitting there while he works on the computer. It's exactly a week since Rossie left us, almost to the hour, but I'm sure she tee'd this up for us and is happy he's here.
Podds, you haven't been self-absorbed, you've been keeping us closely informed as to how the DG is, which is exactly what we want! Haven't you noticed that if we do NOT get daily, even hourly, bulletins we all start wondering how he is?? Great to hear he's making progress (the piddling is good news and also good the pain meds are going down. Like Yums said, with a skin graft the donor site is often the most painful so hopefully that is starting to feel a little less sore by the day. Do they know yet when he can come home?
Your Meldiness, even for you that was a stunningly good race and a sterling race report! Getting a PB when you had had so much else on your plate to deal with is truly stellar. I am absolutely full of admiration!!!!! Stonkingly well done, ma'am!!
Nogs, hope you, erm, enjoyed the delivery for fave. She does have a way of staying at the forefront of the action even when she's away, doesn't she?!
Cheesie, really liked that thought you posted for Snaily. So true.
Will you quit beating yourself up? Of course you're stressed---you're off tomorrow on a trip, and you have last minute staff problems, who wouldn't be stressed?!? Deal with as well as possible in the time given, and then try not to worry, just focus on the trip. A lot of crises actually deflate, given a little time. xxx
((((((Spence pal and everyone affected))))
That has to be one of the hardest things imaginable for everyone. Good that you were able to use it to make such a positive point with your kids. Mr C and I are like you----we'd never have got together at an earlier stage of our lives. (Tho I also know some people, like our lovely Tubs, who married very early and it's worked out brilliantly. Of course, she and Mr Tubs are two of the nicest people in the whole world anyway!! xx)
Speaking of Tubs, loved your My Little Pony account! These two sound like absolute sweeties, and it must be such fun to get them kitted out with all the natty little things they need. Am I right that Megs isn't with them yet? When will she move in? It will be so nice (and of course less travelling!) when they are all there together. Oh, and I love the idea of Rossie and Fling together. That really consoled me, Tubs, because Fling has always been such a gentle boy, and Rossie would really love someone big and reassuring to be close to.
I did laugh at you buying all the extra-small things for the ponies, because we are doing the reverse for Monty. He weighs 26.5 kg (Rossie was about 16), and he's really strong, a rugger player of a dog, so he can't even fit into her bed (luckily his old bed came with him); and her lead simply isn't strong enough if he really pulls; so we have been getting all the things we need for a big lad like him. He really is so sweet, so pleased to see everyone in the morning and so appreciative of all the cuddles he gets, it's lovely. And I will be a lot happier the 10 days I'm alone here, knowing Monty is here with me.
Daffs, WHAT can you have done to have brought on the threat of legal action?!?? Not like you at all! Glad it seems to have blown over, anyway.
Podds, that sounds like good news on the DG. Must be hard for you not being able to see him yourself, but I'm sure you're right and it would upset him if you came and left---not to mention that you are not exactly overloaded with time yourself, and it may be better to keep your energy for when he comes home. Any idea when that will be?
((((Spence and pal))))
That is a conversation no parent ever wants to have. Hope perhaps the shock of it all may shake some sense into friend's OH before it's too later....
Wot everyone said, especially Cheesie and Coco. I would add just one thing: you will probably never be 100% sure, no matter what you decide, and you can't foresee everything; but you will come to a point where you just know what's right for you. I think that's a better test than 'what I want' because in a crisis my feelings can be so confused that you can't work out WHAT you want. And I personally don't believe in one-sided relationships: if it's not right for you, then it can't really be right for the other person either. Come on in here and vent whenever ou need to, and don't worry: when you're ready, you WILL know.
Monty was unbelievably good at the vet. This was the nice old vet who saw Rossie in June, and he was glad to see Monty, and very impressed at how calm and cooperative he was----'impeccable', he said. We swelled with pride And Podds, thank you for that perfect image: Monty is indeed not in Rossie's shoes, and no dog ever will be, but his shoes are parked beside hers beside the door. I love that!
((((Snaily)))) Wot Coco, Nogs and Yums said. My experience has been like Coco's: realising you're happier alone than in company is, to me, THE most significant thing. But the only thing that matters is what feels right to YOU. Come in and vent any time, you're always amongst friends here! xxxxx
Nogs, that idea with the fathers' rings is so beautiful. Brought a tear to my eye. Really special.
Northern Lass, welcome. 10 mm is beyond the aspirations of some of us!
MC, good luck with the school uniforms. I well remember sitting up, bleary eyed, sewing in thousands of bliddy name tags.....
DL, luuuurve your next exercise regime! I'm already starting with gentle warm-ups with my kettle---reckon if I keep at it by next month I'll be able to lift it when it's full of water!
JFF, glad it's a bit quieter at work---but why can't your bosses be on permanent holiday??
Lisa, wot Hippo said still stands. Speed is no object here, and 13 mm is just fine, as is r/w. Every step is a good step, so pull up a chair and tell us about yourself.
BTW, speaking of every step a good step, I just saw this:
"Runners, sprinters, run/walkers, and joggers: I have some good news for you. A new study has found that running can add years to your life, and it doesn't matter how far or how fast you go. All you have to do is lace up your sneakers and go.
The study, published in the recent issue of the Journal of the American College of Cardiology, involved more than 55,000 adults aged 18 to 100, who were followed during a 15-year period to determine whether there is a relationship between running and long life. About 25 percent of the participants were runners. Within the study period, 3,413 participants died, including 1,217 whose deaths were related to cardiovascular disease. Researchers found that the runners, when compared with the non-runners in the study, had a 30 percent lower risk of death in general and a 45 percent lower risk of death from heart disease or stroke. Runners lived an average of three years longer than their non-running peers. Participants who ran consistently had the most significant health benefits — including a 29 percent lower risk of death in general and a 50 percent lower risk of death from heart disease or stroke. The best part? The benefits were the same no matter how far or fast the participants ran. Ultra marathoners saw the same health benefits as those who ran a lap or two around the block. Same goes for sprinters and back-of-the-packers. In fact, running a minimum of 30 minutes to 59 minutes each week — that adds up to just 5 to 10 minutes a day — at a pace of less than 6 miles per hour (that's a 10-minute mile) was associated with the same health benefits as running for longer or faster periods. " Comforting thoughts Debate this in the forum