Caro - well done on all the exercise. Hopefully it is helping you feel like you. Sorry about the hair. The buff looks great though and great your sis is coming over.
TT and others - hope the injuries clear up soon. So annoying. I have been injury prone for yours and there's always something looming. I also spend quite a lot of time doing work to be able to do the training that i want. I have actually started a 30 day running challenge http://www.kinetic-revolution.com/30daychallenge/welcome-to-the-challenge/ which is supposed to help runners. I have only done 3 days and will have to shelve it on hols as we have no internet connection but it looks good.
Ttid - hope the lovely Fay is still doing well and you are feeling ok.
CC - hope you had a nice weekend.
Re Royal parks ultra, I might think about it next year as i have to do a marathon or ultra as qualification for Comrades in 2016.
Camlo - hope hubby is ok.
RF - the Lake district is lovely. I've only been once, my mum took me when i was pregnant with no 1 and we stayed in a lovely but expensive hotel at the south end of the big lake (windermere?). Anyway, its stunning. Agree on the autumn comments. I do love the colours etc but the dark nights etc are just around the corner.
Oh and well done to the ironman. They are highly addictive and it's so easy to want to do another and another. I would love to do another and experience the razzmattazz (or however you spell it?!) of the race. I just have the time to put in on the bike. I am hoping the do the new 70.3 in Stafffordshire next year though.
Things are ok here. We've been trying to talk lots and also trying hard to be nice to each other. We are in that post big row stage where you are trying to be nice to each other, but at any moment it could all decend again. Let's see how this holiday goes. Thanks to everyone for all their really useful comments. They have been some good food for thought.
I did a sprint tri yesterday which was enjoyable. Slightly frustratingly average swim (15 mins), esp as i thought i was near the front of the group, and cycle (40 mins) but pleased with a sub 26 min 5k run. I ended up 6th but it was a very low key race. Fun though.
Flat still not sold and the house we want has basically been put back on the market (fair enough, it was decent of them to hold it off for a few weeks). I am refusing to get stressed by it all as I have done everything that i possibly can, so what will be, will be.
Holiday tomorrow morning. I am hoping for good weather - plllllleeeeassssseee!!
The intemacy thing isnt just sex, that is just a part of it, it's about sharing feelings and being close, rather than just the functional day to day stuff of life that most relationships are, especially when you have a family and there is so much going on. He is quite emotionally needy, that's for sure. He has gone out with his best friend tonight and i texted his friend and told him that i want them to talk. My husband doesnt talk to anyone so has no idea what real relationships are like and just has this idea of what he wants/needs. Maybe talking to a mate will give him a dose of reality. I also realised that i get lots from my friends, kids, sport whereas it feels like my HB expects me to provide all that for him.
Feeling a little better today after going to body pump, having a swim and my back feels better after having an osteopath appt.
CM - hope the work stuff is ok. The place sounds like a nightmare. My work is often very structured and organised, but it takes us forever to do anything. For every 10 mins worth of work done, there is about 2 hours of form fillings and endless calls to discuss stuff.
Cm -nightmare. Thanks for your advice. It is being listened to and thanks to everyone else on here too. I don't even know where to start. I feel like I am being given an ultimatum to be more intimate or we split/he goes off with someone else. Nice. He has an issue with the fact that I am a strong woman who is independent. Well I was when we met. I really think he needs to feel like the alpha in the house.
We are off on holiday on Monday. Looking forward to that- not! Anyway I am not blameless here. I can be a real bitch and I can be cold. I owe it to the 13 years we have been together and our two kids to really try and work on that. We have been here before many times but I never really put much effort in so its worth trying.
Bit of a sad post from me the shit has hit the fan in our household with hubby telling me how unhappy he is. Thinks I can't give him the love, affection and intimacy that he wants. Basically told me that he is only with me because we have two kids as if we split, I would head north with them ( I couldn't live down here on my own, would want to be with family). Feeling very shitty and tearful. A huge part of me wants to work at it as I love him and another part thinks its hopeless as this issue just keeps coming back.
CM - defo agree with MR about the running. I used to go out running at lunch and do without a shower (nice I know, but needs must). I took a pack of wipes and it seemed to be ok. Even if you can only get out for 20 mins, you will feel fitter, better and hopefully it will make work a little less stressful. You just need to be mega organised and have stuff laid out ready. I sometimes had my running stuff on under my work stuff so i could just peel off a dress and go.