The exact same thing happened to me but the other way around. My partner and I was going to run our first marathon together in 2009, three weeksish before ha started getting pain in his foot, two weeks before confirmed stress fracture and had to defer.
We were gutted, I was as gutted as him as we had trained together (not hip joined as he was way faster than me angry at me not being faster not him ), planned together, raised money together etc. Training the last bit and tapering without him was heartbreaking, standing on the startline alone made me want to cry. But damn it I still raced it and I kicked ass and would not been able to do it without him popping up at mile 19, km 33 and at the finishing line. Bless his heart he had hobbled around London on crutches just for me.
My point is I wished with all of my heart he could have run it with me, been at the start line with me...and waiting with his medal already at the finishing line for me. But he was the injured one why should I have moaned poor me, yes I said to him I was gutted and wished he could have run with me but that was it.
So take this with you he probably missed you a lot and wished you were there running. But also unless you say how you feel he will not know as neither men nor women are mind readers. It is ok to feel gutted and left out and voice it but it is not ok to make someone not run, but I think if you voiced it it would not have come to that but rather a good heart to heart.
*Passes Zaba a rather weak, soggy and tired looking Dignity*
I think it may take a few days to recover fully, m'dear.
Thanks it worked, Also helped when colleague suggested we start a band called "The Dignity Incident" our 65+ colleague is going to play the guitar and Christian Bale will be our "mood" dancer in the background.
Also made friends with another colleague
Facing the shit and holding my head up high worked and has even earned me some kudos.
NOOOO I don't want an office, if you think it is nice and a step up on the career ladder then you have it cause I don't want it!