It's a shame you had to take that decision, CM. I hope it doesn't create a precedent of staff feeling they can get what they want by threatening to bring a grievance against you. I think it's appalling that you don't feel that you have any support in place (from HR or your own manager) to confidently make the decision that's best for the business rather than what's best for one member of staff.
Saying that, I'm in a quandary over a decision I have to make about one of my staff. I had a member of my team who was on long-term sick leave for over a year, and in that time, although she was no longer being paid, the job was technically still hers so I couldn't take on a permanent replacement. So I've had a temp in post for just under a year. Recently the postholder was dismissed on medical grounds and I now have permission to appoint a permanent replacement. So advertised the post internally and interviewed 3 candidates last week, one of whom is the temp currently doing the job. One of the applicants was unsuitable as insufficient relevant experience, but the other does the same role in another department and is a good friend of the other member of my team. She is also a friend of my temp. Both could do the job. I'm leaning towards the one who does the job already in another department, mainly because it will make my life a lot easier - she won't need any training (other than minor stuff to do with the differences between the ways different departments work), she has already worked for the organisation for about 20 years and has no plans to leave, meaning when my other long-term member of staff retires in a few years I'm unlikely to have to replace two people at the same time which would be hell as I don't know the role well enough myself to train someone up. But my temp has done a good job, the faculty like her and she's capable of doing the job. However, she's Hungarian and is finishing her PhD and I doubt that long-term she's going to want to be an admin assistant for the next several years. What I don't really want is a succession of short-term appointments because that's bad for the department in general and certainly bad for me! But I know I'm going to feel bad if I don't offer her the role. Gah!
JG, definitely think about applying for other stuff. You might find you enjoy a change of direction. And much as you hate confrontation (I think most of us do) you need to know where you stand so you can move on if need be.
Pip, fingers and toes crossed it all goes ahead. Moving is so stressful.
Makes sense about the whole sugar thing. I rarely crave sweet things. On the rare occasions I eat chocolate it definitely makes me want more of it. My cravings are always for savoury things - usually crisps. I do have to restrict myself or I could easily get through a large bag of Kettle Chips in one sitting!
JG, I would go and see someone in person (rather than via email or telephone) and ask them straight what's happening. It's really unfair that they are sidelining you in this way especially as they have not given you any reason to think that you have not been doing a good job in the past couple of years. Don't stew on it - even if it's not what you want to hear, you can at least think about what to do next. Good luck.
Have been reading but not posting - sorry. Every time I get to the end of the posts there is no time to write one of my own!
Caro, so glad the figure was high enough for you to receive your chemo. Not that it's pleasant but I'd be totally the same on not wanting to push back the time I'd be undergoing treatment. Hope you feel a bit better this time round, and so pleased you now have your sister with you. Is that 3 rounds done and dusted - so halfway through? I am SO impressed that you are still managing to run and cycle so much. And even more impressed with your 3rd lady result at Parkrun - still a super-speedy time too despite all the chemicals bouncing around your system. You really are an inspiration.
Lotte, wow to Dylan - that is amazing. How old is he now? He could have a lot of real potential for the future if he can run that fast now.
Brookie, well done on the walk. I'm with CC - walking 26.2 would be a lot harder for me than running it simply because of the amount of time I'd be on my feet. Would far rather run it any day! Was it the Thames Path Challenge you did?
I am a bit peeved as I'm planning to enter the Royal Parks Ultra next year. However, found out on Friday at work that our department is going to be hosting one of the top accounting journal conferences next October, over a Friday and a Saturday. We don't have dates yet as that's a lot down to what space we have available on campus and I have put in a request for rooms, but obviously I want to avoid the conference taking place on the same weekend as the ultra. Emailed the Royal Parks organisers and they can't give me a date for next year yet, so a bit difficult for me to try to arrange anything. Grrr. The conference will involve Friday afternoon and a full day Saturday, including the conference dinner Saturday night which I'll have to attend, so it would be pretty tough to have to do a 30-mile run the day afterwards. We shall see, but I hate not being able to plan ahead!
So pleased for you, Sonya - birth sounds horrific though and I don't even want to know about manual placenta removal! Must be fab to have a boy though after two girls, and a big surprise - much like TTid and Fay. Can't believe she's a month old already TTid!
CC, sounds mental with the upcoming move. Hope all goes OK. All you can do is get stuck in I suppose and get on with it. Really hope the knee comes good soon too - you will need running for stress relief if nothing else!
My dodgy back/piriformis is playing up a bit again. Saw chiro last week and he unlocked a few things which helped a bit, but it's felt a bit sore after a couple of runs recently and I've had really sore and stiff legs post-run. Of course I haven't helped myself any by doing too much fast stuff, so have backed off a bit now as I'm entered into a half on Sunday and don't want to end up with a full-blown injury which stops me running at all. I may have to just run the half rather than race though - the bigger picture is still 12 races for the year and I have 5 to go!
CM, hope the back is a bit better. Sounds awful. But could be stress-related and I'd agree that everything you mention seems linked together. Terrible doctor appointment system where you are. Ours is bad but not that bad!
Camlo, that race sounds amazing. Well done - it sounded hard both physically and emotionally.