I'm not joking but I do look at most things from different angles, you're right Scream I am happily married with grown up kids and I have to say I'm a very contented person,
I think some of that is down to the fact I always look inwardly at every situation to see what I could change about me to try to change the overall situation. I know I can change me, whereas I accept I can never rely on changing others.
Anything that makes us think about our effects on those around us is a good thing. I assume most want to have a positive effect so it's a good thing. I also agree with the comment earlier people have to want to change from within, and it's good to see how refusal to see the need for change means the depressed person can actually drag down those around them.